Could New Thinking About Relationships Help Yours?

A new theory of long-term committed relationships proposes that the ability to seek self-expression predicts the greatest chances of its success. The process of achieving self-expression may make the stakes higher, but the potential rewards much more satisfying in the long term.

The High Cost of Vanity

The clothes we wear reflect our personalities. If you’re drawn to clothes that carry with them recognizable and often pricey logos, it may be time to examine why. The combination of vanity and narcissism can prove costly to your wallet. By understanding the forces that drive you to overspend, you can gain better control of your wallet, if not your self-esteem.

Put Your Emotional Intelligence to Use

Every day you’re faced with awkward interpersonal situations that you somehow need to negotiate to keep the social wheels of life running smoothly. By tapping into your emotional intelligence, you can handle these situations with both ease and success.

Finding Joy in the Sexless Marriage

Many factors contribute to a couple’s decision to refrain from having sexual relations. Using the social exchange theory of relationships provides a way to understand why people remain together. The sexless marriage may not be for everyone but for those who choose this path, there are several paths to successful coping.

Your Mind’s Not Getting Older; It’s Truly Getting Better

Most people are convinced that getting older means getting mentally weaker. However, according to an important new study, your brain may be getting older, but your mind is not. Even if you have those annoying occasional memory failures, you may actually be more mentally agile than ever, and definitely more knowledgeable.

Four Ways to Ask for, and Get, Your Favors Granted

There are times in life when you need someone to do something for you. The question is how to ask for a favor in way that ensures you’ll get that help. The 4 basic ingredients to having a favor granted are yours for the taking.

In Close Relationships, Opposites Might Attract After All

The adage “opposites attract” is generally regarded in relationship research to be untrue. Similarity seems to breed stronger attraction at least in a relationship’s early phases. Research on joint goal pursuits by romantic couples shows that if you want something done, however, your best bet for a partner is your psychological opposite.

Get in Touch with Your Relationship Myths

We all hold the idea of the “perfect” relationship, an idea that may lead some people to spend their lives turning down otherwise great, if not perfect, partners. By identifying your own relationship myths, you can better enjoy your current, if not future, opportunities for true intimacy.

Revisiting the Psychology of Narcissistic Entitlement

Entitlement, or the tendency to believe you deserve special treatment, is seen by psychology as part and parcel of narcissism. However, new research suggests that not all entitled people are created equal. Some people believe they're great and are, but many others use their entitlement to hide feelings of inferiority, causing problems in their relationships and well-being.

Calculate Your Life's Psychological Footprint

Your life footprint is the effect you have on other people, both those who are close to you and those who you’ll never meet. Calculate your own lasting impressions with this 10-item quiz. Even if your life footprint is light at the moment, there are ways to improve the positive impact you have on others, from your closest partners to people you may not even know.

Seven Types of Physical Affection in Relationships

Each couple has a unique way of relating physically to each other, whether it’s through giving backrubs, kissing, cuddling, or holding. Surprisingly, there’s little research on this topic in close, intimate long-term relationships. These 7 types are a start in understanding how and why we show affection to those we love.

Our Irrational Emotional Life

Emotions are a key part of our everyday happiness and well-being. When they get out of control, they can get us in real trouble. However, such negative emotions as worry, anger, and jealousy don’t have to cause meltdowns as long as you can understand where these feelings come from.

Psychology’s Greatest Advice

By its very nature, psychology is a field that can benefit all of our lives. With its focus on such topics as mental health, intelligence, and relationships, the work of psychological researchers offers plenty of applications to everyday life. Here are 7 of its finest lessons.

Remembering the Good Old Days Can Revive Your Relationship

Reliving happy memories of good times you’ve shared with your partner may be just the kind of revival your relationship needs. New research shows that the happiest couples make the most out of reminiscing about the “way we were." Four tips, based on this research, can help you make the most out of your shared past with your intimate partner.

The 9 Most Common Relationship Mistakes

These nine most common slip-ups can threaten the closest of close relationships. Learn how to avoid them, bringing you closer to having a satisfying and long-lasting emotional love life.

