Ordinary Joy

We know that emotions contribute to how healthy we are. But do we pay attention to the fact that emotions also change how effective our actions are?

Cultivating Curiosity

Every encounter we have with life changes us. In the midst of this ongoing change, what does it take to receive ourselves with an open heart?

What's Wrong With Getting It Right?

What ever happened to doing something well?

The Kindest Choice

Letting go is very hard to do. We want to cling to what we know. There is away to approach letting go that makes it easier and brings us countless possibilities.

A Response to Loss

The chemistry of our connection

Being Wary of Our Expectations

Expectations organize our lives, help us forecast likely outcomes and prioritize and budget our time and resources but can they cause us harm?

Making Categories

When we don’t know that our brains make categories and don’t understand how we measure whether or not something or someone fits into our categories, we run the risk of misjudging what we are encountering.

The Power of Imagery

The imagination that we delighted in as children is a tool we can use in surprising ways.

Making a Difference

We might sit and dream that if only this accident or illness had not happened to us, we could be somebody useful or important. We might say we were no longer sufficient to do something truly worthwhile.

Trusting Each Other

What happens when we examine the way trust works? Trust requires a relationship between two people and all relationships are complex.

More Than 100 Percent

Our lives are not static. We don't stop growing because we are injured or we experience a loss.

Good Intentions?

The person we spend the most time with is our self. What we wish for ourselves plays out in every moment of our lives, 24/7 awake and asleep.

One Thing Leads to Another

When we look at the year just passed and face the results of the choices we have made, positive or negative, we may find that we are not so pleased with what we see.

Seasonal Suffering: The Sting of Expectations

Our expectations of what is true and what will be true are the product of the stories we create about our lives. They are not the same as what is actually happening.

Habits of Mind: The Flavors of Our Experience

Our experience is simply a group of sensations until we filter our experience through one of our habits of mind. Then it acquires a flavor.

Anxiety: A Modern Plague

What are major causes of this plague and what can we do about them? Most of us experience significant anxiety at one point or another in our lives.

The Benefits of Restraint

We may think of restraint as some desperate force holding back the flood of greed, but no force is necessary, only practice. Restraint is a practice our bodies already know.

Preparing for Adversity

All of us are artists in one way or another, creatively responding to life's demands. Like any other activity or skill, though, the more we acknowledge our art and intentionally practice it, the more the practice becomes a part of us.

Learning With Our Friends: The Zone of Proximal Development

We don't suddenly acquire a body of knowledge and the skills necessary to implement that knowledge. All of us routinely use the energy and skills of another person to help us learn and we have done so all our lives. We learned this way as children and we learn this way as adults.

Possessed by Possessions

Owning things can add to our freedom of movement and our freedom of choice, allowing us to do things and go places we might not otherwise be able to do or go. But owning things also requires using our attention, our time, our energy and our resources just to keep up with them.

Romance and Marriage After 60

There is something fascinating about the later romances and marriages I am witnessing. They are happening to people who have made a deliberate effort to live out their personal sense of what is meaningful, bringing to life their particular gifts, often taking a risk to do so

The Spaces We Create: What They Can Teach Us

A large part of how we know ourselves is in relationship to the places we inhabit and the way in which we inhabit them. We shape our homes and places of work and our spaces shape us and influence our sense of who we are.

Having Fun - We Are Designed For It

Having fun is not a response that needs to be directed by anyone else, it's a life-long part of what we are and do - our birthright as human beings. Our minds, bodies and spirits are made to delight in being alive.

Protecting Ourselves Against Abuse When We Are Vulnerable

People abuse other people. We might not want to think that someone will abuse us when we are vulnerable but it happens all the time.

Getting Out of the Way: The Balance Between Homeostasis and Growth

There is a constant dynamic tension between homeostasis and creative change. Too much change at once can disrupt internal balance. Too little change can lead to stagnation. With the media impact of constant stories of disasters and difficulties, we may develop a habitual tendency to focus on homeostasis, pulling back from creative change.

Love, Wholeness and the Nature of Change

Who we are and who we are becoming are not dependent on whether or not our bodies can do all the things that are possible for a body to do. Our uniqueness, our individual wholeness, is inherent in each of us. 

Determining To Be Generous – a Teaching in Two Parts

Recently I received a wonderful two-part teaching. In the evening I heard a lovely talk about a Buddhist view of generosity. In the morning I witnessed the teaching in action.

Compromise: Is there an Alternative?

It all starts with the notion that what I perceive to be "true" is both real and complete - as if I had the smallest chance of knowing all there is to know about life.

Traveling

There is so much to focus upon to get through the increasingly difficult task of maneuvering our way through airport parking lot buses, terminals, baggage handling, security check points, gates and planes, that we may forget the person in front us is doing the best that she or he can.

The Art of the Small Goal

Focusing only on a long range intended result may both frustrate and discourage us and may take our attention away from what we need to do.

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