Our ideal self is the person we want to be. Our ought self is our understanding of what others want us to be - what we ought to be and do. Then there is our actual self. What happens when our actual self doesn't match the ideal or ought selves?
A quick Internet search reveals that this quote is misattributed to William Butler Yeats. Despite the error in the source, this often-used quote captures what lies at the heart of authentic engagement - fire.
Mañana, tomorrow, the word conjures up a laid-back life style. In fact, we often stereotype some cultures as more laid back - Mañana nations perhaps? Are there national differences in the prevalence rates of chronic procrastination?
Procrastinators rarely engage in their lives in a way that creates the experience of "flow." They're rarely "in the zone" or "find their groove." What's flow? Why are the optimal conditions for flow just the opposite of what promotes task delay?
We give in to feel good. Give in to what? Food, shopping, drinking, smoking, gambling, and, you guessed it, procrastination. The problem is that focusing on regulating our moods and feelings can lead to self-control failure in other areas.
The human confrontation with deep existential issues is now the focus of rigorous experimental methods in the discipline of Experimental Existential Psychology (or XXP for short). Experimental existentialism? Is this an oxymoron? Not according to psychologists from The Netherlands and the U.S. who published their "position paper" for this new approach in the journal, Current Directions in Psychological Science.
What is life really all about? Perhaps the more accurate way to phrase this as a question is "What is your life really all about and why don't you get on with it?" Does this mean procrastination is an existential issue?
It's an old story - transgression, acknowledgement or confession, forgiveness, redemption. Does it work with procrastination? It should. According to the Roman Catholic Church, slothfulness is one of the seven deadly sins. Is forgiveness the road to redemption for our sins of omission - the tasks left undone?