What Love Gives You

Most of us have had a bad relationship or two, maybe twenty-two. It’s natural to crave companionship when you’re alone, but it’s also natural to be a little gun-shy if you’ve been in relationships that didn’t work out. If you are feeling reluctant to find love again, here are a few reasons why I believe it’s worth the effort.

Making Up - The Right Way

After an argument, most couples have some difficulty making up and getting back to normal (whatever that is). Both parties want to feel that things are resolved, but when hurt feelings have been bouncing around your hearts, it can be problematic.

Toxic Relationships

I have watched people deteriorate physically after being in an unhealthy relationship for too long. Negative people can suck the life right out of you, which is why they are sometimes called “emotional vampires.”

10 Ways to Get Happier - NOW!

Everyone deals with anxiety and depression in some way at some point in their lives. Many therapists agree that depression can look just like anxiety, and sometimes it’s hard to tell what is making you feel uncomfortable. Even though depression and anxiety affect people differently, there are some things you can do that will benefit you if you suffer from either.

Having a Positive Relationship

Being positive and allowing that feeling to flow through your relationship is a wonderful way to go through life with the one you love. You can make the choice to be a positive couple and enjoy the happiness that comes with it.

10 Ways to Create More Love in Your Relationship

Expressing your love shouldn’t be reserved for special occasions. It should be a constant in your relationship—and that means doing more than just repeating the “three little words.” Here are some tips to get you started.

Dating, Mating, and Relating Online

There are so many people online these days, you may find this process a lot easier than you’d think. Remember not to be overly concerned about looks. Very few of us resemble movie stars. A kind and loving person with whom you share similar interests and values is far more desirable than a pretty face or hard body.

Affection Is an All-Year-Long Activity

The answer here is that if you want more affection in your relationship, then let your partner know it and show him or her the types of affection that work best for you. Your loved one may have other needs of which you were unaware, and you can discover new ways of being affectionate with each other.

Depending on Yourself

When you know you can count on those you love, those who are on your team, and perhaps most importantly yourself, you have the tools you need to get through a rough patch or create something new and wonderful in your life.

Don't Blame Your Lover for Your Bad Mood

Learning that you need to take personal responsibility for your own moods can be a relationship saver. It’s especially important to avoid inflicting a bad mood onto your partner. What’s known in psychotherapy as “negative projection” can make someone you love doubt themselves and their relationship with you.

Being a Single Parent Is NOT Easy

Keeping your spirits up is also very important to raising a child on your own. You don’t want to lay your troubles on your child—the kids are already dealing with a bunch of difficult emotions. Take care of yourself so you can take care of your child. As the instructions you get on an airplane say, “Put your own oxygen mask on first, then help your children.”

Anticipation: A Mandatory Step in the Dance of Love

In any new relationship, there is always an element of risk, and that may be what the anticipation is about. Let it keep you on your toes, so you can dance the night away with the one you love.

When Your Love Life Hits a Low Point

So the bloom is off the rose, and your relationship has been heading south for a few months or perhaps even years. Both of you know it, but neither of you talk about it. The feeling just hangs in the air like the smell of a wet dog, but nobody is wagging their tail. You have entered the relationship doldrums.

Taking Positive Actions Changes Your Life

Rather than just keeping the positivity to yourself, you need to share it. Having a positive influence on those around you will change the way you feel inside. Just doing this can make you a happier person, even if you are dealing with very difficult issues.

10 Tips to Start Over for 2014

The new year is a great time to start over. Remember that once you honestly commit to the changes, you have already begun the process.

Believe in Your Relationship

Believing in each other will enhance your life together as a couple. You can start right now by making an honest assessment of where you are in your life and by begining the repair process if you have any doubts about your relationship. The truth is it’s the only way you can move to the next level.

Share Your Difficult Feelings With the One You Love

They say talk is cheap, but it is really one of the most valuable things you can do to move your life forward and lessen your pain. It is also a true gift of friendship and love. When you take the risk of putting yourself out there to someone you trust, most often you’ll find yourself rewarded.

How to Ease Tension at Holiday Time

You don’t have to be a Santaholic to enjoy the holidays. Just don’t do things that you know will stress you out. Allow the true meaning of the season to flow into your heart and head.

8 Great Ways to Get Along Better with Your Partner

Too much time gets spent dealing with things after they have gone wrong. Using these tools will help prevent problems and make life with your partner more enjoyable.

10 Loving Habits of the Happiest Couples

Life can be difficult, but with a partner who is willing to lighten your burden, it can be a sweet experience too.

How the Habit of Gratitude Leads to Happiness

I love the Thanksgiving holiday because it is a reminder to us all that we need to be grateful for what we have—and the Pilgrims didn’t have much. Mostly they had hardships, but they still believed in gratitude.

The Importance of Allowing Yourself to Relax

The idea here is that by giving ourselves a break and just enjoying a day off, we can make our lives better and actually create greater good in our world than if we constantly are trying to get things done.

The Tragedy of “Beauty”

Nearly 35 years later, the impact of this story makes the people I have shared it with shake their heads in disbelief. Yes, this did happen, and we can learn a lesson from it.

Don't Bury Your Feelings

When you open your mouth, you are also opening your heart, and knowing that someone truly hears what you are feeling and understands you is soothing to your soul.

10 Habits of Great Friends

The essence of friendship is about care and respect. It has nothing to do with money, attractiveness, or “the cool factor.” A true friend is there for you, no matter what, and having such a person in your life is a great gift. Here are ten tools to help you create better friendships.

Look Ahead to Strengthen Your Relationship

If you plan to be with your partner for the long haul, communicating about what you want and need beyond the next trip to the market or to Disneyland is something you need to do. One benefit of this process is that when something in life changes the way you live, you can get back on track much more easily.

10 Tips for Getting Along Better with Your Ex

Understand that ex's are people too. It's (unfortunately) natural to put yourself first. Knowing that it's not all about you is a learned thing. Your ex still has a few good qualities, keep those in mind when you communicate.

Feelings Aren’t Facts

Emotions are at the core of our motivation: They are our muses and they are why we continue on with life even in the face of disappointment or disaster. Being emotional is not a bad thing, furthermore, as a psychotherapist (and a human being), I believe that emotions are a very good thing.

Are You Being Thoughtful to the One You Love?

Knowing that you have a thoughtful partner makes getting through those rough patches much easier, because you know that your mate will be there for you, no matter what.

8 Ways to Learn From Your Mistakes

We can all be overly self-critical, especially when we realize that our behavior could have been better than it was, but luckily we can learn from our mistakes and we can do better the next time around. Here’s how.

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