Suicide Prevention: The Treatment that Works

Researchers have recently discovered that targeting a person’s suicidality directly is precisely what works best to save a life.

How Can You Stop a Suicide?

Suicide is the tenth leading cause of death in the United States. The first step toward stopping this devastating and preventable public health problem involves taking the topic out of the closet and facing it head on.

Why Break Ups Really Hurt

Why is it that couples who rarely show affection or barely relate feel panicked at the loss of their partner? The overwhelming, emotionally shattering sense of loss that we experience at the end of a relationship is often the result of our having created a "fantasy bond" with our partner.

How Your Attachment Style Impacts Your Relationship

Our style of attachment affects everything from our partner selection to how well our relationships progress and to, sadly, how they end. That is why recognizing our attachment pattern can help us understand our strengths and vulnerabilities in a relationship.

How Bosses Can Create a Happy Workforce

As managers, we can learn to be mindful in our decisions, policies and practices. The best way to start is by thinking about what our values are and choosing to live by them. If all of us were to do this in each of our interactions, we would find that our attitude is contagious.

Why It's OK to Be the One Who Loves More

While it may sometimes feel like we have to outsmart our feelings so as not to get hurt, when it comes to our relationships, we are far better off being vulnerable, making a practice of being the one who loves more.

Depression in New Mothers

The impact of a mother’s mental state on her growing baby is powerful well beyond birth and throughout the child’s development. One of the most important things a woman can do when becoming a mother is to work on being in good mental health herself.

The Power of Choosing Your Thoughts

Time spent alone in thought can be positive—a rich environment for personal growth and creativity. Yet, getting “in our heads” can also be dangerous when we are negatively turned against ourselves.

Misconceptions about a Woman's Sexuality

Society's point of view tells us that men are designed to want sex, while women are designed to withhold it. When a person's sexual nature is stripped of these hurtful and shaming cultural and psychological influences, a man and woman's desire for sex is basically the same.

Can Mindfulness Save Your Relationship?

Mindfulness presents a valuable tool for facing the daily challenges of staying close to our partner. It allows us to become more centered and calm, so we can talk things out instead of spiraling into a screaming match.

Why We Use Money to Feel Bad About Ourselves

Work and money are the leading causes of stress in America. Money may seem like a practical concern, requiring rationality and logic to manage. However, our attitudes about money often have deep emotional roots in our past.

7 Steps to Living the Life You Imagined

How can we identify and overcome the old characteristics and attitudes within ourselves that hurt us in our lives today? How can we separate what is us and what is a repetition of someone else? Here are some fundamental ways to become differentiated.

4 Ways to Overcome Your Inner Critic

Our "critical inner voice" can sabotage our successes or our relationships, preventing us from living the lives we want to lead and being the people we seek to be. So how can we challenge this inner voice? How can we recognize its commentary and differentiate from its directives?

The Internet: A Game Changer for Mental Health

The Internet is becoming a go-to resource for millions seeking mental health information. New media allows mental health professionals the unique opportunity to provide valuable resources to a larger audience than ever before and to encourage millions of individuals to get the treatment they may need.

6 Tips for a Happy Wedding

While we may think of a wedding as a purely joyous occasion, there are psychological factors at play that also arise as we approach this major life transition. As practicalities and details pile up, it's so important for couples to focus on the big-picture and keep certain values close to their heart.

The Dangers of Narcissistic Parents

Most of us can relate, on some level, to ways our parents over-connected or lived through us, as a reflection of them. But when dealing with a narcissistic parent day in and day out throughout one’s childhood, the impact can be devastating.

Advantages of Dating After 40

There are certain real advantages of dating after 40, 50, or any age in which you are willing and able to reflect on your years of experience and genuinely learn from your past.

Become a Better Parent

How our parents related to us has a heavy influence on how we relate to our kids. Traumatic incidents from our childhood are commonly stirred up when we experience similar scenarios with our own kids. That moment when we "lose it" is often an over-reaction based on feelings that have been awakened within us from our own early life experiences.

Benefits of Mindfulness

Mindfulness is an incredible tool to help people understand, tolerate, and deal with their emotions in healthy ways. It helps us to alter our habitual responses by taking pause and choosing how we act.

Leaving Your Childhood Behind to Become a Better Parent

As parents, it’s incredibly important not to project our own negative life experiences onto our children. How can we recognize our kids as the independent individuals they are and resist repeating hurtful patterns from our past?

What is a Mentally Healthy Person?

I asked my father, Dr. Robert Firestone, who’s spent the past 40 years working as a psychologist, theorist, and author, how he would define an emotionally healthy individual. He responded by describing what his goals would be for a person as an outcome of successful psychotherapy.

5 Tips for a Better Valentine's Day and Beyond

Valentine's Day is an occasion to exercise patience, humor, passion, and kindness. But why limit these actions to just one day? How can we learn to express love on a daily basis in a way that is uniquely sensitive to our partner? What patterns should we avoid that take away from our romantic feelings?

The Upside of Negative Emotions

It turns out we expend much more energy avoiding the pains of our existence than we do when we actually face our feelings. Often, we cause ourselves much more misery through our attempts to defend against our unpleasant emotions. Going toward the pain allows us to feel it and move on. Plus, it enables us to be more emotionally adaptable.

Stop the Blame Game in Your Relationship

When we stop placing blame in our relationship, we shift our focus inward. We can take charge and start to differentiate from destructive behaviors that are holding us back from getting closer to the people we love.

How to Identify Your Critical Inner Voice

Millions of self-critical thoughts circle our minds everyday, leaving us miserable, discouraged and held back from going after what we want. Identifying these thoughts as mean-spirited, external points of view can free us from that destructive critical inner voice.

5 Ways to Maintain Lifelong Friendships

Keeping close friends is an essential part of life that gives us meaning and fulfillment. Holding yourself to these five standards will expand your potential to grow meaningful friendships throughout your life.

6 Ways You Can Fix Your Relationship on Your Own

To achieve lasting love is an act of differentiation, a therapeutic process of identifying the ways we were hurt in our past that lead us to hurt ourselves and those close to us in the present. Here, I offer, six tips on how you can become your best self, overcome obstacles and maintain closeness in your relationship.

Five Questions for a Better New Year

How can the lessons of 2012 help us to achieve a more fulfilling 2013? Here are five essential questions that can be of immeasurable value when setting forth on a new and better year.

5 Reachable Resolutions for a Healthy Mind

Filtering our personal goals through a self-critical lens only sets us up for failure. With that in mind, I propose a new list of deeply rewarding and reachable resolutions. These activities have been proven to benefit us on every level, increasing both the quality and length of our lives.

5 Ways to Beat the Holiday Blues

Whether you’re among the millions who struggle with mild to severe cases of “winter blues” or you merely find yourself falling into bad moods over the holidays, here are some tips on how to counter some of the seasonal hurdles that may be dragging you down.