Choosing a Romantic Partner

It is mistaken to hold that keeping all romantic options open cannot be bad, as you can always select the best. There is a cost to this and too much of a good thing can be harmful.

Establishing Love With an Imperfect Partner

The prevailing ideal of a perfect love is a major obstacle for establishing enduring, profound love.

I Love Him Most of the Time

Lively’s claim that she loves Reynolds most of the time runs counter to the nature of profound love. She probably desires him sexually most of the time, but loves him all the time.

Yearning for the Romantic Road Not Taken

In “The Road Not Taken,” Frost refers to “the road less traveled” and “the road not taken.” Are the two notions identical? How does this distinction relate to the romantic realm?

Nobody Does It Better

Humor, which clashes with the intensity of romantic love, can be valuable in romance. Is humor always good in love? Is it useful for seduction? Should we tell jokes during sex?

“Only You” or “I've Two Lovers, and I Love Them Both"?

Emotional partiality and diversity are essential to romantic love. However, they appear to conflict with each other. Which one has a greater romantic value?

How to Choose a Long-Term Romantic Partner

There are probably “50 ways to leave your lover,” but far fewer ways to choose the one who will stay with you for the long term.

Do Only Dead Fish Swim With the Stream?

Many people's long-term romantic behavior is similar to dead fish floating with the current, slowly drifting with the stream. Is such behavior damaging? Not always, it would seen.

Can Punctuality Ruin Love?

There are good reasons for considering punctuality to be a virtue. Is it also a romantic virtue? There are reasons to think it is not.

Why We Put Relationships On Hold

We hate to let go of alluring romantic options, so we sometimes put people on hold, awaiting a better moment. Is this proper behavior?

Is Mild Love the New Exciting Romance?

Ideal love is depicted as a very passionate experience. Yet mild love seems a better indicator of enduring love. Can we admit our mild love without insulting our partners?

Giving Your Heart and Selling Your Soul

It seems that when love is not all you need, it is unthinkable to give your soul.

Women’s Right to Say YES to Sexuality

Women’s sexual right to say “yes” should be respected, including their right to freely shape their sexual performances, without incurring any social or emotional censure.

The Virtues of Sexual Generosity in Relationships

Generosity is very valuable for our well-being and health. Is this also true for sexual generosity?

Does Loving Longer Mean Loving More?

Loving longer is associated with lower romantic intensity, but it is also related to profound love. Does loving longer increase or decrease love? It all depends on what love is.

The Role of 'One-Sided Sex' in Relationships

Peace-inducing sex is one-sided sex intended to maintain industrial peace within one’s relationship. Is it beneficial? Yes and no.

Why Was Kennedy’s Love-Making Always Very Brief?

Choosing a romantic partner is a tricky business. A common questionable criterion for doing so—to aim high—often confuses the best person with the most suitable partner.

Is Tact Useful in Romantic Love?

Tact is a virtue that is commonly praised and rarely practiced, especially in our current society. Is tact valuable in sex and romantic love? How can we nurture tact?

Is the Love You Take Always Equal to the Love You Make?

Are equality and reciprocity essential to romantic relations, as is commonly assumed? The surprising answer is negative: they are not necessary, not always, and not every kind.

Living Single...With Your Partner

Should lovers be fused to each other, or should they have personal space? Two popular relationships, living-apart-together and being single-with-someone, offer different answers.

Why Try to Change Me Now?

It is commonly assumed that we love someone even though we know his flaws—as love is essentially not about the partner’s characteristics, but about the lover’s attitude.

Is Online Dating a Good Way to Find Profound Love?

It is commonly agreed that online dating provides people with a larger pool of romantic candidates. However, it is not certain whether online dating is a better way to find long-term profound love than conventional offline dating is. This article suggests an answer to this question.

Three Paradoxical Ways for Coping With Romantic Abundance

Romantic love is often characterized as involving a great deal of sensitivity, excitement, and closeness. However, our cyber society often provides an overabundance of these features. Hence, a few opposite principles are proposed: (a) Indifference is the new romantic sensitivity; (b) Calmness is the new romantic excitement; and (c) Distance is the new romantic closeness.

Why Nothing Is More Exciting for Romance Than Calm

Romantic love is usually associated with excitement. Love can be like this, but in our current accelerated society, calmness is the new romantic excitement.

Are We Doomed to Fail in Love?

Hedonic adaptation and feeling dissatisfied are two major tendencies that prevent us from being too happy. Do they also prevent us from being too much in love? Are we doomed to fail in love, just as we are generally fated not to be very happy?

Do Alzheimer's Patients Have the Right to Say Yes to Sex?

The right to love is considered to be an essential human right; however, one exception that often prevails is in cases of Alzheimer’s patients. The case of Henry Rayhons, who was charged with sexually abusing his wife Donna, is such a striking example; Can people who are unable to recognize their own children give their sound sexual consent?

Can There Be Too Much Romantic Sensitivity?

Sensitivity is often praised as one of the most important pillars of a good romantic relationship. Although this is indeed the case, too much romantic sensitivity can overburden a relationship. How then can we find the optimal balance of sensitivity in the complex romantic realm?

How Much Distance Can Your Relationship Tolerate?

Being physically close to your lover is central to romantic love. Indeed, temporal and geographical closeness typically increases emotional closeness, and this often makes distance seem intolerable. Some kind of distance, however, must remain even between two lovers. What is the nature of such distance, and is it indeed intolerable?

Should We Fan the Romantic Flame?

All human experiences, including romantic ones, can be boring. The remedy for boredom is often change and novelty. Should we then change our romantic partners in order to fan our romantic flames? Although change is indeed essential to emotional intensity, there are several types of changes, and emotional intensity is far from being the whole story when it comes to romance.

Is Curiosity Good for Your Relationship?

Curiosity is usually regarded as a virtue, since it widens our horizons and develops our capacities. However, our natural romantic curiosity is contrary to the natural need to deepen the romantic connection. Distinguishing between two types of romantic curiosity may solve this enigma.

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