When All Else Fails

I'm at the end of my rope with my loved one - what do I do?

Change Your Beliefs, Change Your Life

Facing how our beliefs limit us

How to Think Critically: Part 2 of 3

The key to good critical thinking: thoughtfulness.

A Guide to Healthy Thinking (part 1 of 3)

Why do we respond so thoughtlessly so often?

Saved by Art And Truth

The movie 'Lincoln' demonstrates the power of art to unearth deeper truths.

How to Simplify Gift-Giving

Why I abandoned adult-to-adult gift-giving.

Stuck in Remorse and Guilt

How can you help someone fixated on past mistakes?

Varying Degrees of Neatness: A Solution

My spouse and I differ on tidiness and messiness — help!

The High Cost of Marital Legal Battles

Before turning a dissolving marriage into a legal or custody battle, consider these factors.

Two Questions About Emotional Boundaries

When you're being pressured, set good emotional boundaries.

The Payoff for Holding onto the Past

Why do some people dwell on the long-gone?

Using Blame Pushes People Away

She constantly criticizes me and I'm slowly shutting down—what do I do?

My Sister Constantly Competes

My sister is nasty to the rest of us siblings.

How to Get a Good Job

Dear Dr. Alasko: Last year I had enough of studying subjects I found useless and quit college. I've since learned that employers are biased in favor of a college graduate.

How to Create New Patterns

In my last blog post, I began answering a reader who wondered why so many of her relationships were unsuccessful, from a marriage to an emotionally abusive husband to her brother’s stealing from her.

Why Do Bad Things Happen to Me?

My experience has taught me that people who have difficulty recognizing when they're being exploited have a specific problem: they allow their emotions to overwhelm their thinking.

Asking Your Date Core Questions

Why be coy about something as serious as being serious? And especially as life-changing as having a child, or children?

How to Stop Dating — Respectfully

Dear Dr. Alasko: I consider myself a kind person, but I've never figured out a way to tell someone I've been dating that I'm no longer interested. Usually I try to get the message across by not answering the phone, etc., but that doesn't feel very good.

Setting Limits on Anger

Since anger is both an emotion and a behavior, those subject to angry outbursts must set limits about which behaviors we will and won't tolerate.

Changing Longstanding Habits With Self-Support

"Since I was kid I've loved risky activities: skydiving, fast motorcycles, gambling. Now I'm married, have a child and a good job, and I realize my love of the adrenaline rush is a problem. I really want to change some of my bad habits but so far have had little success. Any suggestions?"