Staying Connected in Long-Term Relationships

In order to hold on to each other, you must first learn how to hold onto yourself.

Teenagers Are From Earth

Our black-and-white thinking about adolescence is getting in our way.

Praising Kids for Unimpressive Accomplishments

Overvaluing your kids accomplishments may result in self-centeredness and low achievement.

Reading Your Partner Better Can Change the Way You Fight

Interpreting anger and withdrawal as protests against disconnection can improve how your relate to your partner.

Being in The Midst of Life

The holidays highlight our difficulty in truly engaging with others.

The Biggest Problem With Parenting Advice

Parenting advice tends to encourage parents to take too much or too little control. How can parents find their balance amidst these contradictory messages?

Why People Cut

Cutting may be more of an attempt at self-soothing than self-harming.

The Problem with Time-Outs

New research shows that time-outs may actually dysregulate children and negatively impact their brains. Is it time to abandon this practice?

Staying Engaged When You're Maxed Out

When you're depressed or overwhelmed, it's best to avoid the pull toward inactivity.

Addicted to Love

Brain research suggests that early love can function like a destructive addiction, but it's benefit must be balanced against its threat.

What’s Wrong With Being Cool

Self-doubt, adolescent angst, and even social awkwardness may pay off In adulthood.

Why the Way You Fight Can Threaten Your Relationship

Research suggests that it may be better to fight than to give your partner the silent treatment.

Aging Gracefully

What can high school reunions and research teach us about aging well?

What's the Value of Smoking?

Does smoking help us cope with stress?

Is Facebook Distorting Your View of the World?

Many of us are compulsive about checking Facebook but feel bored or irritated when we do.

What's Good About Feeling Bad?

Pushing past grief is not the same thing as moving through it.

Should We Live Together?

Does living together before marriage increase your likelihood of divorce?

Surviving the Holidays Without Cracking

Why is it, at the time of year when we want to feel the most happy with our children, we often feel the most frustrated?

Is It Normal to Have Trouble Paying Attention?

Are you having trouble concentrating? You probably don't have ADHD.

Why Is Marriage So Hard?

In a good marriage, tension must be sustained all the time.

How Do Our Smartphones Threaten Our Happiness?

On solitude and sadness and other good things the internet is taking away.

Giving Our Mental Energy to the Good Stuff

Why do we focus on the negative more than the positive and how can we stop?

What Could Be Good About Fearing Death?

Most of us try not to spend too much time thinking about our own death. But even if we do, we may be able to make something out the anxiety and terror attached to it.

The Personal and Cultural Truth of Diagnosis

How are people with Asperger's affected by the elimination of the category? What should we make of the subjectivity of diagnosis in general? In redefining diagnoses, we often ignore the broader meanings attached.

The Burden of Our Potential

The uncertainty of death gives us a dizzying freedom of possibility. But the flip side of this potential is a whole lot of anxiety.

The Dark Side of Healthy Attachment

Even the happiest, most securely attached children can be intrusive, overwhelming, and suffocating.

Oz the Great and Archetypal

Like traditional fairy tales, and unlike "safe" stories, Oz the Great and Powerful enables kids to grapple with conflict and complexity.

It's Not Enough to Listen

Effective empathy requires a willingness to inhabit another's perspective.

The Myth of Resilient Children

Simplistic notions of children as resilient ignore the ways that negative events and conditions can forever change us.

Why Are the Sixties So Sexy?

Since the moment the sixties ended, our fascination with the decade has been uniquely intense. Not until recently, though, have we been able to place into any greater context, practices like encounter groups and psychedelic use, which were at once seductive, thrilling and deeply threatening.

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