Having reviewed many 100s of quotations on the wonders--and woes--of romantic love, here are some that I think represent the very best. At the same time that many of the quotes below celebrate the many joys of romantic--almost fairy-tale--love, they typically also demonstrate great awareness of its transience, its maddening let-downs and instability. The most cynical quotations, which (I admit) are well-exemplified here, may perhaps have been written by those who loved--and lost.
But win or lose, who could deny that romantic love is life's most spectacular adventure? When we're transported from living in 3-D to the awe-inspiring expansiveness of 4-D, unquestionably it's in the consciousness-altering intensity of being in love. As William Thackeray opined: "To love and win is the best thing. To love and lose, the next best." Of course, when love fails--whether it's through being rejected, or falling out of love--our immediate distress, disappointment (or disenchantment) can feel utterly devastating. So in the short run, "loving and losing" probably doesn't feel much like "second best" at all. Yet it's definitely true that no matter how romantic love ends, the experience is one that can enrich us and tell us something about ourselves that almost certainly we wouldn't have realized earlier.
All in all, I think most people (at least on reflection) would agree that the tender--or tumultuous--experience of loving was worth it. At its best, romantic love transmutes into something less fervent but more balanced and mature. And, at the same time it becomes less passionate, it evolves into something deeper and broader. And love, even at its worst, well, it's still a learning experience--a most valuable one, too, as long as you allow it to teach you what you need to know to be more successful next time.
It's fascinating to me how many of the following quotes have a paradoxical flavor to them. The altered mood--even state of being--linked to loving seems inherently to lend itself to all sorts of ironic observations. My hope is that in reading through these quotes, you'll experience some delightful ah-ha! moments--along with whatever sighs, grimaces, and head shakes come up as a result of remembering lost loves, crushed dreams, dashed hopes, and so on.
Finally, quite a few of these quotations may have a lot more to do with infatuation than love (romantic or otherwise). For I define "infatuation" quite literally: that is, to be made to act foolishly (i.e., as derived from the word "fatuous"). So, for instance, we have these two quotes: "Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly" (Rose Franken), and "Love is being stupid together" (Paul Valery).
But enough introduction already . . . enjoy! These choice quotations--from classic to contemporary--are (to me at least) not simply food for thought, but precious delicacies to be nursed and savored:
The sweetest joy, the wildest woe is love. ~ Philip James Bailey
Mysterious love, uncertain treasure, Hast thou more of pain or pleasure! . . . . Endless torments dwell about thee: Yet who would live, and live without thee! ~ Joseph Addison
Love spends his all, and still hath store. ~ Philip James Bailey
Could I love less, I should be happier now. ~ Philip James Bailey
Love is for fools wise enough to take a chance. ~ Anonymous
People who are sensible about love are incapable of it. ~ Douglas Yates
A heart that loves is always young. ~ Proverb
One's first love is always perfect until one meets one's second love. ~ Elizabeth Aston
Love at first sight is one of the greatest labor-saving devices the world has ever seen. ~ Anonymous
Love conquers all things except poverty and toothache. ~ Mae West
Love is a many splintered thing. ~ Proverb
Love and eggs are best when they are fresh. ~ Proverb
Love makes the time pass. Time makes love pass. ~ Proverb
There is love, of course. And then there's life, its enemy. ~ Jean Anouilh
Love is like dew that falls on both nettles and lilies. ~ Proverb
Love is friendship set on fire. ~ Jeremy Taylor
Love and relationships are truly one of the most paradoxical aspects of being human. For it is in love that we find the greatest of strengths and the deepest of sorrows. Love can seem to be so fleeting and unachievable, yet it remains well within our reach if we only learn how to embrace its power. To experience true love, we must be willing to open ourselves up and sacrifice part of our heart and part of our soul. We must be willing to give of ourselves freely, and we must be willing to suffer. It is only when we expose our inner selves to the white hot flame of rejection, that love can burn so brightly as to join two souls, melding the two into one, creating a bond that joins forever. It is from this bond that we draw strength eternal and power everlasting. It is in this thing that we call love that we find the means to achieve greatness, both in ourselves and in our lives. ~ Anonymous
In this world of extremes, we can only love too little. ~ Rich Cannarella
Love is the word used to label the sexual excitement of the young, the habituation of the middle-aged, and the mutual dependence of the old. ~ John Ciardi
Love is a canvas furnished by nature and embroidered by imagination. ~ Voltaire
If there is anything better than to be loved it is loving. ~ Anonymous
Love built on beauty, soon as beauty, dies. ~ John Donne
He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals. ~ Benjamin Franklin
I never knew how to worship until I knew how to love. ~ Henry Ward Beecher
We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness, and call it love. ~ Anonymous
No one has ever loved anyone the way everyone wants to be loved. ~ Mignon McLaughlin
The one who loves less controls the relationship. ~ Anonymous
If love is blind, why is lingerie so popular? ~ Anonymous [frankly, I'm guessing that whoever came up with this one probably pleaded not to be identified!]
