Dating is a kind of due diligence. It gives you the opportunity to get to know a person you may have feelings for. This process is very important, because even though you may be feeling the love, the two of you may not be able to live together.
Dating gives you the opportunity to ask a ton of questions, and asking questions is the number one thing that daters need to learn to do. Trust me, you won’t get the answers you need from anyone’s online profile. But by asking the right questions, you will learn about your potential new partner’s past and what his or her hopes and dreams are. Monica Leahy’s book, 1001 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married, is a great resource.
Here are some mistakes to avoid while dating:
When you see red flags—whatever they may be to you—don’t ignore them. If someone has done things in the past that conflict with your values, or if he or she believes in things that make you uncomfortable, honor your own feelings and don’t make any future plans. A bad person can still make you feel good, at least for a little while, so be careful and don’t get caught up in a situation that could hurt you in the end.
Dating, relating, and mating can be a challenge in modern times. You can avoid some painful mistakes if you apply a little common sense and refuse to settle for less than you deserve.