6 Ways to Re-new and Re-balance Your Life

Spring is a time of new beginnings and growth. Following the season as an example, we can reassess our lives, make change, start new projects,and begin again.

How to Not Pass Along Our "Stuff" to Our Children

We go through life dealing with our own anxieties, neuroses, issues, and problems.What happens when we don't fully deal with our own issues? Do our children "inherit" them from us?

Get Back to Where You Once Belonged

Our whole life has been spent living and interacting with other people. When do we finally get a chance to return home to ourselves and reconnect with our core self once more?

Who Is NOT a Replacement Child

The word "replacement" to describe a child that takes the place of another often evokes negative feelings and anger. This blog clarifies who qualifies as an RC and who does not.

5 Benefits of Stepping Outside Your Comfort Zone

We all have a comfort zone---that which is familiar and certain. But it's essential to step outside this zone and deal with life in order to grow, transition, and transform.

7 Tips to Create Healthy Boundaries with Others

Healthy boundaries help you form and maintain healthy relationships. Knowing what you need, what personal space is yours helps to to prevent unwanted overtures and violations of what you consider personally sacred.

When the Best You Can Be is Not Good Enough

There are specific times in our lives when we don't feel like we're good enough. But the challenges for a person raised to feel "not good enough" most of the time is a daunting one. Where do these internal messages come from, how are they generated, and what can we do to learn that we are indeed enough, just the way we are.

Famous Replacement Children

The replacement child is the product of many factors including unresolved parental grief, survivor guilt, and the search for an identity of their own apart from a deceased sibling. However, their special gifts and talents may set famous replacement children apart, helping them to creatively forge their own unique identity.

11 Ways Rituals Help Us Celebrate Our Lives

Rituals as we know them have the ability to move us into our spiritual lives. But personally created and performed rituals and ceremonies have the power to give us the freedom to take real responsibility for how we choose to live and help to create a unique individual and meaningful existence.

9 Secrets Happy People Already Know

Some people seem to be happier than others—more positive, more forward-looking, more willing to take risks and meet life. Is there a secret to finding happiness or is it available to all of us, if only we look in the right places?

Making Every Day Count

We spend so much time planning way ahead for our future. Yet, all we can ever be sure of is the day in which we find ourselves. This article is a reminder to honor each day and night of every day you are given.

The Importance of Learning How to Make Decisions

Decision-making and problem-solving are such essential skills for managing and living life. So how come so many people by the time they're adults don't have a clue or a plan about what to do when confronted with change, choices, and decisions? Here are some suggestions about how to cultivate good decision-making for our children and for ourselves.

How to Prepare for Life Changes

Change is inevitable. Sometimes change comes about that we need to respond to and this may require putting our own plans on hold. Sometimes we decide that we need to change course in our lives because what we had been doing is not working for us. Here are some basic points and tools to help us prepare for change.

10 Signs That You're In a Healthy Relationship

Relationship usually begin with romance and sex being upfront and center. But what really sustains a relationship? Here are some points to keep in mind while you're working on creating that special partnership.

Addiction Speaks

Addiction comes in many shapes and forms. Not all addictions are alike in their severity and duration. Even those addictions that are less severe and less life-threatening can hold us in its clutches for years on end. This entry includes a letter written to Veronica by her "addict self." What emerges from our own depths and from our own will to heal is often poignant.

The Shape of Your life

More than the straight line, moving from point A to point B, or the circle representing a completion, our lives more specifically follow the course of the spiral. This movement allows us to move up and down, from left to right, & is never fixed or permanent. As with the shape of the spiral, we have a chance to see our progress through each successive winding.

The First Time

From the moment we are born we will all go through a series of first time events. How we experience them will depend upon many things, but especially how we are raised and how we think and feel about ourselves. Here are 7 points to consider to enhance your first time experiences.

Expanding Consciousness

Meditation is a tool to help us leave the conscious life behind and go in search of those things deep within our consciousness. Imagery helps us break down the linear, logical barriers created by our thoughts so that we may go beyond our limitations to places unknown and untapped.

The Importance of Being Alone

Being alone is often thought of as a negative state of being---that there is something wrong or defective when you are by yourself. Nothing could be further from the truth which is that you need to be alone to truly come to know yourself and what is best for you.

Are You a Replacement Child?

The replacement child is a phenomenon known through early clinical papers but not well recognized in the mainstream. Many people know they are replacement children from early on while others only come to recognize themselves as such as life unfolds. Understanding the unique phenomenon of the RC may lead to better resolution for the individual.

How to Stop Taking Things Personally

Relationships are complicated. Ideally, we strive for healthy, fulfilling interactions with others where there is mutual respect and genuine caring. Some relationships however, challenge us and make us question ourselves. Learning how to identify difficult interactions will help us to navigate through them and to find what we need to live our own authentic life.

10 Relationship Red Flags

Most of us will be involved in at least a few intimate relationships during our lifetime. Often, we have little to no expereince about what to expect and what to hope for. Often, it is our needs that dictates what we want to get out of a relationship. Often, we're willing to settle for or accept what is not in our best interest. These 10 points may help you.

6 Ways to Take Control

There are times in our life when we don't know what to do or where to go. We may believe that someone else knows best for us what we need to do. But beware the seduction of the siren's call---when people try to take charge of your life for their own ends, to fit their own agenda. Here are some things to be aware of that may help you get your life back.

5 Ways to Create Family Traditions

Family traditions keep us connected to those closest to us. Family traditions strengthen family bonds, teach values, connect us throughout a lifetime, and help mold our individual as well as our family identity.

Becoming a Mother

Mother is a role assigned to women the moment they give birth. And in fact, they do become someone's mother. But the real "mothering" develops over time as a woman learns who her child is and how to best nurture and teach that child.

Creating a Road Map for Your Life

While we understand change and transition and have gone through many of these during the course of our lives, why do we often feel that we don't have control over what happens to us? What are we not seeing about our past experiences that could help us in understanding and navigating change and transition moving forward?

Where Are You, Walter Cronkite?

Whatever happened to reporting the news as opposed to creating or manipulating the news? Is the media creating our reality? What about practicing decency and respect when it comes to bringing someone's story and/or personal tragedy to the public?

I Wish I Had Asked

Don't wait to learn everything you want to know about your family history and your ancestors. Gather the stories, customs, and traditions of your family while your elders are alive.

The Belief Inventory

The Belief Inventory will help you clarify what you believe and help you to change what you believe if what you believe no longer suits you. Too often we hang on to outdated beliefs that are no longer suitable for where we are in our lives. You can always alter the course your life takes by changing your beliefs and their accompanying feelings and behaviors.

When Someone You Love Changes and Forgets to Tell You

Sometimes the people we love become strangers to us. We may wonder how things got so bad without our knowing about it. But the truth is that many of us don't understand that relationships change over time just as the individuals within that relationship do. Learning how to make time and listen to each helps keep the relationship in the present.