Autumn is the cyclical time of year when change becomes particularly clear. The fruition of plants--fruits, vegetables, and flowers occurs; and they fall whether by nature or people. These products of the plant world typically have strikingly attractive colors--yellows, oranges, and reds--and stimulate emotions. Not only current feelings but memories of the past are evoked.

"Autumn," oil, 2015, F.J. Ninivaggi
Source: "Autumn," oil, 2015, F.J. Ninivaggi

 The experience of envy, discussed in previous posts, is multifactorial both cognitively and emotionally. Cognitively, envy is marked by a stark awareness of contrasts; emotionally, by pronounced feelings of attraction that may include admiration, acquisition, disgust, and "spoiling." "Spoiling" here denotes devaluing (denying, dismissing, suppressing, or darkening) what one cannot have. It results in frustration and a subliminal state of loss. Envy as an attitude in the autumn might also involve wishing to regain the spring or summer---things past.

Analogously, many have equated autumn with the ripening and decline associated with older age. The connection between 'starts' and 'endings' has developmental roots. As discussed in  Biomental Child Development: Perspectives on Psychology and Parenting, what transpires in infancy and childhood maintains its genetic continuity into adulthood. How emotions are felt and managed early in life directly affects--without a doubt--how they are experienced in adult life--how they affect adult trajectories about relationships, work, and successful outcomes. This book details the earliest roots of observable visual, hand, and arm development that heralds how "attachment and letting go" emerge, develop, and proceed. It correlates the physical with the emotional side.

"Bio-mental" dimensions, two sides of one coin, are discussed. Some fascinating correlations are made, and the psychological implications offer useful insights. The healthy maturation of envy is possible. This is always important to remember since it may let one undergo a series of psychological changes: feel emotions of loss and current nonpossession, come to terms with acceptance rather than resentment/resignment, and then to move on.

Autumn can be or become a time of reflection, reassessment, improvement, and forward progress. Often, late autumn afternoons have a pleasant and equilibrating tone where mild sunlight, even temperature, and a quiet stillness become conducive to reflection on life--one's own life and what it means--both individually and interpersonally. A poignant awareness of---and empathy for change and reflection on---its salience can offer an impetus toward enhanced self-development.

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