Is Mild Love the New Exciting Romance?

Ideal love is depicted as a very passionate experience. Yet mild love seems a better indicator of enduring love. Can we admit our mild love without insulting our partners?

Giving Your Heart and Selling Your Soul

It seems that when love is not all you need, it is unthinkable to give your soul.

Women’s Right to Say YES to Sexuality

Women’s sexual right to say “yes” should be respected, including their right to freely shape their sexual performances, without incurring any social or emotional censure.

The Virtues of Sexual Generosity in Relationships

Generosity is very valuable for our well-being and health. Is this also true for sexual generosity?

Does Loving Longer Mean Loving More?

Loving longer is associated with lower romantic intensity, but it is also related to profound love. Does loving longer increase or decrease love? It all depends on what love is.

The Role of 'One-Sided Sex' in Relationships

Peace-inducing sex is one-sided sex intended to maintain industrial peace within one’s relationship. Is it beneficial? Yes and no.

Why Was Kennedy’s Love-Making Always Very Brief?

Choosing a romantic partner is a tricky business. A common questionable criterion for doing so—to aim high—often confuses the best person with the most suitable partner.

Is Tact Useful in Romantic Love?

Tact is a virtue that is commonly praised and rarely practiced, especially in our current society. Is tact valuable in sex and romantic love? How can we nurture tact?

Is the Love You Take Always Equal to the Love You Make?

Are equality and reciprocity essential to romantic relations, as is commonly assumed? The surprising answer is negative: they are not necessary, not always, and not every kind.

Living Single...With Your Partner

Should lovers be fused to each other, or should they have personal space? Two popular relationships, living-apart-together and being single-with-someone, offer different answers.

Why Try to Change Me Now?

It is commonly assumed that we love someone even though we know his flaws—as love is essentially not about the partner’s characteristics, but about the lover’s attitude.

Is Online Dating a Good Way to Find Profound Love?

It is commonly agreed that online dating provides people with a larger pool of romantic candidates. However, it is not certain whether online dating is a better way to find long-term profound love than conventional offline dating is. This article suggests an answer to this question.

Three Paradoxical Ways for Coping With Romantic Abundance

Romantic love is often characterized as involving a great deal of sensitivity, excitement, and closeness. However, our cyber society often provides an overabundance of these features. Hence, a few opposite principles are proposed: (a) Indifference is the new romantic sensitivity; (b) Calmness is the new romantic excitement; and (c) Distance is the new romantic closeness.

Why Nothing Is More Exciting for Romance Than Calm

Romantic love is usually associated with excitement. Love can be like this, but in our current accelerated society, calmness is the new romantic excitement.

Are We Doomed to Fail in Love?

Hedonic adaptation and feeling dissatisfied are two major tendencies that prevent us from being too happy. Do they also prevent us from being too much in love? Are we doomed to fail in love, just as we are generally fated not to be very happy?

Do Alzheimer's Patients Have the Right to Say Yes to Sex?

The right to love is considered to be an essential human right; however, one exception that often prevails is in cases of Alzheimer’s patients. The case of Henry Rayhons, who was charged with sexually abusing his wife Donna, is such a striking example; Can people who are unable to recognize their own children give their sound sexual consent?

Can There Be Too Much Romantic Sensitivity?

Sensitivity is often praised as one of the most important pillars of a good romantic relationship. Although this is indeed the case, too much romantic sensitivity can overburden a relationship. How then can we find the optimal balance of sensitivity in the complex romantic realm?

How Much Distance Can Your Relationship Tolerate?

Being physically close to your lover is central to romantic love. Indeed, temporal and geographical closeness typically increases emotional closeness, and this often makes distance seem intolerable. Some kind of distance, however, must remain even between two lovers. What is the nature of such distance, and is it indeed intolerable?

Should We Fan the Romantic Flame?

All human experiences, including romantic ones, can be boring. The remedy for boredom is often change and novelty. Should we then change our romantic partners in order to fan our romantic flames? Although change is indeed essential to emotional intensity, there are several types of changes, and emotional intensity is far from being the whole story when it comes to romance.

Is Curiosity Good for Your Relationship?

Curiosity is usually regarded as a virtue, since it widens our horizons and develops our capacities. However, our natural romantic curiosity is contrary to the natural need to deepen the romantic connection. Distinguishing between two types of romantic curiosity may solve this enigma.

When Should You Say 'I Love You'?

Hearing your partner say "I love you" is regarded as one of the highlights of a romantic relationship. However, people are often uncertain about when to declare their love.

Timing Is Not Everything

Many people have claimed that timing is everything in life and love. I believe that timing, which is mainly a one-off task, is valuable in bringing two people together; however, time, rather than timing, is more essential in maintaining and enhancing profound love.

Do You Take Your Relationship for Granted? Congratulations!

People are often advised not to take their romantic partners for granted; this advice is wrong when love is profound and trust prevails.

Why Do (Some) Men Murder the Wives They Love?

About 40 percent of all female murder victims die at the hands of a former or present male partner. Nearly all male murderers claim that (a) they committed the murder out of love, and (b) it was a result of loving too much. I believe we should accept (a) and reject (b).

Living Apart Together

Loneliness, which is a major epidemic in our society, is also an acute problem in romantic relationships. Although people enjoy an abundance of romantic options, most of them still feel lonely. How is such a paradox possible?

I'm in Love With a Criminal

If love consists of a comprehensive positive evaluation of the beloved, how can we love a criminal? Do we romantically love only good people? How important is the moral character of the partner? Is Britney Spears really in love? These questions have no easy answers.

How We Choose Romantic Partners, and How We Can Do It Better

One aspect in choosing a romantic partner is the weight we give to bad and good qualities. Although we tend to focus more on the partner's bad qualities at the stage of choosing a partner, it seems that in the long run, good qualities become more important and eventually outweigh the bad qualities.

You're Getting to Be a Habit With Me

The tendencies both to adapt to a stable, average level of happiness and to feel dissatisfied are central in romance. Such tendencies underlie romantic compromises and enable people to live at an average degree of romantic intensity, and to maintain their love while their circumstances of life are reasonable. So why are these tendencies so often subject to criticism?

Can Romantic Love Be Calm and Dynamic?

Emotions are typically associated with great dynamic excitement; conversely, calmness is usually regarded as passive and unemotional. However, I claim that at the basis of profound love there is calm, dynamic excitement. Is such a combination possible?

I Want to Know Where Love Is

The issue of which bodily organ underlies romantic experiences is no longer in dispute today: We know that it is the brain, rather than the heart. An interesting twist in this dispute is the recently popular view that love is not located within the individual's body, but resides within the connections between the two lovers. Does this view make sense?

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