Those Facebook Games We Play and Why We Play Them

Facebook offers you literally hundreds of opportunities to play video games, ranging from the oldies but goodies of Bejeweled Blitz to the latest craze, Candy Crush. New research shows just how many of us play these games, for how long, and why.

What Happens When Narcissists Turn 30, and Beyond?

A narcissist’s desire to be the center of attention and praise can create challenges in adjusting to the passing years, especially after hitting the big “3-0.” Society’s association between youth and beauty can lead people preoccupied with their appearance feeling vulnerable. The question is whether, and how, they meet this challenge. These 5 tips provide a start.

What You Don't Know about This Personality Test Can Hurt You

The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is a widely-used tool in the organizational consultant toolkit. Providing you with a 4-letter code, it’s supposed to provide an instant diagnosis to your inner personality qualities and outer tendencies at work and in However, outside the consulting realm, many psychologists not only doubt its utility but warn against its use.

Mastering the Delicate Art of Responding to Compliments

It’s great to get a compliment, but often we find it difficult to know how to respond. If you’re like most of us, you flounder a bit while you think of what to say in return. With a little practice, you can become a master of this important social grace.

Five Proven Keys to Improve Your Well-Being

Improving your mental and physical health doesn’t take an emotional overhaul. These five, research-tested strategies, can help you revitalize and tune up your outlook one step at a time.

Women's Love Affair with Wine and What it Means for You

When it comes to the typical alcoholic beverage, the sexes seem to split into two distinct groups, with women preferring their cabernets and men their Budweiser’s. Wine may seem like a safe choice, but what does women’s love affair with wine mean for physical, if not mental, health?

The 1-2-3’s of Relationship Repair

When a relationship ends, you typically want to have nothing to do with your ex-lover or friend. However, as time passes and the hurt eases, you may develop a wish to restore some form of harmony, but you not be sure whether to, or how. These three steps will help you sort out your feelings and figure out how best to mend fences with your ex.

Ten Ways to Tell if You’re a Narcissist

When it comes to narcissism, you may be good at sensing the characteristic traits in others, but can you turn the mirror onto yourself, so to speak? These 10 key features will help you pick out, and possibly change, your narcissistic quirks.

Why Are Public Cell Phone Users So Annoying?

There’s just something irritating about people who talk on their cell phones in public places. Even though we all know it’s so irritating, many of us engage in this behavior anyhow. What’s behind public cell phone behavior and just as importantly, what effects can it have on how you’re perceived by others?

What to Do When Your Relationship Worries Get to You

Worrying about relationships is a reasonably common experience. There are always times when you’re not quite sure how it’s going. For some people, though, these worries can become obsessions especially when they feel threatened and inadequate. Research shows who’s most vulnerable to these worries and how to work to overcome them.

Hate Exercise? Love Having Sex? You're in for Some Good News

You might have heard that sex can be a good form of exercise, but wondered whether this is just wishful thinking. New research comparing sex and exercise shows that you can burn half the calories in the bedroom compared to the gym while feeling twice as good.

Your Body on Display: Social Media and Your Self-Image

Social media sites present you with countless opportunities to present, and describe, your body to everyone from your closest friends to the relationship partners you hope to have someday. By putting yourself on display for all to judge, including yourself, you may be raising your bodily self-consciousness to unhealthy levels.

Self-indulgence and the License to Sin

We often know that what we want may not be good for us, but that doesn’t stop many of us from indulging anyhow. Research on the license to sin and hedonic overconsumption shows that even if you’re good at inhibiting your impulses, it doesn’t take much to trigger your out-of-control desire to splurge.

The Ordinary Lies We All Tell, and What's Behind Them

Lying may be an intrinsic part of human behavior, but it’s not a behavior that most of us are very proud to have. According to the Emotion Deception Model, our feelings are at the heart of our tendencies to tell both small and large lies. Whether in your work life, friendships, or relationships in general, you can put this self-knowledge to good use.

The One, Most Important, Way to Cope When Things Go Wrong

It’s natural to become frustrated when everything seems to be going wrong. You can feel better and cope more effectively by practicing this one tried-and-true strategy to manage those everyday annoyances.