I have worked with numerous couples who could be in a great relationship, except they both have forgotten to be thoughtful to one another, and the resentment has built to the point where therapy is no longer a choice but a necessity.
Some couples find that, while it can be deceptively easy to get their relationships back on track after a normal disagreement, it’s much harder to keep it moving in that direction, especially when unexpected events derail us.
Intimacy, by its very nature, requires us to be vulnerable. Our partner, lover, or mate can know us to our very core, sometimes better than we know ourselves, and that can make any of us feel totally exposed.
Valentine's Day was a humble day of remembrance until it was made a holiday. It wasn't by some mystical event or act of Congress—the holiday part of 2/14 was created by a greeting card company. But for those who bask in this day of love, it doesn't matter. What counts is that romance comes their way.
Research has shown that couples who argue disrespectfully more than twenty percent of the time are probably not going to survive. Hopefully these tips will help you get your arguments under control and reduce the level of energy in those arguments. If not, and if you want to keep your relationship, you need to find a qualified couple's therapist.
Emotional support comes in a variety of shapes and sizes. Having the desire and ability to be giving to your partner is far more important than doing it exactly right. Here are some tips to help you nourish each other's hearts.
I will forever believe in and nurture my relationships. Yes, there are rough patches—sometimes it seems like you just jump from one to another. Sex always has its own set of issues and sometimes it's even used as a weapon to garner power with a partner. But a committed couple can work through these problems.
"In his blog, Barton Goldsmith has done something unique. He has assembled a remarkable list of ideas and exercises for couples that will actually work. And he has done it without the befuddlement of theory, yet every post exhibits a theory of change. It’s simple. What would make marriage work for everyone is not rocket science. It is commonsense. Not a single suggestion or exercise is exotic or complicated or requires a college degree. All of them ring of commonsense. The only way a couple could fail is to not do the work." —Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.