How a Yabut Can Kill a Conversation

Nothing sucks the blood out a great idea faster than the dreaded "Yabut." Yabuts need to feel in control and by adding the word "but" they discount everything leading up to it.

Bonding Is Essential for Every Infant

Forty percent of all newborns do not adequately bond with their caregivers, partly because a third of parents do not know how to form a meaningful attachment with an infant.

Could the Seasons Affect Your Mood?

Seasonal Affective Disorder is a type of depression that occurs during the same season each year, thought to be caused by a lack of sunlight that may upset your biological clock.

Why Men Harass Women and the Impact on the Victims

Dominance, not desire, is on the mind of men who sexually harass. They feel entitled to objectify, and the media needs to give equal time to the victims.

Why Is It Important to Have Personal Boundaries?

Boundaries are our guidelines for what you will and won’t accept in a relationship. They show people how to treat you and what to expect from you.

Depression and Mood Disorders

Most of us have learned to cope with mood swings but at any one time almost 10 percent of the U.S. adult population experience depression. Look for the signs and seek help.

Counseling a Person With a Multiple Personality Disorder

Dissociation is a coping mechanism. A person literally dissociates himself from a situation that's too violent, traumatic or painful to assimilate with his conscious self.

I'm Not In The Mood

We all wake up to a new day. The question is, will our mood for the day control how the day goes or do we control the mood. What will be your mood for the day? Happy or grumpy?

Could the Seasons Affect Your Mood?

Seasonal Affective Disorder is a type of depression that occurs during the same season each year thought to be caused by the lack of sunlight that may upset your biological clock.

How We Handle Stress Predicts How Well We Age

Researchers view stress — how much we face and how well we cope with it — as the most significant factors for predicting how well we age.

Memories From a One-Room Country School

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to go to a school with all eight grades under one roof with no electricity or phone and where everyone drank from same dipper?

The Story of the Dipper and the Bucket

Our fast paced lives leave limited opportunities to touch lives. The story of the dipper and the bucket presents a way to raise other people's sense of worth and raise our own.

We Can Often See the Reflection of Our Narcissistic Side

Do external affirmations seem not to exist? Do you want to brag about yourself but you know you ought not? How do you build self-confidence without being narcissistic?

Counseling with Visual Metaphors

We are bombarded with visual metaphors on television every day. Clients use metaphors to understand their dilemmas and plan strategies for change.

Helping the Terminally Ill

People with a terminal illness face the most lonely and fearful time of their lives. A Palliative Care team provides comfort and optimizes quality of life during this trying time.

Grief Following Sudden Death of a Loved One

The sudden death of a child creates disbelief, shock, sadness, anger and guilt. The shock can be so great the siblings can become the "Forgotten Mourners."

The Story Of One Sexually Abused Girl

Far too many adults carry feelings of guilt and shame left by childhood sexual abuse. Therapy can help alleviate the pain but major efforts need to be spent on prevention.

Why Do Siblings Have Different Memories of Growing Up?

Have you ever noticed siblings remember things differently? Partly because we each experienced a different family. We need to accept our different perceptions and each other.

Do We Discover Meaning to Life or Do We Create It

Many people go through life on a headlong frenzy to find the one thing that will give meaning to their lives. Discover meaningful relationships in the "rest areas" of our lives.

Things That Matter to an Amputee

Have you ever wondered what it is like to have a limb amputated? The first challenge is accepting a new image followed by a psychological acceptance of yourself as adequate.

Tuning In To a Friends Feelings Is Not As Simple As It Looks

Does it seem that your feelings are unimportant? Are people only interested in the facts of your story and ignore any feelings you may have about the events that took place?

Generational Boundaries

Generational boundaries are there to insure parents stay in their role of protector and provider so children can grow and learn and never need to be the parent.

How to Create a Set of Family Boundaries

What would we do if the borders (boundaries) on our maps changed without anyone telling us. If the same thing happened to our family boundaries we would also be lost.

Are You an Optimist or a Pessimist?

Did you know that optimists are healthier, have happier relationships, get less depressed, are more successful, make more money, and are healthier than pessimists?

Attend Your Own Funeral and Find Meaning in Your Life

Few people have had the opportunity of being a protagonist in a psychodrama. This blog allows the reader to double for a 45-year-old man who speaks to himself from the grave.

Psychodrama: Counseling in the Third Dimension

Psychodrama uses the technique of role reversal that allows one person to view the world through the eyes of another. I will explain how different it from role-playing.

What to Consider When Looking for a Counselor

Many of us consider seeking professional help for personal concerns but resist because we are afraid to risk sharing our personal life with someone. Following these steps help.

How to Meet and Confer With Your Child

When was the last time you embraced your adult child and told him or her they are loved? Do they know you respect them and hold them in high regard? Do you listen for feelings?

How Has Shame Influenced Your Life?

Do you recall someone telling you "you should be ashamed of yourself." Have you continued to "shame on yourself?" How will you let go of your false notions of shame?