Loving vs. Judging: How to Keep Your Romance Alive

Most people admit that the most exciting time of their relationship occurred in courtship. And surely nothing quite compares to its freshness, novelty, and intriguing uncertainty.

3 Reasons Why Couples Have the Same Fights Over and Over

If you’re married, or in a committed relationship, you’ve probably noticed that some of your arguments never seem to get resolved. Rather, they regularly get recycled.

On Listening—Take It in, Don't Take It On

Being able to accurately “take in” what someone is sharing is critical. For most people don’t require that you agree with them, just that you understand them.

Never Underestimate Your Partner’s Defenses, Here’s Why

All your psychological defenses exist to protect you from perceived ego threats. So any person menacing basic feelings of safety or security will compel you to react negatively.

A Nose Away From Beautiful

Besides its critical function in smell and breathing, the cartilaginous protrusion we call nose has long been crucial in considerations of human beauty. How could this not be so?

“I Have Feelings for You,” Its Eight Different Meanings

Virtually all of us would agree that such an emotional declaration as “I have feelings for you” implies fervid feelings of hopeful love. Unless, that is, it doesn’t.

Intellectual Bullies: What You Need to Know About Them

When we think of childhood bullying, we’re likely to conjure images of a vulnerable child’s being mocked to tears, or having to endure some form of sadistic physical abuse. But...

6 Reasons Why You May Not Know What You're Feeling

It might seem almost unfathomable that someone might not be able to recognize what they’re feeling. But the phenomenon is much more common than most people realize.

“It Takes One to Know One,” Truth or Half-Truth?

Besides my title, consider these expressions: “That’s the pot calling the kettle black”; “I know you are, but what am I?”; “Look who’s talking!” or You should talk!” or even...

Donald Trump: Is He as Unpredictable as He Seems?

Writers have struggled to figure out just what is guiding our new President’s decision-making. This post should illuminate a subject that may have made you wonder, too.

Do You Have Empathy for People Who Don't? Should You?

Liking empathic individuals is easy. They’re caring and listen sympathetically. But appreciating, and getting along with, individuals without empathy can be really challenging.

Caution—A Child’s Mistakes Can Last a Lifetime

In the above title, I’m using the term *mistake* in a dual sense. It’s intended to refer not only to a child's mistaken behaviors but also how parents can mistakenly react to them.

Couples—When Is the Last Time You Visited Your "Joy Museum"?

Has your relationship has become a little blah? Here's how to transcend your present frustrations and make it more fulfilling.

Surprise! There’s Value in Wasting Time, Energy, and Money

How many times have you wished you hadn’t initiated something that led to failure? Or bought something only to later discover it was useless—but kept too long to return?

What Makes Your Introversion Unique? 17 Ways to Tell

There are several ways to distinguish one introvert from another. All the same, this personality trait can be extremely tricky to define, for it embodies multiple dimensions.

Can of Worms? Pandora’s Box? Divulging Your Dark Secrets

As a psychologist, I’ve seen clients show tremendous ambivalence about bringing up certain subjects, particularly those suffused with fear, trepidation, guilt and shame.

Do Your Trees Keep You From Recognizing Your Forest?

It’s like not being able to see the forest for the trees. When you’re in the thick—or “thicket”—-of things, it’s hard to grasp the deeper dynamics of what’s going on in your life.

How Do You Accept the Unacceptable?

To many, accepting Donald Trump as the President-elect feels—on a gut level—almost impossible. After all, much of the population regards him as simply "unfit" for public office.

Voting? Your Right, Your Responsibility—Or Not

Many people question whether it’s worth the time and effort to vote in a presidential election—particularly when they have little enthusiasm or admiration for either candidate....

Emotionally Upset? 20 Ways to Defeat Negative Feelings

When your psychological chain gets yanked, it’s all too easy to get overwhelmed by powerful feelings. But losing control of your emotions is never a good thing.

6 Steps to Resolve Relationship Conflicts, Once and for All

Do you sometimes think you’ve worked through a conflict with your partner, only to have it show up again?

Trump: How Dark Is His Dark Side?

Is Trump a true misogynist—or maybe even a sexual predator? And does the latest video of his “locker talk” with Billy Bush tell us anything about him that we didn't already know?

How Your Regrets Can Actually Help You

Today in America the dominant opinion on regret is to get over it, let it go, or—if you’re a New Yorker—“fuhgeddaboudit!” In her TED Talk on the subject, Kathryn Schulz notes . . .

8 Crucial Differences Between Healthy and Unhealthy Pride

The term "pride" is saddled with negative connotations. But it can be a good thing, too. So is pride a matter of degree, as in "too much of a good thing"? Or is it something else?

“You’re SO Controlling!”

It’s crucial to realize that though you might feel invaded or exploited by your partner, that doesn't necessarily mean they have the desire to control you. But if they do . . .

Can You Help a Narcissist Become Less Self-Absorbed?

This post takes a fairly optimistic stance toward helping some, maybe even most, people with unhealthy narcissistic qualities change their detrimental, self-centered behaviors.

Too Self-Absorbed? These Tips Can Free You From . . . You

Solutions offered for detrimental self-absorption vary mostly on the basis of what drives such self-defeating rumination. Does it relate mostly to depression, anxiety, PTSD....?

Self-Absorption: The Root of All (Psychological) Evil?

If you’ve ever been called self-absorbed, you can be sure you weren’t getting a compliment. So why is it so easy to fall into the pit of obsessive rumination?

How to Raise Your Kids With High—and Healthy—Self-Esteem

This post is about what, as a parent, you do to ensure that your children grow up with a more positive self-image than you yourself may have had when you were young.

This Is the Most Powerful Way to Raise Your Self-Esteem

Most advice offered to raise self-esteem eventually falls flat. To raise your self-esteem, you must learn to cope with what you now prefer to avoid.