True love is when you put someone on a pedestal, and they fall--but you are there to catch them. ~ Anonymous
The woman cries before the wedding, the man after. ~ Proverb
Pleasure of love lasts but a moment, Pain of love lasts a lifetime. ~Jean Pierre Claris De Florian
Love won't be tampered with, love won't go away. Push it to one side and it creeps to the other. ~ Louise Erdrich
There is hardly any activity, any enterprise, which is started out with such tremendous hopes and expectations, and yet which fails so regularly, as love. ~ Erich Fromm
The love we give away is the only love we keep. ~ Elbert Hubbard
Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it. . . . It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk anything, you risk even more. ~ Erica Jong
We are not the same person this year as last; nor are those we love. It is a happy chance if we, changing, continue to love a changed person. ~ W. Somerset Maugham
Love is a temporary insanity, curable by marriage. ~ Ambrose Bierce
Romantic love is an illusion. Most of us discover this truth at the end of a love affair or else when the sweet emotions of love lead us into marriage and then turn down their flames. ~ Thomas Moore
Falling in love consists merely in uncorking the imagination and bottling the common-sense. ~ Helen Rowland
Falling in love doesn't kill people. Landing does. ~ Fang
Falling in love is so hard on the knees. ~ Aerosmith
Love isn't blind, it's retarded. ~ Don Foster & Susan Beavers
Love sought is good, but given unsought, is better. ~ William Shakespeare
There is no remedy for love but to love more. ~ Henry David Thoreau
When one is in love, one always begins by deceiving one's self, and one always ends by deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance. ~ Oscar Wilde
In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities. ~ Janos Arany
Love in action is a harsh and dreadful thing compared with love in dreams. ~ Fyodor Dostoevski
When we want to read of the deeds that are done for love, whither do we turn? To the murder column. ~ George Bernard Shaw
You know you're in love when you don't want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams. ~ Dr Seuss
After another moment's silence, she mumbled that I was peculiar, that that was probably why she loved me but that one day I might disgust her for the very same reason. ~ Albert Camus
The excesses of love soon pass, but its insufficiencies torment us forever. ~ Mignon McLaughlin
Once in awhile, right in the middle of an ordinary life, love gives us a fairy tale. ~ Anonymous
Love is something far more than desire for sexual intercourse; it is the principal means of escape from the loneliness which afflicts most men and women throughout the greater part of their lives. ~ Bertrand Russell
It is an extra dividend when you like the girl you've fallen in love with. ~ Clark Gable
To love and to be loved is to feel the sun from both sides. ~ David Viscott
Love lasteth long as the money endureth. ~ William Caxton
When poverty comes in at doors, love leaps out at windows. ~ John Clarke
Many a man in love with a dimple makes a mistake of marrying the whole girl. ~ Stephen Leacock
Love is a fan club with only two fans. ~ Anonymous
Love is the irresistible desire to be desired irresistibly. ~ Louis Ginzberg
The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never give enough of is love. ~ Henry Miller
Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other. ~ Ranier Maria Rilke
What most people need to learn in life is how to love people and use things instead of using people and loving things. ~ Anonymous
Love is the delightful interval between meeting a beautiful girl and discovering that she looks like a haddock. ~ John Barrymore
lovers alone wear sunlight. ~ e. e. cummings
In true love the smallest distance is too great, and the greatest distance can be bridged. ~ Hans Nouwens
Love doesn't make the world go 'round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile. ~ Elizabeth Barrett Browning
We are, each of us, angels with only one wing; and we can only fly by embracing one another. ~ Luciano de Crescenzo.
Love is not altogether a delirium, yet it has many points in common therewith. ~ Thomas Carlyle
People who throw kisses are hopelessly lazy. ~ Bob Hope
Forget love--I'd rather fall in chocolate! ~ Sandra J. Dykes
Love is a sweet tyranny, because the lover endureth his torments willingly. ~ Proverb
Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. ~ Robert Heinlein
We choose those we like; with those we love, we have no say in the matter. ~ Mignon McLaughlin
Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly. ~ Rose Franken
Love is being stupid together. ~ Paul Valery
I was nauseous and tingly all over. I was either in love or I had smallox. ~ Woody Allen
At the touch of love, everyone becomes a poet. ~ Plato
Perhaps the feelings that we experience when we are in love represent a normal state. Being in love shows a person who he should be. ~ Anton Chekhov
True love stories never have endings. ~ Richard Bach
The supreme happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved--loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves. ~ Victor Hugo
What the world really needs is more love and less paperwork. ~ Pearl Bailey
If you want to be loved, be lovable. ~ Ovid
Love can sometimes be magic. But magic can sometimes . . . just be an illusion. ~ Javan
We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love. ~ Tom Robbins
Love doesn't just sit there, like a stone; it has to be made, like bread, remade all the time, made new. ~ Ursula K. LeGuin.
The magic of first love is our ignorance that it can ever end. ~ Benjamin Disraeli
The very essence of romance is uncertainty. ~ Oscar Wilde
Love is a game that two can play and both win. ~ Eva Gabor
To love and win is the best thing. To love and lose, the next best. ~ William M. Thackeray.
There can be no peace of mind in love, since the advantage one has secured is never anything but a fresh starting-point for future desires. ~ Marcel Proust
Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. ~ H. L. Mencken.
One should always be in love. This is the reason why one should never marry. ~ Oscar Wilde
Nobody has ever measured, not even poets, how much the heart can hold. ~ Zelda Fitzgerald
Everyone admits that love is wonderful and necessary, yet no one agrees on just what it is. ~ Diane Ackerman
So, whether you're man or woman, girl or boy, straight or gay, Happy Valentine's Day!--This Year and Every Year!
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