Many people struggle with learning to fight fairly. What needs to be said (and how to say it) and what not to say are just a few of the challenges facing those who can't seem to argue appropriately. Learning to state your needs without adding fuel to the fire is a relationship necessity. Here some communication tools for resolving disagreements and making your interactions easier and more satisfying.
"I" statements are where you talk about how you feel and give a corrective action rather than just telling him or her what you think they are doing wrong. For example, instead of saying, "You always hurt leave the dirty work for me" say, "It bugs me when you don't complete the projects we are working on."
Sharing your feelings in this way minimizes defensiveness because you are not blaming. It will help both of you create agreements that will make your working relationship healthier and happier.
If having unpleasant exchanges with loved ones or co-workers is the norm in your life, you have to change the way you communicate or your chances of achieving success will be greatly diminished.
Following these guidelines will help everyone involved understand and communicate with each other much better. Remember that communication is the most important thing in our relationships, both business and professional, and that we can all get better at it.
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