The Most Heartfelt Quotes on Divorce

I think the quotes offered here will touch you—especially if you've gone through a painful break up. They speak poignantly of many emotions connected to this wrenching process....

Value the Means, Not Just the End

If you’re like most of us, you’re driven to accomplish certain goals—goals that are personally meaningful to you. It doesn’t much matter whether the end of your pursuits is completing a manuscript or a marathon. And your “payoff,” your “high,” revolves around your final achievement. . . .

Grade Your Parents! The 10 Crucial Criteria

It’s generally accepted that many of the challenges you now face may stem from your upbringing. Typically, they derive from what your parents—because of unresolved psychological issues from their own upbringing—were unable to provide you with, or instill in you. Here are 10 elements that are the essence of adequate childhood nurturing.

Greed: The Ultimate Addiction

Of all the things one might be addicted to, nothing tops the greed-laden pursuit of wealth in its sheer audacity, manipulativeness, and gross insensitivity to the needs and feelings of others.

Flirt vs. Tease: What's the Difference?

The overlapping terms "flirt" and "tease" are sometimes used interchangeably. So clearly distinguishing between them can be confusing, or downright tricky. But psychologically—and even morally—they can be worlds apart.

Rebuffed? 4 Reasons Someone Might Reject Your Help

When you try to help someone—or, for that matter, give them something—it can feel like a personal affront when they turn you down. It's useful to explore why they say no.

Are You a Victim of Predatory Capitalism?

Though admirable as a humanist ideal, study after study has shown that in the real world socialism doesn’t work very well. Sadly, it leaves workers insufficiently motivated to put forth their best effort. Capitalism, on the other hand...

Feel Attacked? The Most Powerful Defense You'll Ever Have

Whenever someone turns on you, there’s one thing you can do that, almost immediately, will emotionally protect you. If, that is, you can do it immediately.

How—And How Not—to Stand Up for Yourself

It’s become conventional wisdom that it’s crucial to stand up for yourself. But certain ways of doing so aren't advisable. For they can hurt both you and your relationship. . . .

A Powerful Two-Step Process to Get Rid of Unwanted Anger

When—without warning—something provokes your anger, you struggle not to succumb to it. Since what typically makes you mad is feeling powerless in the face of what seems unfair. . .

The Double-Edged Sword of Desire, Quotes, Part 2

The first part of this quote-filled post on desire focused on its many positive aspects. And with so many writers persuasively indicating its exceptional power to motivate us—to enable us not simply to aspire to, but also to reach, our most coveted goals—you might well ask: "What exactly is its downside?"

The Double-Edged Sword of Desire, Quotes, Part 1

If ever there were an emotion or state of mind laden with apparent contradictions, it would have to be Desire. For although desire is typically linked to excited anticipation, motivation, and drive, it also relates to longing, frustration, and disillusionment.

Internet Porn: Its Problems, Perils, and Pitfalls

In my 12-part series on human sexual desire, I’ve discussed our richly varied carnal appetites and how the porn industry seeks to gratify them. I’ll now offer a perspective on...

Six Recent Innovations in Porn and Erotica

Producers of Internet erotica and pornography can generally turn a sizeable profit if they’re able to craft sexually supercharged images, videos, and fiction. And to satisfy . . .

Dominant or Submissive? Paradox of Power in Sexual Relations

This series of posts has uncovered many rarely recognized ironies about human sexual desire. But perhaps the most fascinating among them are the apparent contradictions existing...

Gay or Straight, A Male Is a Male Is a Male

Obviously, one major discrepancy exists between the sexual arousal cues that distinguish gays from straights. Yet the fascinating—and little recognized—similarities between them...

The Secret,Taboo Aspects of Male Sexual Desire

Through millions of anonymous Internet searches, men have repeatedly divulged some rather curious sexual interests. . . .

You Can’t Much Help What Turns You On

You might assume that many, if not most, sexual preferences are culturally determined. But the latest research on the subject strongly supports a rather different conclusion....

Internet Rule #34—Or, What’s Normal in Sex?

“If you can imagine it, there’s porn of it.” That’s about the simplest definition of this most evocative of Internet-linked axioms.

Paradox and Pragmatism in Women’s Sexual Desire

It’s intriguing—if not mystifying—how a woman’s mind and body, sexually speaking, can be at war with one another. It’s doubtless true that Nature wants babies. But women need . . .

The Triggers of Sexual Desire Pt 2: What’s Erotic for Women?

If there’s such a thing as porn for women, it revolves around the romance novel. And the amazing popularity of this genre suggests the vast differences between men and women in ...

The Triggers of Sexual Desire: Men vs. Women

The findings of neuroscience on the nature and origins of our erotic interests aren't always intuitive. There's a good chance that major gaps exist in your understanding of the...

What Brain Science Can Teach You About Sex

This post introduces a succession of posts that explore the latest findings on human sexual desire--in particular, the brain cues that fire the erotic imagination. . . .

Why Do Women Fall for Serial Killers?

What are the subconscious motives that drive a woman to become an ardent "fan"—even wife—of a mass murderer? I'll delve into its biological, sexual, and psychological dynamics...

The Wisest Quotes on Wisdom

What's most interesting about wisdom is that the best things said about it have been voiced many times. There’s a universal understanding of wisdom that transcends time and place.

Afghan Massacre: How Accountable Are We If Our Brain Is Injured?

Out of context, such a question might sound strange—or possibly stupid. After all, if we're not responsible for our brain and what it tells us to do, who would be? But, on the other hand, what if, because of TBI and PTSD, we suffer a psychotic break?

Why You Can't Trust Your Brain

Anyone wanting an update on the fascinating developments in cognitive psychology and neuroscience (and, indirectly, evolutionary psychology as well) would do well to purchase a copy of David DiSalvo's informative and entertaining "What Makes Your Brain Happy and Why You Should Do the Opposite." . . .

How to Discover Your Sweet Spot

Your "sweet spot" is something like your very own golden mean. It's about doing, or not doing, that which in any particular situation is optimal for you. And knowing what's, personally, "just right" is hardly a trait you're born with. Nor is it a matter of intuition...

Most Memorable Quotes on Unrequited Love

There's something terribly tragic about unrequited love. Some have even committed suicide over it. Yet in a sense what could be more romantic? An "untried" love is virtually . . .

12 Ways to Age—Into Agelessness, Part 3

Of the dozen suggestions in this post for feeling perpetually young, here I'll expand on four final ways to stay young in mind, body, and spirit--regardless of age.

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