Why We Need to Teach Kids Emotional Intelligence

When you teach kids how to recognize their feelings, understand where they come from and cope in healthy ways, you teach them the most essential skills for their success in life.

What's Wrong With Needing to Be the Best

People who experience pressure or false praise from their parents may feel that if they can just be special or perfect in some way, they will get the love they never felt.

7 Ways to Be a More Loving Partner

At the end of the day, being kind is the only real action we can take to improve our relationship. So, how can break with our defenses and be more loving toward our partner?

Should You Feel or Flee Your Emotions?

When we avoid our feelings, we tune out important clues as to who we are. We limit our capacity for self-understanding and fail to fully experience or shape our lives.

Can You Trust Your Own Perceptions?

So much of the filter through which we view ourselves and the world around us has to do with our early life and the adaptations we made to our surroundings.

5 Ways We Reject Love (and How to Stop)

Most of us don't realize all the big and small ways we push love away, but these behaviors are sure signs we're doing just that.

4 Ways to Say (and Get) What You Want in Your Relationship

Saying what you want is a powerful tool to resolve conflict. It’s a way of being vulnerable that allows your partner to really know and feel for you. Here's how to do it.

The Healing Power of Gratitude

Science shows that gratitude is good for us both mentally and physically. As we aim to cultivate more gratitude, there are two questions to consider: what barriers do we face in feeling grateful in our daily lives, and how can we connect more fully to our feelings of appreciation?

A Way Out of Loneliness

A great amount of what leads to chronic loneliness is the way we think and feel about ourselves and the world around us. Because loneliness may have more to do with how we think about our circumstances and less to do with our actual circumstances, we have a lot of power in changing it.

How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Parenting

Attachment research has shown that our attachment style with our own parents is the biggest predictor of the attachment style we’ll have with our child.

5 Ways You Need to Build Forgiveness Into Your Relationship

Scientists who study forgiveness have long agreed that it is one of the most important contributors to a healthy relationship. Studies have shown that couples who practice forgiveness are more likely to enjoy longer, more satisfying romantic relationships and potentially longer lives. So, what makes forgiveness so good for us and how can we grow our capacity to forgive?

How to Get Over Relationship Anxiety

Insecurity, as most of us know firsthand, can be toxic to our closest relationships. And while it can bounce back and forth from partner to partner, both the cause of our insecurity and its cure reside in us alone. So, how can we best deal with our insecurities?

Overcoming Two of Parenting's Greatest Challenges

Although, as parents, we recognize the importance and seriousness of our task, many of us still wonder just how much effect we are going to have on how our child will turn out. Here are some tips we can all take that will help us raise emotionally healthy and happy children.

Saving Lives from Suicide

Making it more difficult for someone to access the means for suicide can provide them the time and space necessary, to awaken from the suicidal trance, to get to the help they need and, ultimately, save their lives. So, how can we get people to the help they need? What can we do on an individual level to help prevent suicide?

7 Ways Your Childhood Affects How You'll Parent

Attachment research tells us that the biggest predictor of how we will be as parents is how much we’ve been able to make sense out of our own past. So, while the last place we may be looking when we become parents is at our own childhood, that’s exactly what we should be doing if we want to be better present-day parents to our children.

The Value of Sadness

We tend to pass on the message that sadness is bad and should be avoided. Yet, research has shown that sadness can be an adaptive emotion with real benefits. Sadness can make us feel more vital and centered within ourselves. So, why is it that we are so afraid to feel sad?

5 Reasons We Don't Let Ourselves Be Happy

We are all, to varying degrees, intolerant of happiness. By understanding why we take actions that defeat our own well-being, we can gain a stronger foothold in overcoming obstacles and allowing ourselves to be happy. Here are the five most common reasons we won’t let ourselves have what we most want in life.

5 Ways to Build Trust and Honesty in Your Relationship

Honesty is a key component of a healthy relationship, yet 64 percent of serious lies involve people’s closest relationship partners. So, what can we do to not only be more honest but to promote an atmosphere of honesty around us?

5 Things to Do Today to Preserve Your Relationship

Because the only person we can control or change in a relationship is ourselves, it’s almost always worth it to do what we can to develop ourselves before we throw in the towel with our partner. Here are five things that can help any couple reignite their feelings of love.

A Challenge to Mothers Everywhere

There is sometimes an unspoken implication that for a woman to be a good mother, she must cast aside other parts of herself that make her who she is. In reality, the best gift a mother can give her children is to be a happy, fulfilled and whole person, in and of herself.

Are You Single for the Right Reasons?

If you find yourself feeling turned on the idea of relationships in general, your attitudes are worthy of exploration. There may be a lot of good reasons why you’re not in a relationship right now, but what I’ll aim to unmask here are the not-so-good reasons people steer away from love and intimacy… and possibly even their own happiness.

5 Secrets to Happiness

Finding one's happiness is each individual’s personal adventure, but research can provide some guidance. Find out what science tells us is the key to finding your happiness and learn the five essential elements that lead to well-being.

The Making of a Murderer

From poverty to riches, serial killers to gang members, behind almost every violent person, there is a story of despair. Not every trauma creates a killer, but most killers are created from trauma.

Are You Giving Up on Love?

Our tolerance for love is established early in our lives and is based on our unique experiences. As a result, love doesn’t always just slip away; we push it away…actively. To the degree that we ourselves control the amount of love we will tolerate, we control our romantic destiny. While we may not realize it, in countless, quiet ways, we may be giving up on love.

Why We Need to Stop Hating Ourselves, Once and For All

Throughout a given day, we experience a barrage of sadistic thoughts so smoothly and so frequently that we hardly notice we’re under attack. We may try to compensate for insecurities, but deep down, we are our own worst enemy. So, what causes us to turn against ourselves and how can we stop?

6 Things We Must Accept to Be Happy

Many of us are going about happiness all wrong. In order to discover our own true form of happiness, we have to shed baggage from our past, free ourselves from outside influences and identify who we alone really are.

5 Ways to Express Your Love on Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day should be what each of us makes of it and nothing more. So whether you’re a hopeless romantic or just-not-a-candy-heart-kinda-person, here are a handful of ways we all can make the most out of this year’s Feb. 14… or any day for that matter.

How to Tell if You’re in the Wrong Relationship

There are some red flags to look out for, most importantly those that indicate that you or your partner are experiencing an increase in psychological symptoms or a degradation in your ability to function. These would be signs that it may be time to call it quits or, at least, to seek counseling or outside help.
4 Ways You Could Be Sabotaging Your Relationship

4 Ways You Could Be Sabotaging Your Relationship

Finding love can be the ultimate out-of-body experience in that we feel so attuned and connected to someone else. It is also a process of adventure and discovery that is entirely internal. Understanding that inner world is vital to letting ourselves get close to someone else. With that in mind, here are a few ways we may be getting in our own way when it comes to love.

5 Ways to Combat Loneliness Over the Holidays

No matter how many people are around you, it is NOT uncommon to feel lonely over the holiday season. Emotions can get stirred up in old settings, and there is a natural sadness that comes with the passing of another year. So, how can we keep our stress and loneliness levels down, so we can live in the moment and enjoy these final days of 2014... and beyond?