If you’ve ever been called self-absorbed, you can be sure you weren’t getting a compliment. So why is it so easy to fall into the pit of obsessive rumination?
This post is about what, as a parent, you do to ensure that your children grow up with a more positive self-image than you yourself may have had when you were young.
You’d probably agree that in an ideal universe you’d do best living your life in accord with the golden rule. But in the real world attempting such an existence is precarious....
My last post addressed issues relating to fighting what is. This one links to situations where you can best triumph over difficulties through—paradoxically—surrendering to them.
If there’s such a thing as a city's "psyche,” then Cleveland’s just got a boost even greater than their beloved/hated LeBron's returning to Cleveland from South Beach in 2014.
Jung argued long ago that “what you resist not only persists, but will grow in size.” Today this paradoxical viewpoint is typically shortened to “What you resist persists." . . .
It’s essential to know if your level of assertiveness is optimal. How else could you determine whether the way you stand up for yourself is most likely to get you what you want?
All children need—and desperately—to establish a secure bond with their caretakers. After all, absent such a vital connection, how can they not feel anxious and apprehensive?
Researchers have spent far less time studying men’s attraction to women’s legs than the typical man devotes to gazing at them . . . and maybe finding himself spellbound by them.
Though behaviors routinely labeled “controlling” are hardly devoid of self-interest, they can’t be seen simply as acts of aggression against one’s partner either.
Although many people have described Trump's language as condescending, combative, or bullying, its aggressiveness doesn’t at all turn off his devoted followers. How come?
What’s the nature of Donald Trump's devoted followers—who hardly flinch at the extreme positions he takes, or the strident put-downs or insults he’s so frequently guilty of?
This post will try to make some coherent sense of why so many people who are furious with the current direction of this country now look to "the Donald" to vindicate them.
Anger. It’s the emotion that goes with self-righteous indignation. It’s also the most “moralistic” of emotions, for it’s rooted in your sense of fairness—or rather, unfairness.
Because it’s been employed in so many fields—from algebra, to genetics, to aerospace, to sex and spirituality—X’s many meanings make it the most mystifying letter of the alphabet.
Crying conveys hurt. But what's frequently not recognized is that getting mad—in reaction to a perceived threat or injustice—is a desperate attempt to mask or minimize that hurt.
Traditionally, men whose wives have cheated on them have been scorned and stigmatized. So why have stories, images, and videos of so-called “cuckold sex” become so popular?
The question posed in this post’s title may sound almost nonsensical. How could you possibly be a victim of another’s conscience? Still, ask yourself: Is your super-ego tyrannical?
If what you’re anticipating is something you dread, your anxiety over it can be nerve-wracking. Say, you’re on pins and needles to find out the results of your recent MRI. . . .
My 30+ years as a therapist has led me to a curious conclusion about families: namely, that grandparents find it much easier to love their grandchildren unconditionally than . . .
It’s hard to think of anything more crucial to your relationships—including the all-important one with yourself—than the awareness of what words and deeds set you and others off.
This blog is mostly about helping readers develop deeper insights into themselves and others. Aiming to be as practical as possible--and adopting a non-blaming, non-shaming perspective toward our various foibles--it suggests ways in which we may become more aware, more contented, and happier, individuals. The therapist and writer's posts have more than 13 million views.