5 Ways to Overcome Your Fear of Love

When it comes to love, many of us feel victimized by circumstance, while failing to see that our biggest obstacle is how we get in our own way. In my previous blog, I explored why we do this. Here, I will address what we can do about it. How can we overcome our fears of intimacy to find and maintain the love we so desire?

What the Teenage Brain Can Teach Us About Ourselves

In his new book, Dr. Daniel Siegel unlocks the mysteries of the teenage brain. In this tumultuous stage of development, parents are often left to puzzle over how to relate to their teen. An important first step for changing their relationship with their child is for parents to better understand their own minds.

7 Reasons Most People Are Afraid of Love

Whether we know it or not, most of us are afraid of really being in love. We all harbor defenses that we believe on some level will protect us from getting hurt. So what drives our fears of intimacy? What keeps us from finding and keeping the love we say we want?

A New Year’s Resolution Worth Making

Instead of the annual invitation to feel bad about ourselves, this year, I’ve decided to offer up a challenge. Let’s stop making our resolutions about us. There are many unique benefits of generosity that are not only better for our world but better for our lives.

What it Really Means to Be in Love

While many of us believe we would like to be in love, we face many hurdles in taking the actions that allow love to flow freely throughout our lives and relationships. We have many ways of defending ourselves against love and struggle to give and receive love with ease, openness and vulnerability.

Are We Overpraising Our Children?

While it may seem innocent in the moment, overpraising can have adverse long-term effects on a child. Self-esteem isn’t about telling kids that everything they do is terrific. A real sense of self-worth is based on the skills they build for themselves and the true accomplishments they feel they’ve made.

8 Reasons You Might Still Be Single

For people, particularly those over 30, who are looking for answers to the puzzling question "Why am I still single?" here are some unconventional answers that lie within.

The Rewards of Mindful Parenting

Our kids can set off a wide range of emotions in us. At times of stress, they often trigger unresolved issues from our own childhoods. In those moments, our reactions to them may be inappropriate to the present and are instead, based on the past. By being more mindful, we can pause before reacting, taking time to calm ourselves down.

The Secret to Success: How Can You Become More Hardy?

It turns out that what predicts how well we will do in life, our relationships, careers, etc. isn't how much money we have or even how many obstacles we face; it's a matter of how hardy we are. By learning and enhancing the characteristics of hardiness, we give ourselves a huge leg up in any goal we seek to accomplish in our lives.

Is Something Getting in the Way of Your Sex Life?

Your sexuality can change a lot throughout one lifetime. When people face these challenges, what they'll often find is that talking about sex, while it may feel uncomfortable at first, can be the key to maintaining a healthy sex life and a positive sense of one's own sexuality.

Effective Ways of Treating Depression

Like any affliction, depression requires attention and targeted treatment. Yet, contrary to the hopelessness those suffering often experience, depression should be seen as an eminently treatable disorder.

Six Truths About Depression

While depression can be serious, it is far from hopeless. There are effective treatments and actions people can take to overcome this disorder. There are certain truths about depression that are important to understand, as we target this debilitating disorder that often spans generations.

Why We Lie and How to Stop

Most of us have trouble with the truth. We may not be outright liars, but we certainly shade the truth to make it fit more comfortably into our lives - to keep it from disrupting anything from our careers to our relationships to our afternoons.

The Benefits of Feeling Competitive

Allowing ourselves to feel our competitive feelings cleanly and directly is not only acceptable; it’s actually healthy. When we suppress these feelings, we leave them to fester and impact us in a variety of negative ways.

Suicide Prevention: The Treatment that Works

Researchers have recently discovered that targeting a person’s suicidality directly is precisely what works best to save a life.

How Can You Stop a Suicide?

Suicide is the tenth leading cause of death in the United States. The first step toward stopping this devastating and preventable public health problem involves taking the topic out of the closet and facing it head on.

Why Break Ups Really Hurt

Why is it that couples who rarely show affection or barely relate feel panicked at the loss of their partner? The overwhelming, emotionally shattering sense of loss that we experience at the end of a relationship is often the result of our having created a "fantasy bond" with our partner.

How Your Attachment Style Impacts Your Relationship

Our style of attachment affects everything from our partner selection to how well our relationships progress and to, sadly, how they end. That is why recognizing our attachment pattern can help us understand our strengths and vulnerabilities in a relationship.

How Bosses Can Create a Happy Workforce

As managers, we can learn to be mindful in our decisions, policies and practices. The best way to start is by thinking about what our values are and choosing to live by them. If all of us were to do this in each of our interactions, we would find that our attitude is contagious.

Why It's OK to Be the One Who Loves More

While it may sometimes feel like we have to outsmart our feelings so as not to get hurt, when it comes to our relationships, we are far better off being vulnerable, making a practice of being the one who loves more.

Depression in New Mothers

The impact of a mother’s mental state on her growing baby is powerful well beyond birth and throughout the child’s development. One of the most important things a woman can do when becoming a mother is to work on being in good mental health herself.

The Power of Choosing Your Thoughts

Time spent alone in thought can be positive—a rich environment for personal growth and creativity. Yet, getting “in our heads” can also be dangerous when we are negatively turned against ourselves.

Misconceptions about a Woman's Sexuality

Society's point of view tells us that men are designed to want sex, while women are designed to withhold it. When a person's sexual nature is stripped of these hurtful and shaming cultural and psychological influences, a man and woman's desire for sex is basically the same.

Can Mindfulness Save Your Relationship?

Mindfulness presents a valuable tool for facing the daily challenges of staying close to our partner. It allows us to become more centered and calm, so we can talk things out instead of spiraling into a screaming match.

Why We Use Money to Feel Bad About Ourselves

Work and money are the leading causes of stress in America. Money may seem like a practical concern, requiring rationality and logic to manage. However, our attitudes about money often have deep emotional roots in our past.

7 Steps to Living the Life You Imagined

How can we identify and overcome the old characteristics and attitudes within ourselves that hurt us in our lives today? How can we separate what is us and what is a repetition of someone else? Here are some fundamental ways to become differentiated.

4 Ways to Overcome Your Inner Critic

Our "critical inner voice" can sabotage our successes or our relationships, preventing us from living the lives we want to lead and being the people we seek to be. So how can we challenge this inner voice? How can we recognize its commentary and differentiate from its directives?

The Internet: A Game Changer for Mental Health

The Internet is becoming a go-to resource for millions seeking mental health information. New media allows mental health professionals the unique opportunity to provide valuable resources to a larger audience than ever before and to encourage millions of individuals to get the treatment they may need.

6 Tips for a Happy Wedding

While we may think of a wedding as a purely joyous occasion, there are psychological factors at play that also arise as we approach this major life transition. As practicalities and details pile up, it's so important for couples to focus on the big-picture and keep certain values close to their heart.

The Dangers of Narcissistic Parents

Most of us can relate, on some level, to ways our parents over-connected or lived through us, as a reflection of them. But when dealing with a narcissistic parent day in and day out throughout one’s childhood, the impact can be devastating.

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