When You Can't Forgive

Forgiveness is natural when certain conditions are met. But in the absence of one or more of these, it’s not your fault if you can’t get past it.

Office Gossip: How to Make Sure It's NOT About You

If people didn’t behave badly at work, there’d be no such thing as office gossip. Here’s how to reduce your chances of being the subject.

9 Ways to Tell if Your Breakup Will Last

Are you going through a break up, but having a hard time? Some of these factors might be working against you.

What Makes Someone an A-hole?

Is it arrogance? Disrespect? Or just pure evil? Scratch the surface of an a-hole and you’ll find a universal truth that may surprise you.

When Your Son or Daughter Stops Calling

Parents might panic when their 20-something children move away and cut off communication. But at that age, some estrangement may be par for the course. It's usually temporary.

This Is the Reason Some People Aren’t There for You

When people don’t listen to you, don’t have your back, or constantly let you down, are they treating you the way you treat yourself?

The Real Reason We Over-Think Relationships

Do you get caught in over-thinking or over-analyzing relationships instead of just enjoying them? Here’s what’s really going on, and what you can do about it.

7 Ways to Get Your Self-Esteem Back After Divorce

Is divorce taking a bite out of your self-esteem? Fight back by finding ways to rise to the emotional challenge, and impress the heck out of yourself (and your kids).

Service Is Not Your Purpose in Life

Is the ultimate purpose in life to serve others? If this question makes you uneasy, get ready to take yourself off the hook.

Difficulty Making Decisions?

Decision-making is hard for many of us. There are 3 good reasons, and a 4th not-so-good one, why decisions can be hard. Here’s how to handle those and get better at making choices.

Why Your Past Matters

I’ll give you 4 practical reasons to stop living just for the future and give your past a little love.

3 Essential Ways to Protect Your Personal Boundaries

How many times have you ended a relationship because the other person kept ignoring your boundaries? Here’s how to get even hard cases to show some respect.

How to Get Your Partner to Open Up

You want to talk it out, but your partner or friend is conflict-avoidant and/or giving you the silent treatment. Use this strategy to get them to open up.

8 Things You Have the Right to Expect From Your Relationship

Feeling shy about asking for what you need? You're entitled to the basics. Find out what they are, and ask with confidence.

3 Reasons Why Conflict Can Be Good for Relationships

Plenty of us prefer to avoid conflict because it seems like the least troublesome path. But if we really understood the price we pay with our silence, we might reconsider.

The 12 Days of Psychotherapy

If a partridge in a pear tree is less appealing to you than gaining insight into your psyche, this new therapy-inspired Christmas carol is for you.

Stay In or Go Out? A Bigger Question Than You Might Think

Life often requires us to choose between the familiar and the unknown, and no one wants to look back with regret. How much security is enough, and what might it be costing you?

How You'll Finally End Up With the Right Partner

Each new partner seems so much better than the last one, at least in the beginning. But looking back, the similarities between them are undeniable.

Do You Have Relational Courage?

Do you have friends who are passive-aggressive, won't stand up for themselves, or can't stand criticism? The bad news is, you might be looking in a mirror.

3 Common Fears that May Be Affecting Your Relationships

Everyday fears of abandonment and rejection show up in the form of tension, anxiety and relationship problems. Such "garden variety" fears are not just about what might happen, but what’s already happened in the past. We tend to close the barn door after the horse has bolted. Doing so can cause new problems, as we seek to right what isn't wrong.

How to Complain So People Will Listen

Friends and family are supposed to love you, so why is it they don't always seem to care when you complain about their behavior? It might be something about the way you're saying it. Start seeing results with these practical tips for communicating complaints.

Put on a Happy Face at Your Own Risk

Trying to be happy all the time is bad for our bodies and relationships. Here's what to do if you habitually hide your real feelings behind a smile.

The Procrastination Prescription

Why do we put things off, even when they're important? How do we overcome our own resistance? When your plate is full and you've got the "I shouldn't be online right now" blues, try these 6 strategies to get things done ... or not.

The Paradox of Self-Pity

Everybody knows someone who's steeped in the language of self-pity. All they talk about is how rough they have it. They constantly seek sympathy, to the point where they turn others off. But contrary to what they're putting out there, such people usually have no real sympathy for themselves.

10 Reasons Dogs Make the Best Therapists

Dogs are natural-born therapists. They have a Zen-like ability to stay centered (except in the presence of squirrels) and are masters of non-judgment. Also, they have a cute way of tilting their heads when they listen to you. How many therapists do you know who do that?

3 Good Reasons to Wallow in Despair

Do you feel blue sometimes and don't know why? Find out how those so-called "negative" feelings can be the key to greater happiness and well-being.

Are You a Debbie Downer?

Some people see the glass as totally empty, most of the time. What makes a Debbie Downer so negative, and what can you do if suspect you are one?

6 Ways to Keep Yourself from Going Back

Multiple breakups make breaking up harder by drawing out the pain and tears. Instead of happening once, the breakup happens over and over. Here’s how to make it final.

Why "Letting It Go" Might Not Be Such a Good Idea

We've all been told to "just let it go" at one time or another. We've probably said it to ourselves. But any advice that's impossible to implement is bad advice. There is a way to get past bad experiences that doesn't rely on will power or "letting go" of our true feelings.

How NOT to Abandon Yourself

When something makes you feel angry, hurt or sad, do you try to be objective about what happened? Perspective-taking is good, but sometimes we do it too soon. Our very subjective feelings can’t resolve if we insist on seeing things from a bird’s-eye view.

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