3 Common Fears that May Be Affecting Your Relationships

Everyday fears of abandonment and rejection show up in the form of tension, anxiety and relationship problems. Such "garden variety" fears are not just about what might happen, but what’s already happened in the past. We tend to close the barn door after the horse has bolted. Doing so can cause new problems, as we seek to right what isn't wrong.

How to Complain So People Will Listen

Friends and family are supposed to love you, so why is it they don't always seem to care when you complain about their behavior? It might be something about the way you're saying it. Start seeing results with these practical tips for communicating complaints.

Put on a Happy Face at Your Own Risk

Trying to be happy all the time is bad for our bodies and relationships. Here's what to do if you habitually hide your real feelings behind a smile.

The Procrastination Prescription

Why do we put things off, even when they're important? How do we overcome our own resistance? When your plate is full and you've got the "I shouldn't be online right now" blues, try these 6 strategies to get things done ... or not.

The Paradox of Self-Pity

Everybody knows someone who's steeped in the language of self-pity. All they talk about is how rough they have it. They constantly seek sympathy, to the point where they turn others off. But contrary to what they're putting out there, such people usually have no real sympathy for themselves.

10 Reasons Dogs Make the Best Therapists

Dogs are natural-born therapists. They have a Zen-like ability to stay centered (except in the presence of squirrels) and are masters of non-judgment. Also, they have a cute way of tilting their heads when they listen to you. How many therapists do you know who do that?

3 Good Reasons to Wallow in Despair

Do you feel blue sometimes and don't know why? Find out how those so-called "negative" feelings can be the key to greater happiness and well-being.

Are You a Debbie Downer?

Some people see the glass as totally empty, most of the time. What makes a Debbie Downer so negative, and what can you do if suspect you are one?

6 Ways to Keep Yourself from Going Back

Multiple breakups with the same person are common, and they make breaking up harder by drawing out the pain and tears. Instead of happening once, the breakup happens over and over. Here’s how to make it final.

Why "Letting It Go" Might Not Be Such a Good Idea

We've all been told to "just let it go" at one time or another. We've probably said it to ourselves. But any advice that's impossible to implement is bad advice. There is a way to get past bad experiences that doesn't rely on will power or "letting go" of our true feelings.

How NOT to Abandon Yourself

When something makes you feel angry, hurt or sad, do you try to be objective about what happened? Perspective-taking is good, but sometimes we do it too soon. Our very subjective feelings can’t resolve if we insist on seeing things from a bird’s-eye view.

Negative Emotions Don't Obey the Law of Attraction

If you’ve been trying to stay positive to avoid attracting negative outcomes in your life, you can safely let yourself off the hook. Feelings aren't the same as intentions. It's what you do with them that counts.

Self-Pity Doesn't Look Like This

Often we accuse ourselves or others of wallowing in self-pity, but the real story may be just the opposite. The more pathetic you think you are, the less likely you are to pity yourself. Find out what's really going on when you're having that so-called "pity party."

Because I Said So

What do you do when someone crosses a boundary? Check out these boundary-setting tips and gird your loins.

Is Crying Good for You? It Depends

Let it all out; you’ll feel better. Or will you? Not all tears wash away emotional pain. Here’s what you need to know to make crying count.

Fear of Failure?

“Fear of failure” is a common reason people cite for not moving toward goals. But what does that really mean? It’s different for everyone.

Go Ahead: Get Your Hopes Up!

We've all heard the advice before, "Don't get your hopes up." But think about it: What's the worst that can happen if That Thing You Want doesn't pan out? Disappointment? Come on, my friend; you're made of stronger stuff than that.

Upset About Something? Here's What to Do

Relationship troubles, a bad work environment, lack of purpose or meaning in life -- for most of us these are painful problems. In fact, most of the problems we face are emotional because if we didn’t have emotions, they wouldn’t be problems! The solution lies in our emotions, too. But it may not be what we've been led to believe.