Is marriage in the 21st century toxic to women? Yes, say many. My friends (especially women) from around the world on www.youtube.com/lovein90days/ are constantly posting comments like "marriage is dying," and that living together is "so much better." Sure it's true that around the world more people are living together than are married. It's also true that in her recent bestseller, Elizabeth Gilbert claims that her research shows that married women are less successful, more depressed, less healthy and more likely to die a violent death than single women. Nonetheless, she winds up, like many other women, getting married herself by the end of her book. Hmm.