With the popularity of shows like Cheaters, along with the hundreds of stories about people reconnecting with their high school sweethearts through Facebook, it’s no wonder there is more insecurity as well as infidelity out there.
Suspicions of infidelity can arise when your mate’s cell phone rings in the middle of the night. It was most likely a wrong number, but you can’t get the idea out of your head that it might be “someone else.”
People cheat for different reasons. They may love their partners at the time. Sex addiction, personal insecurity, and payback are just some of the reasons both men and women have extramarital affairs. None of them are good, but understanding why can help.
One of the best things you can do in a situation like this is to talk about it with your partner. You need to ask those tough questions and admit to your feelings. Try to get on the same page with your lover so that the two of you can reassure each other. Unfortunately, if the one you share your bed with is unwilling to have this conversation, it will only give rise to greater suspicion. At that point, you may need to discuss things with a counselor.
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