Do You Ever Wonder About Getting Your Ex Back?

 Did you ever wonder if you should try to get your ex back? Or evenif it's a good idea?

Dating After A Break-Up: The Program of Three

 Welcome Back to the 31-Day Love Life Makeover! In Episode 5 you'll see Nadette, our 45-year old NYC heroine venture back into the dating world. I put her on the Dating Program of Three in which she will date three guys at the samre time but with one caveat: No sex.

Putting Your Relationship on Probation: Love Life Makeover No.3

"The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost."' In this dramatic episode #3 of Love Life Makeover I help Nadette to break off all ties with her ex and to start dating other men. I've asked her to put her relationship on a probationary status by taking a stand. Watch it below:

The 31 Day Love Life Makeover: How to Break Free From Your Ex

Dating and relationships can be frustrating and, often, downright painful. What single hasn't dreamt of a fairy dating coach swooping in to help her let go of baggage and find the happy, healthy relationship she craves?Watch our adventures as I love mentor our brave NYC heroine Nadette over the next 6 episodes as she overcomes the painful break-up of an engagement.

What Do You Really Want From Love? The 31 Day Love Life Makeover

What Do You Really Want From Love? Watch Episode 2 of the Love Life Makeover as I help 45-year old Nadette get in touch with her ideal self in order to answer the question. And don't miss any of the episodes which I will be posting here throughout the week.

Marital Satisfaction, Health & Happiness

Marriage by itself is not an answer to all of life's problems. Being single today coupled with a strong social network of family and friends, is a very viable alternative to even a healthy marriage. So relax. If you do decide to tie the knot, choose a man who is a good match, someone who is devoted to you and committed to handling the inevitable bumps and potholes that you will face on your journey. Because if it does not go well and you divorce, the research suggests that you will suffer more than if you had never been married.

Is Marriage Toxic to Women? Money Matters Part IV

Money, it's a crime Share it fairly But don't take a slice of my pie. Money, so they say Is the root of all evil Today, today, today......~ Pink Floyd, Money, from Dark Side of the Moon Having gone through the benefits and risks of marriage in Parts 1-3 we come at last to "the money." How does marriage impact men's and women's economic circumstances?

Is Marriage Toxic to Women or the Fountain of Youth? Part 3

Is marriage really a fountain of youth? For more than 100 years, researchers around the world have found that married people, both men and women, live longer than singles. In a recent review of 53 studies of the effect of marriage on longevity2 researchers found that mortality rates are about 18% lower for marrieds in comparison with singles and there was no significant difference in that effect between guys and gals. Another national U.S. only study3 conducted over an eight-year period showed that the odds of mortality are 39% higher for widows, 27% higher for divorced and a whopping 58% higher for never marrieds in comparison with marrieds. Controlling for age, the effect held true at older ages for both sexes and was greater for younger men than younger women. In other words, married women tend to live longer than single, divorced or widowed gals. Period.

Is Marriage Toxic to Women? Part II Massive Review Study Says Marriage Reduces Depression

In Part II of this five-part series, (yeah, I know I said 4 part) we'll look at whether marriage is toxic to women's mental health. Specifically, we'll look closely at depression because it affects about 20 million adults in the U.S. alone and is therefore one of our most common diseases. The bad news here is that women are twice as likely as men to suffer from depression.

Is Marriage Toxic to Women? Part I

 Is marriage in the 21st century toxic to women? Yes, say many. My friends (especially women) from around the world on are constantly posting comments like "marriage is dying," and that living together is "so much better." Sure it's true that around the world more people are living together than are married. It's also true that in her recent bestseller, Elizabeth Gilbert claims that her research shows that married women are less successful, more depressed, less healthy and more likely to die a violent death than single women. Nonetheless, she winds up, like many other women, getting married herself by the end of her book. Hmm.

Living in Sin (After 50): Part III

In less than 10 years, the number of people over 50 that are living together has just about doubled to more than two million . As I mentioned in my previous blogs, for older singles that have already had children or been through a divorce, moving in together is often their final goal. They are interested in companionship and not in building a whole new family life. Is sharing digs a good move for these singles? Will it help or hurt the development of a deeper dedication and caring in the couple?

Is Living Together the Answer or the Kiss of Death to a Relationship? Part 2

In Part I we looked at the transformed social landscape, a place in which the numbers of folks living together had surpassed those who were married. Then I shared the story of Shelley & Jared, two 30- somethings that had decided to live together. Like other couples, Shelley and Jared thought that living together might be a good way to test drive the relationship and besides it was far more economical. We asked readers to guess how it would turn out.To help figure this out, let's look at what research on living together might tell us. Well, most studies done from 1995 forward showed that couples that lived together before marriage had higher divorce rates as compared with couples that didn't. Other findings included poorer mental and physical health, including depression, especially for women.

So Should We Live Together? Part I

Once upon a time, all the way back in the 50s, there was only marriage and sin. And then came the 60s and 70s and alternative lifestyles popped up all over the place. Most especially couples simply living together. Since then marriage rates have declined while couples living together has gone up tenfold. Cohabitating has morphed into a virtue in the eyes of most Americans. In fact, for the first time in U.S. history more couples are living together compared to those who are married and this trend is continuing.So is cohabitating a good thing or is it bad for your relationship?

Sex: Are Men Really Only After One Thing? Part II

Are men really only after one thing? Well,  fMRI studies of men's brains show that 98% of the cerebral cortex is preoccupied with vivid sexual fantasies.1 Gotcha!!

Part III Sex, Game Theory & More (To Wait or Not to Wait - That is the Question)

In this third article in a 3-part series, on sex, courtship and dating, we look at what game theory, biology and interpersonal psychology tell us about the benefits and costs of waiting to jump in bed with a prospective dating partner. While game theory is an exercise in mathematical probability and not as "real world" say as biology or psychology, its findings in the area of dating and sex are quite in line with those of biology and interpersonal psychology. First let's look at the biological implications of having sex too soon.

Part II Sex & Game Theory (To Wait or Not to Wait-That is the Question)

Sex: To Wait or Not to Wait, That is the Question!In Part I of this series we showed that men can discriminate between women and their intentions based on the gifts they give. For one thing, they can eliminate gold diggers. But women can also understand men's intentions over time using other signals.

Part I - Sex & Game Theory (To Wait or Not to Wait, That is the Question)

Sex & Game Theory (To Wait or Not to Wait, That is the Question!)Game theory is a type of applied mathematics that has been used extensively in evolutionary biology and economics. It attempts to fathom the great mystery of human behavior and the choices we make when the success or outcome of those choices depends on other people's choices. And nowhere are those choices more at risk and more reliant on others than in the convoluted dance of dating and sex.

Seven NEW Valentine's Day Rules: Love, Sacrifice, Suffering & Death in Jail

Many of us have written about how much Valentine's Day sucks in both professional1 and trade journals2. No need to rehash the ridiculous commercialism of this Hallmark-generated holiday. But I will anyway: the unhappiness women feel when their man comes up small, yada, yada, yada. In short, many people have argued that it's best to do away with this crass holiday altogether. But I don't agree. I believe that we need to get back to the true meanings and origins of this holiday.

“Bad Men” Don't Wait to Have Sex

"Bad men", according to these male scholars, try to get to mating right away and then quit the courtship process right after sex. To all men, the courtship game is a kind of war of attrition, with the opportunity to mate with the woman the real benefit for which they wait.

Boomer Dating Advice from my PBS Show: The Myth of Perfection

I was blessed to have a one-woman PBS TV Special called Finding Your Own True Love, which is based on my new dating advice book, Love in 90 Days.