How to Manage Your Feelings Successfully

The key to managing our feelings is to be able to hold onto them, think about them, and use them to guide us into a more rich and meaningful life. We are most fortunate if we have someone who is capable of doing this for us and willing to help us learn to do it for ourselves.

Getting Rid of Your Feelings: Does It Help?

Because feelings can be so overwhelming, we often have the misconception that the best way to deal with them is to get rid of them. We imagine that life would be so much easier if we could just shut them down entirely and for good.

What Should I Look For in a Therapist?

How to tell if you are somewhere safe with somebody good

Anne Lamott, Blogging, and Psychotherapy

What do Anne Lamott, blogging, and psychotherapy have in common? Find out here.

New Year, New You!

What resolutions will you make in the new year?

7 Strategies to Face Life's Challenges

In our personal lives as well as on a global scale, we face challenges that test our emotional mettle: injury, illness, unemployment, grief, divorce, death, or even a new venture with an unknown future. Here are seven strategies to help carry us through.

Are You Looking for Change In All the Wrong Places?

Let me help you learn to look inside and walk in the dark

National Psychotherapy Day: Therapy Helps

I recognize that my profession sometimes has a questionable reputation, and I am trying to do my part to help restore its good name.

No Limelight Here: Good Quality Psychotherapy Is Humble Work

The work of tending the mind, heart, and soul of another turns out to be a lot like the humble act of washing someone’s feet.

The Challenges of Mental illness, Addiction, and Celebrity

As we process our reactions to the upsetting news about Robin Williams' suicide, we have an opportunity to learn something about ourselves, our brothers and sisters, and the challenges of mental illness, addiction, and celebrity.

Do You Want to Understand the Mysteries of the Unconscious?

Is anyone really interested in what psychoanalysts have to say?

Nobody is Perfect

No one is perfect, no one has it all. And, even if we could be perfect, it wouldn’t get us to where we really want to go.

How to Gain Strength Through Difficult Experiences

A strong mind can only be developed in the crucible of challenging experiences.

The Secret Ingredients to Lasting Change

Fundamentally, we seek psychotherapy because we want to change. We need help from an expert because, frankly, the change project isn't that easy.

How to Break Repetitive Cycles

You have the power to say, This is NOT how my story will end.

No Pain, No Gain

In her exercise videos, Jane Fonda made the phrase famous. “No pain, no gain.” This idea captures a core truth in psychotherapy—so much so that Sigmund might have said it himself!

How to Tame Your Envy

The best way to defuse the power of envy is to recognize that it is in us, not just in the other guy.

Feel Better, Do Better, and Be Better

Three goals that we all might seek to achieve in our psychological journey.

What's the Couch Got to Do With It?

When people ask me about my actual psychoanalytic practice—or even about my own analysis as a patient—they often ask incredulously, “People still lie down on the couch? Really? You’ve got to be kidding!”

Is Psychoanalysis Right for Me?

Psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott said it best: Psychoanalysis is for those who want it, need it, and can take it.

Is Psychoanalysis Dead Or Alive? Part One

As a practicing psychoanalyst and a true believer, I wish I could make an open-and-shut case that psychoanalysis is very much alive in 2014. But that would not be the whole story.

What Is Psychoanalysis?

Often when people think of psychoanalysis, they picture Freud smoking a cigar and scratching his white beard. Here's a post that breaks the stereotypes and reveals the facts about psychoanalysis today.

Why Psychoanalysis? Series Introduction

I’m about to embark on a series of posts to address an important question that is frequently being raised in my circles lately: why psychoanalysis?

How To Make A Mountain Out Of A Molehill

If we study the mountainous molehills of our lives carefully, sometimes we can find where the dirt really comes from. With that understanding, life can become a lot easier to deal with. And, ultimately, that’s what therapy is all about.

Why Grow Up?

If we didn't have to grow up, why would we want to?

Got Success? Or Failure?

Just as a cigar is more than just a cigar, our successes are more than just successes. So it is with our failures. They are opportunities to grow.

Some Assembly Required

This is an unexpected, category-busting hybrid of a book. It is a memoir with brains and a self-help book with heart. It is a book about the complex relationship between chronic pain and addiction, the agonizing freefall that comes when chronic pain is both the illness in need of treatment and the agonist of the greedy monster of addiction.

Does 'No' Ever Mean 'Yes? How to Choose Wisely

We know that it is a good thing to be able to take “no” for an answer. We know that, when it comes to sex, “No means no.” Even Jesus advises us to keep our word simple and clear, “Let your no be no, and your yes be yes.” So why do I say that every yes is also a no, and every no is also a yes?

It's Spring: A Time for Courage, Growth, and Change

As a psychotherapist, I often find myself trying to help others see the “spring” in their own lives.

A Psychoanalytic Look at ‘The Master’

How does someone become vulnerable to a cult-leader like The Master? And, what leads another to become The Master—taking such absolute, omniscient, and sadistic control over other people’s minds? What’s in it for him?