We all honor and remember our fathers in different ways. Here are what some people I respect feel about their dad’s on his special day:

“In moments of personal doubt, I remember my father’s unlived journey, and I do what needs to be done, for him, in the hope that it might work backward in time to free up his life.”—James Hollis, author of What Matters Most: Living a More Considered Life

“The most important thing my father taught me is that when you give your word, you keep your word, no matter what.  A man is only as good as his word.  That resulted in my own number one rule for Life and Business:  ‘Do what you said you would do, when you said you would do it, the way you said you would do it.’”—Larry Winget, New York Times bestselling author of Your Kids Are Your Own Fault

“My father had so many wonderfully inspiring quotes that caused me to think and feel deeply since the time of my early childhood. One that stands out profoundly is what he shared with me about love.  ‘Love is a gift, and gifts are given without attachment. When I say I love you, it does not mean you’ll stay, but rather I’ll miss you if you go.’”—Barbara Morris Jensen, Psy.D., Camarillo

“I grew up with mottos to live by: (1) When decision is necessary: Do what will make you happy.(2)When troubles occurred: It was meant to be. Something good will come of this. (3) Money and material things were to be used to help make life easier for people.”—Bernie Siegel, author of Love, Magic and Mudpies

“The true love and gratitude I have for my father is more about an indescribable and unlimited feeling, a feeling that becomes limited when spoken with words.”—Dean Schaefer, author of Imagine, Believe and Be

“My father has always been supportive and, in particular, he instilled in me the source of my accomplishments, which is:  Never Give Up. He has always been there for me. I know that I can always count on him.”—Kate Linder, The Young and the Restless

“I unconditionally adored my father.  He was fair and rational and steady. He was also wildly amusing.  And I always felt that he liked me, although he was never demonstrative about it.  In short, I could count on him. Recently, several years after his death, while eating a corn muffin in a local coffee shop on Madison Avenue in New York, I had what I call a PGO:  a penetrating glimpse of the obvious.  I suddenly realized that he had always allowed me to be who I really am—quite a gift in a world where identity can become porous and fickle.”—Helen Fisher, author of Why We Love

Even if your father is no longer with you, there will be thoughts and emotions about him. Do your best to focus on the ones that make you smile or bring tears of joy to your eyes.

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