For any injustice or problem caused, having self-destructive vengeance is truly impractical. Keeping vengeance, instead spoils the situations even further, perhaps even brings an end to the relationship. It is better to talk with patience in the beginning, and if still things does not get sort out, it is better to ignore, at least for the sake of our own good. Why worsen things than what they are now by harboring vengeance. History has its stories to say, which only proves vengeance as a self-destructive emotion. Them, why not be wise and stop harming our ownself?
Vengeance doesn't work most of the time, but the best revenge is telling the truth. For example, maybe someone being harassed at work can put a video of the harassment online, adding nothing of their own. There's a difference between justice and vengeance.
This article was very interesting and informative to me. It gave me a clearer perspective on the whole revenge and getting even theory. I found the piece on coming up with a plan to help stop the whole revenge thing very interesting because up until now I never thought of coming up with a plan to divert my anger on wanting to get even. Now, because of this article I can channel my anger on something else and not worry about the whole tit for tat thing when I am upset and trying to get even.
I would be curious to know what people think of pranks as a type of revenge. A pop culture example would be Jim's pranks directed at Dwight on the office. When I was a kid, my older brother bullied me and I would prank call him at work. It was a satisfying feeling, but of course I was like 12 at the time. Is it ever appropriate? At what point should people outgrow that strategy?
When this article talks about victims of wrongdoing it is careful to say "Men and women".
But when it talks about abusers, it only mentions men.
Fredric Neuman, M.D. is the Director of the Anxiety and Phobia Center at White Plains Hospital.