10 Hard Truths About Marriage

#1 There will be one disagreement in your marriage that will never be resolved--and you will never agree on what it is! The earlier you identify and accept it, the better. Encourage your partner to do the same with his or her complaint.

Top Strategies for Handling a Bully

No, it's not just boys being boys, or kids being kids. It takes a special breed of person to cause pain to others. Kids, parents, and school authorities take notice: Here are the top research-based strategies for dealing with bullies.

"No Kidding, Me Too": The Long Reach of Mental Illness

In his new documentary, Soprano's alum Joe Pantoliano shows the impact of mental illness on patients and families alike.

Haiti Living Hell

Even if you can't find the language to describe your thoughts and feelings, even if you think you've lost your voice, try. The words are somewhere inside of you.

Willem Dafoe on Willem Dafoe

Willem Dafoe's remarkable range as an actor has earned him acclaim both as the villain and as the good guy. I spoke to him about his acting method.

Pulp Nonfiction

An interview with Tim Roth, the star of Lie to Me, in which he plays a deception expert—based on real-life psychologist Paul Ekman—who can spot lies by observing people's body language, facial expressions, and words.

Why Getting Revenge Isn't Worth It

Kill Bill, Revenge of the Nerds (I-IV), and Fatal Attraction... all make revenge look oh-so sinfully sweet, but does it really satisfy?

I Hate Dating in NY

I met my first emotionally available man in New York. I had heard they were mythical creatures, like leprechauns or the Loch Ness Monster-- lots of stories, but never actually documented in real life. Until now. And Barry Schwartz explains why I didn't want him after all.

Starting Over at Age 37

My father and grandparents arrived in New York 58 years ago, fleeing the communists who had seized their native Czechoslovakia. New York City was the end of a three-year odyssey that took them from Switzerland to North Africa and back. For my grandfather, who was 37, it was the beginning of a second adult life.

Tripping at Horizons Psychedelic Conference

Ecstasy treats PTSD? A cannabis knock-off more potent than the real thing? Psychedelic experts from around the world share personal anecdotes, research, and new perspectives on this taboo sub-culture.

Paula Scher on Failure

Paula Scher is one of the world's most famous graphic designers, known for creating Citibank's umbrella logo as well as for design work for The Public Theater, The New York Times Magazine, the American Museum of Natural History, The New York City Ballet, and Herman Miller. She believes failure is the secret to artistic success. "You have to fail in order to make the next discovery," says Scher. "It's through mistakes that you actually can grow."

Mary Higgins Clark on Failure

Mary Higgins Clark knows something about getting through tough times. She lost her father when she 11, her brother when she was 16, and her husband when she was 36—after which she was left to raise five children on her own. That didn't stop her from becoming one of the most successful suspense novelists of all time, writing 28 books that have sold 100 million copies in the U.S. alone. At age 81 she's still going strong. Her new book, Just Take My Heart, is on sale now. I reached her at her home in Saddle River, New Jersey.

Donald Trump on Failure

Donald Trump's comeback is one of the most dramatic of all time—as well as one of the most visible. According to a well-known anecdote, one day when he was $1 billion in debt, he pointed out a homeless man to his daughter and said, "See that bum? He has a billion dollars more than me." The Guinness Book of Records lists him as having the biggest financial turnaround in history. "In the early 1990s, I owed billions of dollars and many people thought I was finished," says Trump. "I refused to give in to the negative circumstances and I never lost faith in myself. I didn't believe I was finished even when the newspapers were saying so. I refused to give up. Defeat is not in my vocabulary."

Cindy Chupack on Failure

Cindy Chupack had been married two years when her husband told her he was gay. Though she felt like a failure at the time, the years of loneliness and dating that followed provided the material that led her to become a writer and producer for Sex and the City. "It felt like a huge curse and it was lonely," says Chupack. "But what I'm most proud of in my life was Sex and the City, and it never would have happened had I stayed married, and had he not been gay, and had that not been my backstory."

Nastia Liukin on Failure

"If you're going through hell," said Winston Churchill, "keep going." After American gymnast Nastia Liukin suffered a severe ankle injury a year before the Olympics, many thought she'd never compete again. But Nastia,daughter of two Soviet champions, was born to win. Her father Valeri, the first man to do a triple backflip, competed in the 1988 Olympics and lost the gold medal by less than 1/10th of a point. He spent the next two decades as his daughter's coach, teaching her everything he knew about gymnastics and determination. Injuring herself doubled her resolve to win, says Nastia. She came back stronger than she'd ever been and went on to win the All-Around Gold—the same event her father had lost exactly 20 years before. —Jay Dixit

Greg Giraldo on Failure

Despite great success as a standup comedian and former host of Comedy Central's Standup Nation, Greg Giraldo is tortured by a constant sense of failure. "I feel like I'm ‘the piece of shit at the center of the universe,' he told me. "The reality is I'm not a 'get knocked down and come back harder' kind of guy. I'm a complete fuckup... I feel like quitting all the time."

David Servan-Schreiber on Cheating Death

David Servan-Schrieber was 31 when his world imploded. Ambitious and arrogant, he was a rising star in neuropsychiatry. When a volunteer for a brain scan experiment didn’t show up, he slid into the scanner himself—and discovered a malignant tumor nestled deep in his brain. After surgery and chemotherapy, he continued his life as before, eating a diet high in red meat and sugar, exercising little, and abandoning an earlier interest in meditation. When the tumor returned, he used his medical training to investigate how best to prevent cancer. The result was remission—and a bestselling book called Anticancer.

Ask the Mercenary

As a British commando in the Special Air Service, John Geddes fought combat missions in the Falkland Islands and ran undercover ops in Northern Ireland and Bosnia. When he left the military, he became a commando-for-hire, protecting American and British media crews from hostile insurgents in Iraq. I reached him at his home in England.

Back to the Present: How to Live in the Moment

Life happens in the present, but so often, we let the moment slip away, letting time rush past unobserved and unseized. We're so focused on what's next that we neglect what's now. Here are some practical tips to help you get mindful now.

Fixing Sex: When Your Baby is Neither a "Boy" Nor a "Girl"

The birth of Tamara Dawson's first child should have been a moment of sheer delight. Instead, she describes the shocking and unusual situation that followed: "The doctors and nurses came back and said, 'We don't know if you had a boy or a girl.' We were stunned. How could you not know?"

Where Does Anti-Gay Prejudice Come From?

Different types of essentialist thinking underlie people's views about homosexuality.

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