Connecting: Forging Real Relationships with People of Color

Are you a white person who wants to combat racism? Use the science of social connection to make your own world a less white place. Deliberately connect with people of color.

Anti-Racist Action and Becoming Part of the Solution

For many well-intentioned white people, it is easy to slip into despair and passivity when it comes to taking action on social issues related to racism.

Exploring Our Own Stereotypes and Biases

It is natural to want to deny our own biases, but trying to suppress negative thoughts doesn’t work. The good news is that you can have thoughts without being guided by them.

Learning the New Language of Racism

Language influences how we feel and how we react to things. Language is the foundation of change. Rather than avoid and deny, we need to start learning.

Accepting Difficult Emotions Surrounding Race

We all need to get better at accepting, rather than avoiding, difficult feelings. Anti-racism action requires embracing the discomfort.

What Well-Intentioned White People Can Do About Racism

A new civil rights movement is happening with racial justice at its core. The movement has a new language and for many white people this language is foreign.

Proactively Coping With Racism

For most people of color, it becomes increasingly impossible to escape the stress caused by the barrage of news coverage broadcasting the gruesome details of racial violence.

When Clients Confess to Crimes They Did Not Commit

What if your client confessed to harming a child, but you were sure it didn't happen? A psychologist weighs the options and debates whether to report or not report.

Confronting a Toxic Racial Climate

A negative racial environment can be costly, resulting in high turnover, discrimination lawsuits, and even forced resignations. What can be done?

The Link Between Racism and PTSD

For African Americans, the experience of trauma extends beyond what we see on the news to the everyday challenges Black people face with omnipresent racism, leading to what’s known as “race-based stress and trauma.”

The Confederate Flag: Heritage or Hate?

Do Confederate soldiers deserve monuments, flags, glory, and honor? Or is it time to dismantle Confederate monuments and remove the flag from the public arena?

Can a White Person Become Black?

People all over the nation were shocked to learn about the curious case of Rachel Dolezal, former head of the NAACP chapter in Spokane who self-identifies as a Black woman, even though her biological parents are White. What is the psychology behind race switching and our reaction to it?

When Your Loved One Struggles with Mental Illness

When people in our lives do things that don’t make sense it can leave us confused, hurt, and alone. Mental illness affects not just the patient, but loved ones as well.

OCD: From My Head to My Bedroom

Called the doubting disease, OCD can make you question your sexual ability, desires, and even orientation. The anxiety can ruin the joy of sex, resulting in relationship problems and despair.

Can OCD Wreck Your Sex Life?

OCD is more likely to result in a lack of sex rather than repeated memorable performances. Read about six ways that obsessive-compulsive disorder can cause problems in the bedroom.

Can a White Person Understand the Black Experience?

If you are a White person in America, it can be hard to imagine someone else could be living a completely different experience. Why is it so hard to ask the important questions?

Culturally Incompetent Therapy: When Therapists Do Harm

I recently received an email from a distraught reader who shared his experience of racism with his therapist, only be met with ridicule and disbelief. Many ethnic and racial minorities who need therapy avoid it for fear of being misunderstood.

Keep My Children Away From Me—I’m Dangerous!

You love your children with all your heart and would never forgive yourself if something bad happened to them. However, you repeatedly see yourself sexually molesting them when they are in your vicinity. You try to ignore it but the worry just won't go away.

My Husband Is Obsessed with Other Men

"Last year my husband told me that he is worried he may be gay. He has been constantly worrying about this even though he isn’t physically attracted to other men..."

How Well-Meaning Therapists Commit Racism

Racism can be perpetuated by therapists who are genuinely committed to the well-being of minorities and consider themselves progressive and egalitarian. Most of us go into the helping professions because we care about people, but even seemingly positive statements can communicate racism.

How Therapists Drive Away Minority Clients

Even among therapists who have received multicultural training, racism often inserts itself unconsciously into the counseling process. Learn four ways therapists offend their minority clients without realizing it.

Can Racism Cause PTSD? Implications for DSM-5

Discrimination can result in psychological and physiological stress, but can racism be traumatic? Ethnic and racial minorities may be at risk for this underrecognized mental health phenomenon. The DSM-5 opens the door to a broader perspective on race-based trauma.

When ADHD has Nowhere to Hide

ADHD might not be a problem when kids have plenty of physical activity, but more kids struggle as schools eliminate recess, lunch breaks, and PE. Today, ADHD has nowhere to hide.

Four Strategies for Becoming Multicultural

Understanding people from different ethnic and racial groups can be intimidating and uncomfortable. A multicultural middle-school student shares the secrets of her success.

Help! I’m Married to OCD

When obsessive-compulsive disorder is a third person in a marriage, it can be hard to make it work. Patients and spouses alike suffer when OCD rules the home, as family members get pulled into the obsessive-compulsive cycle. Learn what you can do when your loved one suffers from OCD.

Overcoming the Pain of Childhood Abuse and Neglect

When we have been abused or neglected as children it can leave us feeling deprived and wronged by those we loved and trusted. Learn how to overcome these wounds with self-help techniques rooted in the trauma research.

Could I Be a Pedophile? The Worst Kind of OCD

OCD is much broader and more debilitating than most realize. Of all the forms OCD takes, worries about becoming a pedophile may be the hardest to face.

Friendly Competition?

Contrary to conventional wisdom, men and women can be equally competitive. Competition can be helpful when it motivates us but harmful in relationships, resulting in stress, aggression, and broken relationships.

What Color Is Racism?

People may be discriminated against because of membership in a particular ethnoracial group (racism), because the shade of their skin (colorism), or both. Black women are in a triple bind. Society confers unspoken rewards on lighter-skinned Black women.

Sexual Thoughts, Sex Drive, and the Pill

Hormonal contraceptives, like the Pill, reduce testosterone levels in women. This changes the way women think about sex.

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