Don't Bury Your Feelings

When you open your mouth, you are also opening your heart, and knowing that someone truly hears what you are feeling and understands you is soothing to your soul.

10 Habits of Great Friends

The essence of friendship is about care and respect. It has nothing to do with money, attractiveness, or “the cool factor.” A true friend is there for you, no matter what, and having such a person in your life is a great gift. Here are ten tools to help you create better friendships.

Look Ahead to Strengthen Your Relationship

If you plan to be with your partner for the long haul, communicating about what you want and need beyond the next trip to the market or to Disneyland is something you need to do. One benefit of this process is that when something in life changes the way you live, you can get back on track much more easily.

10 Tips for Getting Along Better with Your Ex

Understand that ex's are people too. It's (unfortunately) natural to put yourself first. Knowing that it's not all about you is a learned thing. Your ex still has a few good qualities, keep those in mind when you communicate.

Feelings Aren’t Facts

Emotions are at the core of our motivation: They are our muses and they are why we continue on with life even in the face of disappointment or disaster. Being emotional is not a bad thing, furthermore, as a psychotherapist (and a human being), I believe that emotions are a very good thing.

Are You Being Thoughtful to the One You Love?

Knowing that you have a thoughtful partner makes getting through those rough patches much easier, because you know that your mate will be there for you, no matter what.

8 Ways to Learn From Your Mistakes

We can all be overly self-critical, especially when we realize that our behavior could have been better than it was, but luckily we can learn from our mistakes and we can do better the next time around. Here’s how.

How to Be Mad at the One You Love

It seems counterintuitive, but when you’re mad at someone you care for, the best way to deal with your unhealed anger is to talk about it. All too often, we don’t feel like speaking to the person who has irritated us, no matter who it is. But clamming up or inappropriately venting will only cause more ill feelings.

The Difference Between Sex And Intimacy

Giving and showing intimacy is highly underrated. Many people don’t realize how powerful these little acts can actually be. You can change the course of a bad relationship and make a good relationship great just by being a little more loving and creating, as well as enjoying, greater intimacy between the two of you.

If You Think Your Partner Is Cheating

People cheat for different reasons. They may love their partners at the time. Sex addiction, personal insecurity, and payback are just some of the reasons both men and women have extramarital affairs. None of them are good, but understanding why can help.

8 Things That Can Hold You Back AND Make You Stronger

Whenever anyone asks me how I became successful, I always give the same answer: I’ve made a lot of mistakes, and I’ve learned from them. So can you.

Top 10 Habits of Good Communicators

Miscommunication is the number one reason most people don’t get along. Whether it’s from a lack of understanding or something misspoken, you can use your emotions to help you heal the hurt with a thoughtful conversation.

The Immense Benefits of Emotional Generosity

Once you open your heart to the goodness that someone who truly loves you can provide, it will change how you feel and make your world a much better place to be.

8 Ways to Make Your Relationship Work Better

Every successful relationship needs the care and nurturing of two committed adults, giving to each other in a way that creates a mutually beneficial connection. Giving your relationship what it needs to thrive is a truly loving gesture. Make the effort. You are both worth it.

The Importance of Sharing a Bed with Your Lover

I am not suggesting that you have to stay snug in each other’s arms all night long. Most people cannot sleep that way. But just by sharing a bed and being able to reach over and touch the one you love, you will feel better about your life.

10 Habits of Happy People

Happiness and fulfillment are within your grasp, but sometimes just out of reach. Understanding what works best for you is the first step in finding more of it.

When It’s Time to Find Love Again

It seems that Summer is a good time to start fresh. And for some, that means finding a new relationship.

When You've Got the Blahs

Not all your days can be good ones, but they don’t have to be blah either. So take these tips, add a few of your own, and the next time you get a case of the blahs, you will be ready to kick them to the next county.

10 Tips to Revitalize Your Relationship

Sometimes the idea of trying new things with your partner can seem daunting. The truth is that doing things differently will not only keep your relationship healthy it will also stimulate your mind and heart. Here are some ideas.

Love is All You Need - Or Is It?

Love can give you a ton of energy. It can help make the difference between wellness and continued illness, see you through an uncomfortable situation, or inspire you to get real creative.

Ten Ways to Feel Better About Yourself

Some days are better than others. On those days that go less well, we usually end up being hard on ourselves. Here are some tools to avoid doing so.

Is Revenge Worth the Effort?

Why is it that, as a culture, we are fascinated by revenge? It has been the subplot of soap operas and the subject of endless hours of therapy.

Ten Rules to Love By

Couples go through all kinds of ups and downs. As long as we are learning, then we have the ability to keep our relationships moving forward. Here are some rules to love by that have guided many couples to bliss and beyond.

Love Is Not Constant or Consistent

Love is not constant. It waxes and wanes like the moon. Having an argument or feeling bugged by your partner’s demands or desires doesn’t mean that your relationship needs to be put in the recycle bin. It means that you have to understand and talk about the natural course of feelings that ebb and flow throughout emotional connections.

Ten Ways to Put Magic Back Into Your Relationship

Putting the passion back into your relationship isn’t rocket science. All is takes is the desire and some communication. Approach this area playfully and remember to listen to your partner as you explore each other and find new ways of relating.

8 Ways to Keep Your Life Moving in the Right Direction

Many people feel that they can’t seem to get their lives moving in the right direction. If you embrace these attitudes, you will find it much easier to get where you want to go.

Independence and Interdependence—What's Best for Love?

The healthiest way we can interact with those close to us is by being truly interdependent.

Ten Positive Ways to Make Your Relationship Better

If your relationship is in trouble and you want to stay together, you have to take action. Doing more of what works and less of what doesn’t is a great place to begin the process. Here are ten things that many couples who have endured difficult times and emerged stronger have done.

Moving On Gracefully

The divorce is final. It seems like you’re moving on with your life, but are you really? Sometimes it’s hard to tell where your former relationship left off and your new existence begins.

Ten Actions That Create Relationship Happiness

I have often been asked, "What makes a relationship work?" Here are my Top 10 Tips for a successful relationship. These are things couples in successful relationships do. Don't try to do them all at once; pick one and see how it works for you, then try another. Not everything is going to work for everybody, but using any one of these tips will improve your relationship.