Autumn is the time of year when change is most apparent.

"Autumn," oil, 2015, F.J. Ninivaggi
Source: "Autumn," oil, 2015, F.J. Ninivaggi

Autumn is a cyclical time of year. The fruition of plants--fruits, vegetables, and flowers occurs. They fall whether by nature or people. These products of the plant world typically have strikingly attractive colors--yellows, oranges, and reds--and also excite emotions. Not only current feelings but memories of the past are evoked.

 The experience of envy, discussed in previous posts, is multifactorial both cognitively and emotionally. Cognitively, envy is marked by a stark awareness of contrasts: present-absent; emotionally, by mixed feelings of attraction that may include admiration, acquisition, distress, disgust, and a wish to spoil so that the discrepancy of comparison and not having or loss goes away.

"Spoiling" here denotes devaluing (denying, dismissing, suppressing, or darkening) what one cannot have. It results in frustration and a subliminal state of loss. Envy as an attitude in the autumn might also involve wishing to regain (the spring or summer---) things past.

Analogously, many have equated autumn with the ripening and decline connected with older age. The connection between "starts" and "endings" has developmental sources. As discussed in Biomental Child Development: Perspectives on Psychology and Parenting, what happens in infancy and childhood maintains its genetic continuity into adulthood.

How emotions are felt and managed early in life directly influences, without a doubt, how they are experienced in adult life--how they affect adult trajectories about relationships, work, and successful outcomes. That book details the earliest roots of observable visual, hand, and arm development that shows how "attachment and letting go" emerge, develop, and progress. It correlates the physical with the emotional side, i.e., "biomental."

"Biomental" dimensions, two sides of one coin, are discussed. Some interesting correlations are made, and the psychological implications offer useful insights. The healthy maturation of envy is possible. This potential for transformation is relevant to remember since it has the power to let one undergo a series of mental changes: feel emotions of loss and current nonpossession, come to terms with acceptance rather than resentment/resignment, and then move on.

Autumn can be or become a time of reflection, reassessment, improvement, and forward progress. Often, late fall afternoons have a pleasant and equilibrating tone where mild sunlight, even temperature, and a quiet stillness become favorable to reflection on life--one's life and what it means--both individually and interpersonally.

Taking stock of one's life, empathy for change, and hope for improvement offer incentives toward enhanced self-development.

Are your eyes open to seeing you?

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