How to Get Yourself on Your Own Side

Without knowing it, we frequently become our own worst enemies. Concluding that you can’t get what you want is one sure way you won’t. Self-defeating behavior is easy to spot once you know what you’re looking out for. These five questions will help you identify, and then change, the handicapping patterns that prevent you from getting what you really want.

Why Dark Personalities Thrive in the Dark

We associate romance with dimly-lit settings and candlelight. However, people with dark intent are more likely than others to improve their romantic odds when shrouded in darkness. Watch out for those tell-tale signs that someone’s interest in you is less than sincere, especially when that someone is lurking in the shadows.

Are You or Your Partner a Sexual Perfectionist?

Because they seek perfection in every area of their lives, some individuals also seek to get a 100% grade on their sexual performance. If you’re one of these sexual perfectionists, you may be setting yourself up, paradoxically, for long-term misery instead of pleasure in the bedroom.

Are You as Socially Introverted as You Seem?

If you don't want to look socially introverted, you may want to remove those earphones you're wearing. Although you may enjoy the entertainment our mobile devices provide as they provide a soundtrack to our day, you may also be sending unintentional cues telling other people to stay away.

18 Ways You Might Be Making Your Partner Jealous

Jealousy is one of the most unpleasant emotions we can experience. For some people, however, jealousy becomes a tool they use to manipulate their partners. Find out if you- or your partner- are the jealousy-inducing type with this 18-item quiz.

7 Ways to Make Small Talk Work for You

There’s a time and a place for small talk. Often, we may be tempted to engage others in a casual chat but not know whether they’re in the mood. These seven tips will give you the guidance you need to make your small talk count big.

Do You Feel Sexy? Your Answer Makes a Big Difference

With the expectation that women’s bodies have to be perfect for them to be sexy, you might expect that women in particular would be more likely to have their body image impact their sexual satisfaction. Surprising new findings suggest that when it comes to body image and sex life, it's men rather than women who are more affected.

8 Ways to Handle a Narcissist

People with narcissistic personality tendencies, who constantly need to see themselves as the center of attention, can be annoying to say the least. If you care about someone whose narcissism tends to get out of control, these 8 strategies will help you keep their egos, and your anger, under control.

An Inside Look at Open Marriages

Whether you call it open marriage, swinging, polyamory, or non-monogamy, relationship scientists are beginning to understand the pros and cons of being involved with more than one partner. They're discovering some of the best-kept secrets about what's really going on in these multi-partnered pairings.

3 Ways to Know When to Show Your True Emotions

There’s a time and a place for revealing your true emotions. You can get into trouble by showing either too much or too little of your negative or positive feelings. By following these 3 guidelines, you'll be sure to show just the right amount of emotion in any situation, whether at home or at work.

The Perfect Storm in Borderline Personality Disorder

According to a new and very exciting theory of borderline personality disorder, three factors collide to produce the perfect storm that is one of psychology's least understood conditions. People with this disorder as well as their loved ones and therapists, can benefit from the five ways to provide safe and effective interventions.

6 Ways to Win Any Argument

Arguments are an inevitable part of daily life no matter how hard you may try to avoid them. By using these six strategies, you’ll make sure to come out on the side of the winner, no matter what the conflict is about. In the end, both you and your relationships can benefit.

How Women Get Addicted to Cybersex

We tend to associate cybersex addiction to porn with men, but a new study reveals that women can get just as hooked as men. The “gratification hypothesis” helps to explain which women are most likely to turn to the Internet to get their daily dose of sexual arousal.

How to Tell if You’re a Pre-crastinator

People worry a great deal about being procrastinators, but it’s possible to be just the opposite- a pre-crastinator. Find out if new research has identified your own tendency to plan for the future, and whether this affects your enjoyment of the present.

Why the Look on Your Face May Matter More Than What You Say

Your face is just one of the many aspects of your appearance on which others judge you. However, new research shows that it might be one of the most significant. Controlling your impression might ultimately turn out to be a matter of controlling your expression.

