How to Navigate the Perils of Creative Success

The case for magic, fairies, and gratitude

Will Psychoanalysis Evolve with a Changing World?

Psychoanalysis purports to be all about change. But will psychoanalysis keep up with a changing world?

You Have an Inner World: So What?

From Pixar’s recently released animated film Inside Out to the Netflix original series Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, the idea that we each have a lively, complex emotional inner world is hot, hot, hot! But does it really matter?

How Does Psychotherapy Really Work? It’s Not What You Think

From an outsider’s perspective, there are all sorts of ideas about how the so-called “talking cure” works—most of them are not true.

How to Be a Good Enough Mother

Good enough is as good as it gets when it comes to mothering—and it is as good as it needs to be.

Bouncing Back Instead of Falling Down

Are the keys to your life in someone else's pocket from the past or in your own today?

Lessons From the Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt

Do you live by the philosophy of Outside-In or Inside-Out? Love or hate the show, there’s some first rate psychological wisdom in it.

Why Be Ordinary?

Because you don't win a gold medal by trying to win a gold medal.

The Ordinary Hero's Journey: Part I

You may be wondering why a psychoanalyst is writing about the hero’s journey—isn’t that the domain of Joseph Campbell, the stuff of mythology, religion, literature, and History channel documentaries? Well, the reason is simple.

How to Manage Your Feelings Successfully

The key to managing our feelings is to be able to hold onto them, think about them, and use them to guide us into a more rich and meaningful life. We are most fortunate if we have someone who is capable of doing this for us and willing to help us learn to do it for ourselves.

Getting Rid of Your Feelings: Does It Help?

Because feelings can be so overwhelming, we often have the misconception that the best way to deal with them is to get rid of them. We imagine that life would be so much easier if we could just shut them down entirely and for good.

What Should I Look For in a Therapist?

How to tell if you are somewhere safe with somebody good

Anne Lamott, Blogging, and Psychotherapy

What do Anne Lamott, blogging, and psychotherapy have in common? Find out here.

New Year, New You!

What resolutions will you make in the new year?

7 Strategies to Face Life's Challenges

In our personal lives as well as on a global scale, we face challenges that test our emotional mettle: injury, illness, unemployment, grief, divorce, death, or even a new venture with an unknown future. Here are seven strategies to help carry us through.

Are You Looking for Change In All the Wrong Places?

Let me help you learn to look inside and walk in the dark

National Psychotherapy Day: Therapy Helps

I recognize that my profession sometimes has a questionable reputation, and I am trying to do my part to help restore its good name.

No Limelight Here: Good Quality Psychotherapy Is Humble Work

The work of tending the mind, heart, and soul of another turns out to be a lot like the humble act of washing someone’s feet.

The Challenges of Mental illness, Addiction, and Celebrity

As we process our reactions to the upsetting news about Robin Williams' suicide, we have an opportunity to learn something about ourselves, our brothers and sisters, and the challenges of mental illness, addiction, and celebrity.

Do You Want to Understand the Mysteries of the Unconscious?

Is anyone really interested in what psychoanalysts have to say?

Nobody is Perfect

No one is perfect, no one has it all. And, even if we could be perfect, it wouldn’t get us to where we really want to go.

How to Gain Strength Through Difficult Experiences

A strong mind can only be developed in the crucible of challenging experiences.

The Secret Ingredients to Lasting Change

Fundamentally, we seek psychotherapy because we want to change. We need help from an expert because, frankly, the change project isn't that easy.

How to Break Repetitive Cycles

You have the power to say, This is NOT how my story will end.

No Pain, No Gain

In her exercise videos, Jane Fonda made the phrase famous. “No pain, no gain.” This idea captures a core truth in psychotherapy—so much so that Sigmund might have said it himself!

How to Tame Your Envy

The best way to defuse the power of envy is to recognize that it is in us, not just in the other guy.

Feel Better, Do Better, and Be Better

Three goals that we all might seek to achieve in our psychological journey.

What's the Couch Got to Do With It?

When people ask me about my actual psychoanalytic practice—or even about my own analysis as a patient—they often ask incredulously, “People still lie down on the couch? Really? You’ve got to be kidding!”

Is Psychoanalysis Right for Me?

Psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott said it best: Psychoanalysis is for those who want it, need it, and can take it.

Is Psychoanalysis Dead Or Alive? Part One

As a practicing psychoanalyst and a true believer, I wish I could make an open-and-shut case that psychoanalysis is very much alive in 2014. But that would not be the whole story.