Couples—Stop Fighting Over Money!

No question about it. Fighting about money is hazardous to your relationship. Obviously, couples fight about many things—from child rearing, to sex, to household chores, to dealing with in-laws. But, above everything else, frequency of money disputes remains the single best predictor of divorce.

Celebrity Quotes on Divorce—And They Should Know

Many of these quotes aren’t so much droll or funny as they are uniquely revealing about the particular celebrity from whom they’re taken. The varied feelings expressed—from wistfulness and regret, to thinly veiled anger or rage—add an intriguingly personal aspect to our understanding of their lives off camera.

The Wittiest Quotes on Divorce

Many of the quotes below—cleverly poking fun at both marriage and divorce—admittedly have an abrasive edge to them. We may laugh at their wry observations, yet not be entirely comfortable doing so. For when speakers and writers (who may well have split up themselves) talk about divorce, they frequently betray a certain resentment and bitterness.

The Most Heartfelt Quotes on Divorce

I think the quotes offered here will touch you—especially if you've ever gone through a painful break up. They speak poignantly of so many emotions experienced in this wrenching process: like grief and mourning (for hopes and dreams that can now never be realized); shock, bewilderment, guilt, regret and remorse, acrimony and antipathy . . . and downright devastation.

Value the Means, Not Just the End

If you’re like most of us, you’re driven to accomplish certain goals—goals that are personally meaningful to you. It doesn’t much matter whether the end of your pursuits is completing a manuscript or a marathon. And your “payoff,” your “high,” revolves around your final achievement. . . .

Grade Your Parents! The 10 Crucial Criteria

It’s generally accepted that many of the challenges you now face may stem from your upbringing. Typically, they derive from what your parents—because of unresolved psychological issues from their own upbringing—were unable to provide you with, or instill in you. Here are 10 elements that are the essence of adequate childhood nurturing.

Greed: The Ultimate Addiction

Of all the things one might be addicted to, nothing tops the greed-laden pursuit of wealth in its sheer audacity, manipulativeness, and gross insensitivity to the needs and feelings of others.

Flirt vs. Tease: What's the Difference?

The overlapping terms "flirt" and "tease" are sometimes used interchangeably. So clearly distinguishing between them can be confusing, or downright tricky. But psychologically—and even morally—they can be worlds apart.

Rebuffed? 4 Reasons Someone Might Reject Your Help

When you try to help someone—or, for that matter, give them something—it can feel like a personal affront when they turn you down. It's useful to explore why they say no.

Are You a Victim of Predatory Capitalism?

Though admirable as a humanist ideal, study after study has shown that in the real world socialism doesn’t work very well. Sadly, it leaves workers insufficiently motivated to put forth their best effort. Capitalism, on the other hand...

Feel Attacked? The Most Powerful Defense You'll Ever Have

Whenever someone turns on you, there’s one thing you can do that, almost immediately, will emotionally protect you. If, that is, you can do it immediately.

How—And How Not—to Stand Up for Yourself

It’s become conventional wisdom that it’s essential to stand up for yourself. But there are ways of doing so that are hardly advisable. Ways that will hurt both you and your relationship. Ways that will prevent you from confronting the person most needing to be confronted—yourself.

A Powerful Two-Step Process to Get Rid of Unwanted Anger

When—without warning—something provokes your anger, you may struggle not to succumb to it. Since what typically makes you mad is feeling powerless in the face of what seems unfair, your anger is mostly an attempt at a “quick fix” to right the balance.

The Double-Edged Sword of Desire, Quotes, Part 2

The first part of this quote-filled post on desire focused on its many positive aspects. And with so many writers persuasively indicating its exceptional power to motivate us—to enable us not simply to aspire to, but also to reach, our most coveted goals—you might well ask: "What exactly is its downside?"

The Double-Edged Sword of Desire, Quotes, Part 1

If ever there were an emotion or state of mind laden with apparent contradictions, it would have to be Desire. For although desire is typically linked to excited anticipation, motivation, and drive, it also relates to longing, frustration, and disillusionment.

