Don't Blame Your Lover for Your Bad Mood

Learning that you need to take personal responsibility for your own moods can be a relationship saver. It’s especially important to avoid inflicting a bad mood onto your partner. What’s known in psychotherapy as “negative projection” can make someone you love doubt themselves and their relationship with you.

Being a Single Parent Is NOT Easy

Keeping your spirits up is also very important to raising a child on your own. You don’t want to lay your troubles on your child—the kids are already dealing with a bunch of difficult emotions. Take care of yourself so you can take care of your child. As the instructions you get on an airplane say, “Put your own oxygen mask on first, then help your children.”

Anticipation: A Mandatory Step in the Dance of Love

In any new relationship, there is always an element of risk, and that may be what the anticipation is about. Let it keep you on your toes, so you can dance the night away with the one you love.

When Your Love Life Hits a Low Point

So the bloom is off the rose, and your relationship has been heading south for a few months or perhaps even years. Both of you know it, but neither of you talk about it. The feeling just hangs in the air like the smell of a wet dog, but nobody is wagging their tail. You have entered the relationship doldrums.

Taking Positive Actions Changes Your Life

Rather than just keeping the positivity to yourself, you need to share it. Having a positive influence on those around you will change the way you feel inside. Just doing this can make you a happier person, even if you are dealing with very difficult issues.

10 Tips to Start Over for 2014

The new year is a great time to start over. Remember that once you honestly commit to the changes, you have already begun the process.

Believe in Your Relationship

Believing in each other will enhance your life together as a couple. You can start right now by making an honest assessment of where you are in your life and by begining the repair process if you have any doubts about your relationship. The truth is it’s the only way you can move to the next level.

Share Your Difficult Feelings With the One You Love

They say talk is cheap, but it is really one of the most valuable things you can do to move your life forward and lessen your pain. It is also a true gift of friendship and love. When you take the risk of putting yourself out there to someone you trust, most often you’ll find yourself rewarded.

How to Ease Tension at Holiday Time

You don’t have to be a Santaholic to enjoy the holidays. Just don’t do things that you know will stress you out. Allow the true meaning of the season to flow into your heart and head.

8 Great Ways to Get Along Better with Your Partner

Too much time gets spent dealing with things after they have gone wrong. Using these tools will help prevent problems and make life with your partner more enjoyable.

10 Loving Habits of the Happiest Couples

Life can be difficult, but with a partner who is willing to lighten your burden, it can be a sweet experience too.

How the Habit of Gratitude Leads to Happiness

I love the Thanksgiving holiday because it is a reminder to us all that we need to be grateful for what we have—and the Pilgrims didn’t have much. Mostly they had hardships, but they still believed in gratitude.

The Importance of Allowing Yourself to Relax

The idea here is that by giving ourselves a break and just enjoying a day off, we can make our lives better and actually create greater good in our world than if we constantly are trying to get things done.

The Tragedy of “Beauty”

Nearly 35 years later, the impact of this story makes the people I have shared it with shake their heads in disbelief. Yes, this did happen, and we can learn a lesson from it.

Don't Bury Your Feelings

When you open your mouth, you are also opening your heart, and knowing that someone truly hears what you are feeling and understands you is soothing to your soul.

10 Habits of Great Friends

The essence of friendship is about care and respect. It has nothing to do with money, attractiveness, or “the cool factor.” A true friend is there for you, no matter what, and having such a person in your life is a great gift. Here are ten tools to help you create better friendships.

Look Ahead to Strengthen Your Relationship

If you plan to be with your partner for the long haul, communicating about what you want and need beyond the next trip to the market or to Disneyland is something you need to do. One benefit of this process is that when something in life changes the way you live, you can get back on track much more easily.

10 Tips for Getting Along Better with Your Ex

Understand that ex's are people too. It's (unfortunately) natural to put yourself first. Knowing that it's not all about you is a learned thing. Your ex still has a few good qualities, keep those in mind when you communicate.

Feelings Aren’t Facts

Emotions are at the core of our motivation: They are our muses and they are why we continue on with life even in the face of disappointment or disaster. Being emotional is not a bad thing, furthermore, as a psychotherapist (and a human being), I believe that emotions are a very good thing.

Are You Being Thoughtful to the One You Love?

Knowing that you have a thoughtful partner makes getting through those rough patches much easier, because you know that your mate will be there for you, no matter what.

8 Ways to Learn From Your Mistakes

We can all be overly self-critical, especially when we realize that our behavior could have been better than it was, but luckily we can learn from our mistakes and we can do better the next time around. Here’s how.

How to Be Mad at the One You Love

It seems counterintuitive, but when you’re mad at someone you care for, the best way to deal with your unhealed anger is to talk about it. All too often, we don’t feel like speaking to the person who has irritated us, no matter who it is. But clamming up or inappropriately venting will only cause more ill feelings.

The Difference Between Sex And Intimacy

Giving and showing intimacy is highly underrated. Many people don’t realize how powerful these little acts can actually be. You can change the course of a bad relationship and make a good relationship great just by being a little more loving and creating, as well as enjoying, greater intimacy between the two of you.

If You Think Your Partner Is Cheating

People cheat for different reasons. They may love their partners at the time. Sex addiction, personal insecurity, and payback are just some of the reasons both men and women have extramarital affairs. None of them are good, but understanding why can help.

8 Things That Can Hold You Back AND Make You Stronger

Whenever anyone asks me how I became successful, I always give the same answer: I’ve made a lot of mistakes, and I’ve learned from them. So can you.

Top 10 Habits of Good Communicators

Miscommunication is the number one reason most people don’t get along. Whether it’s from a lack of understanding or something misspoken, you can use your emotions to help you heal the hurt with a thoughtful conversation.

The Immense Benefits of Emotional Generosity

Once you open your heart to the goodness that someone who truly loves you can provide, it will change how you feel and make your world a much better place to be.

8 Ways to Make Your Relationship Work Better

Every successful relationship needs the care and nurturing of two committed adults, giving to each other in a way that creates a mutually beneficial connection. Giving your relationship what it needs to thrive is a truly loving gesture. Make the effort. You are both worth it.

The Importance of Sharing a Bed with Your Lover

I am not suggesting that you have to stay snug in each other’s arms all night long. Most people cannot sleep that way. But just by sharing a bed and being able to reach over and touch the one you love, you will feel better about your life.

10 Habits of Happy People

Happiness and fulfillment are within your grasp, but sometimes just out of reach. Understanding what works best for you is the first step in finding more of it.