Parental Alienation: What Is the Solution?

The only effective means to combat and eliminate parental alienation is to address it by means of a multi-faceted approach that involves fundamental changes to the divorce system.

The Life of the Alienated Parent

Coping with the emotional trauma created by the experience of attachment-based parental alienation.

Understanding Children’s Best Interests in Divorce

“Shared parenting now has enough evidence...[that] the burden of proof should now fall to those who oppose it rather than those who promote it.”

Grandparents Affected by Adult Child Divorce

One of the lesser-mentioned advantages of co-parenting after divorce is that it can strengthen children's relationships with both sets of grandparents.

Co-Parenting as Addiction Prevention

Too many parents have lost and need help to retrieve their primary connection with their children.

Professional Misunderstanding of Parental Alienation

Until professionals attain an in-depth understanding of the actual dynamics of parental alienation, cases of severe alienation will continue to be discounted.

Parental Alienation and the Bystander Effect

"Silence in the face of evil is itself evil: Not to speak is to speak. Not to act is to act."

Consensus Statement on the Implementation of Co-Parenting

As shared parenting has been recognized as a post-divorce parenting arrangement optimal to child development and well-being, its implementation should proceed without delay.

Developing Co-parenting Plans for the Holidays

Because the added stress of holidays can lead to heightened parental conflict, it is vitally important that parents make a concerted effort to cooperate for their children's sake.

Developing Co-Parenting Plans

A written plan will help all family members to know what is expected of them and will be a valuable reference as time passes and family circumstances change.

Recent Advances in Understanding Parental Alienation

Mistaken beliefs about the genesis of parental alienation and appropriate remedies have shaped both socio-legal policy and therapeutic and legal practice in ways that have failed to meet children’s needs during and after parental separation, and therefore are contrary to the principle of the best interest of the child.

What Exactly Is 'The Best Interest of the Child?', Part 2

When parents are asked about the essential needs of their children during and after parental separation, children’s emotional, psychological, social, moral and spiritual needs are seen to be of paramount importance. But what exactly are these “metaphysical” needs?

What Exactly Is “The Best Interest of the Child”?

A truly child-focused approach positions children’s needs at the forefront of “best interests” considerations, along with corresponding parental and social institutional responsibilities to these needs.

How Do We Tell the Kids About the Divorce?

Many children firmly believe that they are the reason for the divorce. Further, most children secretly believe their parents will get back together, or wish that they would, and try to “fix” things and figure out ways of keeping them together.

What Makes for Successful Co-Parenting After Divorce?

These principles are offered in the spirit that parents have the strengths, capacities and abilities to help children through the difficult transitions attendant to divorce, and will be able do the best for their children with concrete, practical support.

Research Consensus Statement on Co-Parenting After Divorce

These conclusions are seen to be groundbreaking as a consensus statement was produced by the world's leading researchers and practitioners in the field of co-parenting after divorce, which is intended to serve as a guide for family lawmakers, policymakers, and practitioners around the globe.

Co-Parenting Infants and Very Young Children, Part 2

Just as we encourage parents in intact families to share care of their children, the social science evidence on the development of healthy parent–child relationships, and the long-term benefits of healthy parent–child relationships, supports the view that shared parenting should be the norm for post-divorce parenting plans for children of all ages, including infants.

Developing Evidence-Based Approaches to Children's Needs

The first international shared parenting organization has been established to develop evidence-based approaches to the needs and rights of children whose parents are living apart.

The Voices of Children of Divorce

A paradigm shift is needed: the well-being of children as they define it must take precedence over judicial biases and preferences, professional self-interest, gender politics, the desire of a parent to remove the other from the child’s life, and the wishes of a parent who is found to be a danger to the child.

Relocation and Co-Parenting

To the extent that relocation threatens children’s relationships with a parent, and their existing social network, the potential adverse effects of relocation should be at the forefront of decision-making about the residential arrangements of children after divorce.

Parallel Parenting After Divorce

Parallel co-parenting in high conflict divorces begins the healing process between parents, to the ultimate benefit of their children.
"Bird's Nest" Co-Parenting Arrangements

"Bird's Nest" Co-Parenting Arrangements

Rather than the children having to adapt to the parents’ needs and living in two separate dwellings, they remain in the family home and the parents take turns moving in and out, like birds alighting and departing the “nest.”

Parent-Child Reunification After Alienation

Children and parents who have undergone forced separation from each other in the absence of abuse, including cases of parental alienation, are highly subject to post-traumatic stress, and reunification efforts in these cases should proceed carefully and with sensitivity.

The Impact of Parental Alienation on Parents

The key to engaging alienated parents is to validate their parental identity, and combine advocacy efforts with counseling focused on enhancing their role as active and responsible parents.

The Impact of Parental Alienation on Children

Parental alienation involves the “programming” of a child by one parent to denigrate the other (targeted) parent, in an effort to undermine child's relationship.

Co-Parenting Infants and Very Young Children

The failure to recognize the depth of children’s attachments to both of their parents is the most significant omission of traditional attachment theorists. In those families in which children are securely attached to two parents who have been integrally involved as caregivers, co-parenting after divorce is vital to infants' and young children's well-being.

Equal Parenting and the Quality of Parent-Child Attachments

Equal parental responsibility provides a context and climate for the continuation or development of high quality parent-child relationships, allowing both parents to remain authoritative, responsible, involved, attached, emotionally available, supportive, and focused on children’s day-to-day lives.

Family Therapy and Parenting Coordination to Reduce Conflict

Children’s needs for protection from parental conflict must be addressed before the establishment of any co-parenting arrangement after separation, and a full range of supports must be made available to parents in high conflict situations. Within these programs, children’s needs become a means of connecting the parents in a positive direction.

Divorce Education and Therapeutic Family Mediation To Resolve Parenting Disputes

When it comes to the resolution of co-parenting-related matters, programs and services such as divorce education and therapeutic family mediation are much more than dispute resolution devices. More than anything else, these are vital interventions that should serve primarily to increase parents’ attunement to their children’s needs and “best interests.”

Father Absence, Father Deficit, Father Hunger

Whereas parents in general are not supported as parents by our social institutions, divorced fathers in particular are devalued, disparaged, and forcefully disengaged from their children’s lives. Researchers have found that for children, the results are nothing short of disastrous, along a number of dimensions.