Internet Porn: Its Problems, Perils, and Pitfalls

In my 12-part series on human sexual desire, I’ve discussed our richly varied carnal appetites and how the porn industry seeks to gratify them. In this final post, I’ll offer a perspective on what, practically, all this means for porn consumers—and those near them. Overall, the picture is somewhat alarming.

Six Recent Innovations in Porn and Erotica

Producers of Internet erotica and pornography can generally turn a sizeable profit if they’re able to craft sexually supercharged images, videos, and fiction. And to satisfy seekers’ endless quest for carnal excitement, these entrepreneurs have generated paranormal stimuli brimming with powerful erotic cues.

Dominant or Submissive? The Paradox of Power in Sexual Relationships

This series of posts has uncovered many rarely recognized ironies and paradoxes about human sexual desire. But perhaps the most fascinating and beguiling among them are the apparent contradictions that exist in the realm of sexual roles: namely, dominant, submissive . . . or both.

Gay or Straight, A Male Is a Male Is a Male

Obviously, one major discrepancy exists between the sexual arousal cues that distinguish gays from straights. Yet the fascinating—and little recognized—similarities between them suggest that a gay’s “sexual psyche” is far more complementary to a heterosexual male's than contrasting to it.

The Secret,Taboo Aspects of Male Sexual Desire

Through millions of anonymous Internet searches, men have repeatedly divulged some rather curious sexual interests. I’d like to focus here on certain erotic predilections that most people would agree slip into the realm of the forbidden — and pornographic.

You Can’t Much Help What Turns You On

You might assume that many, if not most, sexual preferences are culturally determined. But after reviewing the latest research on the subject, I've little doubt that the evidence strongly supports a quite different conclusion.

Internet Rule #34—Or, What’s Normal in Sex?

“If you can imagine it, there’s porn of it.” That’s about the simplest definition of this most evocative of Internet-linked axioms.

Paradox and Pragmatism in Women’s Sexual Desire

It’s intriguing—if not downright mystifying—how a woman’s mind and body, sexually speaking, can be at war with one another. It’s doubtless true that, however indiscriminately, Nature wants babies. But women require that many conditions be met before they’re actually ready to give in to their powerful mating instincts.

The Triggers of Sexual Desire Part 2: What’s Erotic for Women?

If there’s such a thing as porn for women, it revolves around the romance novel. And the amazing popularity of this literary genre suggests the vast differences that distinguish what arouses a woman’s libido vs. a man’s.

The Triggers of Sexual Desire: Men vs. Women

The findings of neuroscientific research on the nature and origins of our erotic interests aren't always intuitive. In fact, there's a good chance that major gaps exist in your understanding of where your sexual preferences really come from. Some of them may have puzzled you all along.

What Brain Science Can Teach You About Sex

This post is an introduction to a succession of posts I’ll be doing that explore the latest findings on human sexual desire. In particular, the series will focus on the various brain cues that fire the erotic imagination of males and females, regardless of . . .

Why Do Women Fall for Serial Killers?

What are the subconscious motives that drive a woman to become an ardent "fan"—or even wife—of a mass murderer? In this post I'll delve into the biological, sexual, and psychological dynamics that best explain such aberrant behavior.

The Wisest Quotes on Wisdom

What's most interesting about wisdom is that the best things said about it have been voiced many times over. There’s a universal understanding of wisdom that clearly transcends both time and place.

Afghan Massacre: How Accountable Are We If Our Brain Is Injured?

Out of context, such a question might sound strange—or possibly stupid. After all, if we're not responsible for our brain and what it tells us to do, who would be? But, on the other hand, what if, because of TBI and PTSD, we suffer a psychotic break?

Why You Can't Trust Your Brain

Anyone wanting an update on the fascinating developments in cognitive psychology and neuroscience (and, indirectly, evolutionary psychology as well) would do well to purchase a copy of David DiSalvo's informative and entertaining "What Makes Your Brain Happy and Why You Should Do the Opposite." . . .