It's Hard to Imagine a World Without Psychology

Whether you realize it or not, psychology is contributing important knowledge to the way we all understand ourselves and the world. Without psychological research, we’d have only common sense to guide us in everything from learned behavior to romantic relationships. A world without psychology could very well exist, but it would be less well-informed one.

Great Shakespeare Quotes that Inspire Us to Age Creatively

We tend to think of Shakespeare's views of aging as almost entirely negative. Yet, Shakespeare’s writings about aging in many ways contradict how he himself experienced aging. From his work and his remarkable career, we can gain inspiration into how we ourselves can realize our own creative potential throughout life.

10 Ways to Feel Better About How You Look

Like it or not, our outward appearance provides important cues to others about our inner qualities. If you feel that there’s a mismatch between the way you look and the way you feel, these 10 tips will help you bring them both into line.

Would You Rather Be Considered Smart or Nice?

Research on impression formation and dialect shows that there may be something to the idea of “Southern comfort.” For Americans, speaking with a Southern accent signals that you're a nice person, and a Northern accent signals you're smart. If it's niceness you seek, these 5 tips can help you find the right tone of voice.

9 Ways to Tell Who's Lying to You

There's never been a perfect way to detect deception, but this 9-item questionnaire will give you a set of research-tested guides. Whether in your love life or your work life, using this simple scale will give you the tools you need to become your own personal lie detector.

Can Relationships Withstand the Strains of Midlife?

Relationships are complex enough, but adding to the strains of those that last into midlife are the individual changes that partners experience over time. The media often portray these dynamics in compelling ways, with the latest entry of USA’s “Satisfaction” providing new insights that mesh with the latest research on adult attachment style.

Why It's So Hard to Live With Narcissists

People who are high in narcissism can be entitled, demanding, and self-centered. As if this didn’t make life with them difficult enough, new research shows that their desire for perfection creates even more misery for their partners.

The One Emotion That Really Hurts Your Brain

We’ve all made mistakes in front of others, and it’s never a pleasant experience. Complicating matters further is the humiliation you feel when someone else points out the error of your ways. Research in social neuroscience shows that the pain of humiliation extends deep into the brain’s innermost regions far more than other emotions.

Infidelity, in 140 Characters or Less

Online relationships develop in myriads of ways, but few of us would predict that the flames of love could be fanned in 140 characters or less. However, new research shows that active Twitter users in virtual relationships may set the stage for their real-life relationships to get in trouble.

Did Facebook Go Too Far?

A recent experiment manipulated emotionally laden Facebook posts to see the effects on users. Though the ethics of this study have come into question, what can we learn from this study about our own state of mind?

How to Change Your Partner’s Bad Habits

Everyone has at least one bad habit, but in long-term relationships, some of those habits can be irksome indeed. Learning to cope with your partner’s quirks can keep those little things from becoming bigger threats to your relationship's health.

Do You Have a Workplace Spouse?

The workplace romance, if you believe the polls, is becoming increasingly commonplace. Recent research shows the advantages but, more often, the disadvantages to your work of blending love and work. Having a work spouse may help you get through the day, but what matters the most will be the person you return to at night.

4 Ways to Make a Better Apology

Love may mean never having to say you’re sorry, but there are times when you’ve got no alternative. Whether in your romantic, work, or social life, these 4 tips will make sure you achieve the forgiveness you seek.

How to Spot a Manipulator

Pickup artists lurk about in all sorts of places. Whether it’s the neighborhood bar or on public transportation, by a male or female, you may be the target of people who hide their true intentions. It’s important to learn how to spot, and resist, their efforts to seduce you.

5 Tips for Tough Conversations With Your Partner

Conflicts in our closest relationships can challenge even the most skilled communicator. However, you can resolve those conflicts successfully by tapping into these 5 time-tested strategies