One Man’s Sorrow, Enlightened by Grief

Paul said he was surprised by his grief: “I don't think that I had any inkling that I had any depth or capacity for that much grief. It just took me by surprise.”

How to Live, Love, and Laugh

A life worth living is not the same as a life free of problems. We learn from our troubles and we grow when we focus on how to keep living life to its fullest even while facing trials.

Blazing a Trail in Corn and Life

There is not just one way that your life must unfold. We learn from those “dead ends” and we can find lessons and beauty in the trails that end up going in a circle.

How Do We Keep Caring in a Broken World of Pain?

I watched, waiting to see if intervention would be needed. Then I turned in time to see tears streaming down my youngest daughter’s face. She had stopped eating, as we all did, as she worried about that little girl.

Be the Beauty in Our Broken World

Amazing advances in technology and innovation in this digital world have changed the way we live. However, you will still find more beauty in simple acts of humanity.

Find Beauty in Brokenness

You can find beauty in the midst of brokenness, but you may need to expand your understanding of beauty to recognize it.

Are You Good at Comforting Others?

Where did my young daughter learn to comfort others?

Deciding What to Do with "Things" After a Loved One Dies

After someone dies, people often desperately want to hang on to everything they can: memories, possessions, pictures. The shoes left in the doorway can become sacred.

Grief and Violence in The Lego Movie (Spoiler Alert)

He is angry towards his father. Expressing his anger, the boy imagines and then acts out violent attacks: beheadings, explosions, shootings, and pushing people off a cliff. And in the end, he gets what he wants—and wins the girl too.

Thirteen Years

Fresh grief covers the earth. / New tracks will appear. / Your imprints on my heart / Will never disappear.

Learning to Float in Grief

Face the pain long enough to be able to look around and see that joy and life remain. You can learn to float while immersed in grief.

Gardening for the Soul

When our souls have wilted, we need to nurture them. Cut off the things hanging on that are not essential.

Unwrap A Gift for Living From the One Who Died

Our loved ones who died gave us gifts to help us move forward. We need to unwrap them.

A Bag of Chips and One of Those “Loss Awareness” Days

Do we have all these official “awareness” days to give people something “to do?” Does it help us to know that we wore pink, posted a note to Facebook, or lit a candle for a particular problem?

A 96-year-old Man’s Grief Lights Up the World

Fred’s story strikes our fear of mortality while giving us courage to face what comes.

Don’t Rush to the Bright Side

When people are facing a crisis or just having a hard day, it can be tempting (and often well-meaning) to say something along the lines of “try to look on the bright side.” But this can often hurt more than help.

Stephen Colbert's Loving Tribute to His Mother

Recently, Stephen Colbert’s mother died. He gave a beautiful, poignant tribute to her before his show one evening.

When Mother’s Day Is Not Happy

The hallmark cards and commercials depict Mother’s Day as all smiles. But for many people, the celebration taps into pain and sorrow. Learn how to support those hurting on this day.

Resist the Urge to “Take Care of Things” for Those Grieving

Sometimes, “well-meaning” individuals want to go into a grieving person’s home and clean out things that they think will bring too much pain or, from their perspective, do chores that “should just be done.” Don’t do it.

What Can We Learn From Melting Snow and Ugly Grass?

When the snow starts to melt in March, the promise of spring fills my soul. But what strikes me is how ugly the grass can be after the snow melts.

When Grief and Love are Unspoken

My heart, broken, Holding love, unspoken.

My Daughter’s Grief and a Box of Sticks

My eight-year-old daughter knew that the tree was going to be cut down. Still, when the day came, it was tough on her. A few minutes before we needed to leave for school, she went to the tree for one last good-bye. Crying and grasping the brown needles, she did not want to leave the tree. I prayed and wondered what to do. Do I force her to leave so she can get to school?

Should We Sing about Joy and Peace this Christmas?

How do we say “Peace on Earth” when children are gunned down in schools and countries are at war? How do we sing “Joy to the World” after hearing news reports or seeing haunting images of terror?

What I Learn from Fear and Death

After the school shooting, I understood why parents talked about wanting to hug their children tightly. But why did I not feel the same urgency?

Best Christmas Gifts for those Grieving

It is challenging enough to pick out gifts, but what do you give someone who is grieving? How do you celebrate the season with a person mired in pain?

Giving Thanks in Broken Times

Giving thanks does not take away all our pain and struggles, but it points us to the light in a time of darkness.

When Grandma Grieves 50 Years of Love

Mary said, “Every day my grandma adds dirt to my grandpa’s grave. I’m worried about her. Doesn’t that sound like a problem? Is there something wrong with her?”

Do Not Seek 'Closure' After Sandusky Sentence

In calling for closure, people in part are suggesting that this story can now “go away.” We are told that people can stop thinking about it and victims suddenly have closure. But this is a mistake.

Organize Your Emotional Shelf by Grieving

We have enough room to carry important things from the past, but sometimes we need to reorganize our mental and emotional shelves in order to create that space.

The Write Way to Heal

Play with words. Try to put into words what you are feeling, thinking, experiencing. Then you can share or hit the delete button.