What Makes Your Introversion Unique? 5 Ways to Tell

There are several ways to distinguish one introvert from another. All the same, this personality trait can be extremely tricky to define, for it embodies multiple dimensions.

Can of Worms? Pandora’s Box? Divulging Your Dark Secrets

As a psychologist, I’ve seen clients show tremendous ambivalence about bringing up certain subjects, particularly those suffused with fear, trepidation, guilt and shame.

Do Your Trees Keep You From Recognizing Your Forest?

It’s like not being able to see the forest for the trees. When you’re in the thick—or “thicket”—-of things, it’s hard to grasp the deeper dynamics of what’s going on in your life.

How Do You Accept the Unacceptable?

To many, accepting Donald Trump as the President-elect feels—on a gut level—almost impossible. After all, much of the population regards him as simply "unfit" for public office.

Voting? Your Right, Your Responsibility—Or Not

Many people question whether it’s worth the time and effort to vote in a presidential election—particularly when they have little enthusiasm or admiration for either candidate....

Emotionally Upset? 20 Ways to Defeat Negative Feelings

When your psychological chain gets yanked, it’s all too easy to get overwhelmed by powerful feelings. But losing control of your emotions is never a good thing.

6 Steps to Resolve Relationship Conflicts, Once and for All

Do you sometimes think you’ve worked through a conflict with your partner, only to have it show up again?

Trump: How Dark Is His Dark Side?

Is Trump a true misogynist—or maybe even a sexual predator? And does the latest video of his “locker talk” with Billy Bush tell us anything about him that we didn't already know?

How Your Regrets Can Actually Help You

Today in America the dominant opinion on regret is to get over it, let it go, or—if you’re a New Yorker—“fuhgeddaboudit!” In her TED Talk on the subject, Kathryn Schulz notes . . .

8 Crucial Differences Between Healthy and Unhealthy Pride

The term "pride" is saddled with negative connotations. But it can be a good thing, too. So is pride a matter of degree, as in "too much of a good thing"? Or is it something else?

“You’re SO Controlling!”

It’s crucial to realize that though you might feel invaded or exploited by your partner, that doesn't necessarily mean they have the desire to control you. But if they do . . .

Can You Help a Narcissist Become Less Self-Absorbed?

This post takes a fairly optimistic stance toward helping some, maybe even most, people with unhealthy narcissistic qualities change their detrimental, self-centered behaviors.

Too Self-Absorbed? These Tips Can Free You From . . . You

Solutions offered for detrimental self-absorption vary mostly on the basis of what drives such self-defeating rumination. Does it relate mostly to depression, anxiety, PTSD....?

Self-Absorption: The Root of All (Psychological) Evil?

If you’ve ever been called self-absorbed, you can be sure you weren’t getting a compliment. So why is it so easy to fall into the pit of obsessive rumination?

How to Raise Your Kids With High—and Healthy—Self-Esteem

This post is about what, as a parent, you do to ensure that your children grow up with a more positive self-image than you yourself may have had when you were young.

This Is the Most Powerful Way to Raise Your Self-Esteem

Most advice offered to raise self-esteem eventually falls flat. To raise your self-esteem, you must learn to cope with what you now prefer to avoid.

The Prisoner’s Dilemma and the "Virtues" of Tit for Tat

You’d probably agree that in an ideal universe you’d do best living your life in accord with the golden rule. But in the real world attempting such an existence is precarious....

Do You (Figuratively) Lick Your Wounds? Should You?

Metaphorically, for humans the essence of wound-licking involves not a lapping tongue but a rationalizing mind.

When Someone Won’t Talk About Their Childhood—Why Not?

If someone refuses to talk about their years growing up, you can safely assume that their past was hardly idyllic.

How to Talk About the Things You Don't Want to Talk About

You can learn to talk about difficult subjects with your partner. Doing so is vital to your relationship.

The Surprising Power of Just Giving Up

My last post addressed issues relating to fighting what is. This one links to situations where you can best triumph over difficulties through—paradoxically—surrendering to them.

LeBron James: Victorious in Cleveland at Last!

If there’s such a thing as a city's "psyche,” then Cleveland’s just got a boost even greater than their beloved/hated LeBron's returning to Cleveland from South Beach in 2014.

You Only Get More of What You Resist—Why?

Jung argued long ago that “what you resist not only persists, but will grow in size.” Today this paradoxical viewpoint is typically shortened to “What you resist persists." . . .

Are You Assertive Enough? Here's 25 Ways to Tell

It’s essential to know if your level of assertiveness is optimal. How else could you determine whether the way you stand up for yourself is most likely to get you what you want?

Can You See Yourself as Good Only by Seeing Yourself as Bad?

All children need—and desperately—to establish a secure bond with their caretakers. After all, absent such a vital connection, how can they not feel anxious and apprehensive?

Why Do Men Find Women’s Legs So Alluring?

Researchers have spent far less time studying men’s attraction to women’s legs than the typical man devotes to gazing at them . . . and maybe finding himself spellbound by them.

Life—Best Taken With Salt and Pepper

Do you “savor” your life as much as possible?

The Curse of Apathy: Sources and Solutions

What causes the feeling of non-feeling?

When Your Partner’s 'Caring' Feels More Like Controlling

Though behaviors routinely labeled “controlling” are hardly devoid of self-interest, they can’t be seen simply as acts of aggression against one’s partner either.

Outrage and Outrageousness: On Trump’s Popularity, Part 4

Although many people have described Trump's language as condescending, combative, or bullying, its aggressiveness doesn’t at all turn off his devoted followers. How come?

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