How NOT to Raise a Narcissist

Narcissism is more than believing “I’m great!”; it’s believing “I’m better and more important than you!” Here's how NOT to raise a narcissistic child.

Are You a Distracted Parent?

We live in a technology-saturated time. Our smart phones and tablets are useful and very compelling, but there’s no question that they can pull us away from being present to our children. On the other hand, constantly staring at our kids in rapture is neither realistic nor desirable.

Mother’s Intuition: Do You Have It?

Wouldn’t it be nice if we automatically knew the best way to raise our children? Intuition involves “gut feelings” that happen without conscious or deliberate weighing of facts, and it has been well documented by research. But what does this mean for parents?

Why Kids Often Don’t Speak Up Against Bullying

Whenever there’s a terrible case of bullying in the news, people wonder, “How could this happen?” and “Why didn’t any kids come forward earlier to stop this?” In part, kids say nothing out of fear—because they don’t want to be the next one targeted! But here are some of the beliefs and psychological processes that can lead kid kids to turn a blind eye to bullying.

Is It Bullying...Or Ordinary Meanness?

We adults haven’t managed world peace or even perfect marriages, so it’s unrealistic to think that our children will always be perfectly kind to each other.

Post-Adrenaline Blues

When we push and push and push and then STOP, we often experience what I call "Post-Adrenaline Blues." We’re depleted, dissatisfied, and prone to questioning everything about our lives.

Helping the “Bad Kid” of the Family

Sometimes, one child in the family gets into trouble noticeably more than the other children. Here's how to help that child step out of the “Bad Kid” role.

Making Up Is Hard to Do... For Kids

Children argue with their friends. A lot. What can we, as parents, do to help them learn to resolve conflicts?

Soft Criticism

The usual advice is to sandwich criticism between praise, but that doesn’t really soften the blow. If we want others to respond constructively to our criticism, we need to be able to give it in a way that decreases their defensiveness.


"Frenemies" are friends who run hot and cold. They're often fun, exciting, and popular, but they’re also risky, because they can ruthlessly turn on their friends when it suits their interests. How can you help your child cope?

10 Ways to Help Children Listen Better

"My kid doesn't listen!" is a common parent complaint. The answer to being heard may be to make it easier for our children to listen. Here are some ideas about how to do this.

Time Management for Kids

Understanding time helps kids to use their time well. It’s a key part of executive functioning skills, such as planning and prioritizing. Here are four key questions you can use to support your child’s developing sense of time.

Why Do Girls Gossip?

People are interesting. Gossip makes up about two-thirds of the naturally occurring conversations of adult men and women, so it’s unrealistic to expect kids never to gossip.

Family Traditions

What traditions does your family enjoy?

Popular Kids

Is your child popular? Does he or she want to be? Do you consider popularity an important goal for kids or teens?

“Fat Letters” Are Cruel to Kids

Do "fat letters" motivate children to lose weight?

Teaching Children to Read Emotions

Reading aloud to children and encouraging them to think about the character's feelings may help children develop empathy and kindness.

Helping Children Who Cry Easily

Kids who cry easily may pay a social cost.

Learning to Be a Good Sport

Many children have trouble coping with winning and losing. They gloat and brag when they win. They cry, sulk, or accuse others of cheating if they lose. Here are some ways to help kids take competition in stride.

Children's Play Date Guidelines

Simple guidelines to help your child be a good host.

What Friends Teach Children

Friends are not only a source of fun; they also help children grow in meaningful ways.

Preventing Mom Meltdowns and Dad Detonations

As much as we love our children, we’ve all had moments of feeling exasperated with them. Here's what you can do when you feel like you're ready to explode.

Chores and Children

Just tell your child, “Scrubbing the bathroom will fill you with joy!” Surely that will inspire your child to pick up a sponge! Well, maybe not… Here are some practical ways to get kids to help with housework.

They Call That Dancing?!

High school students no longer dance; they "grind." Is there anything adults can do about it?

Imaginary Friends

Invisible friends represent “bemagination” – something partway between belief and imagination.

Helping Children Feel Safe in an Unsafe World

When tragedy strikes, whether it’s personal or related to a news event, children may feel very frightened. Here’s one way you can reassure your child without offering false promises.

Talking With Children About Disaster

Children are magnets for emotion, so they’re likely to pick up on adults’ fear, sadness, horror, and anger about tragic events in the news, even if they don’t fully understand what’s going on.

How Children Make Friends (part 3)

What your child needs to know about making friends: Moving from friendly to friendship.

How Children Make Friends (part 2)

What your child needs to know about making friends: Like attracts like.

How Children Make Friends (part 1)

What your child needs to know about making friends: First steps to friendship.