When Is It Good to Forgive?

What should you do when your partner upsets you? Recent research suggests that whether you are better off forgiving or getting angry depends on your partner’s personality.

Did You Watch or Listen to the Presidential Debate?

We pay attention to different factors when watching versus listening to a presidential debate. Here's why.

3 Simple Questions to Improve Your Relationship

We are wired to be selfish—to think about our own needs and desires first. Today, I urge you to take five minutes to consider your partner’s perspective by asking three questions.

7 Ways to Make Conflict Healthy

It's not whether you fight, but how you fight that matters. Bringing understanding into your fights can transform them from negative experiences to positive ones.

Presidential Debates - The Medium Matters

Whether watching on tv or listening on the radio, how you hear a presidential debate might change who you think won.

5 Relationship Tips For New Parents

Has the transition to parenthood taken a toll on your relationship? Are you not as close as you used to be? Start fighting back with these five fixes.

Make Your Partner Feel Loved Tonight With A Few Simple Words

Infuse a little extra positivity and love into your relationship this weekend by taking a few moments tonight to do something nice for your partner (it'll only take 5 minutes).

One Source of Bad Decision-Making

Heuristics are mental shortcuts that we use to help quickly make judgments and decisions. But there are times when these mental shortcuts lead to poor choices.

Does the D in Divorce Stand for Disillusionment?

What does it take to make a marriage work? Is there such thing as a happily-ever-after? Ted Huston attempted to answer just this question with a 13 year study of 168 couples.

Becoming a Savvy Consumer of Psych Research

Today, I wanted to share with you some of my personal experience behind the scenes of science, as well as three suggestions for how to be a savvy consumer of scientific findings.

On Making (and Keeping!) New Year's Resolutions

A "fresh start" is a good way to kick a new habit into high gear, so take time to think about changes you want to make and use these tips to set yourself up for success.

4 Gifts to Give Your Romantic Partner

If you are struggling to think of the perfect gift for your loved one this holiday season, try giving them one of these relationship boosters.

4 Unexpected Benefits of Gratitude

As more researchers turn their attention to gratitude, we are learning about the widespread and sometimes surprising benefits of having a more grateful outlook. Here are four findings that suggest gratitude might play a role in how we clean, sleep, and save money.

6 Ways to Find Awe in Your Everyday Life

Psychologists are busy at work trying to understand more about awe. Awe experiences aren't just pleasurable, they change how we see the world. Luckily, we don't need to be standing on Mt. Everest to feel awe and reap its benefits. We can get a bit of that right here at home, just by walking out our front doors or clicking the right buttons on our computer.

The Good and Bad of Emotion Regulation Strategies

Our emotional experiences weave the tale of our lives. We remember when we felt joy, gratitude, anger, fear, not that time when we felt oh-so-neutral. But sometimes we have to hold back our emotions. People use different strategies when they try to deal with their emotions, and these different strategies impact their feelings, well-being and even their close relationships.

5 Tips for Reigniting the Relationship Spark After Kids

In just a little over a year and a half our relationship before baby is becoming a distant memory. I worry that the stress of parenthood, jobs, and other daily demands could bend our relationship into something unrecognizable. Research shows that for a sizeable portion of couples, having a child is hard on the relationship. But it also shows that it doesn’t have to be.

4 Things You Can't Do When You Argue With Your Partner

The last time you got into a fight, how did you act? It turns out that how we deal with conflict says a lot about the future of our relationships.

3 Reasons Not to Spend Your Money on Things

The other weekend I went to the mall in search of new running shoes. When I arrived, the parking lot was so full that I had to circle around before I found a spot. The stores were equally crowded inside. Apparently none of these shoppers had read Leaf Van Boven's 2005 review article highlighting the benefits of spending money on experiences over material goods.

How to Remind Yourself to Be Grateful for Your Life

Among the stories of tragedy following a plane crash in 2012, was a story of appreciation–a missed connection prevented one man from boarding that plane and when news of the crash aired he broke down, unable to believe how lucky he was. His wife told reporters she couldn't imagine life without him; but, for a few minutes, she had been forced to imagine the unimaginable.

It's Time to Take the "Positive" Out of Positive Psychology

What is the prescription for optimal living? The burgeoning field of positive psychology appears to have many of the answers: We should be kind to others, forgiving of transgressions, gracious and compassionate in our daily lives, and optimistic about the future. Following this simple plan should keep us happy and healthy. It turns out the answer might not be so simple.

The Benefits of Embracing the Ordinary

We tend to underestimate how much pleasure we get out of rediscovering mundane experiences. Here's how (and why) to capture the seemingly unmemorable moments for future you.

A Social Psychology Lesson from 'The Dress'

Last Saturday, my sister asked if I’d heard about the dress that was making its way across the internet like wildfire. Apparently people saw it as one of two different sets of colors, and scientists were weighing in on why people would see the same dress differently. I realized that this dress is not only entertaining, it is a lesson in social psychology.

My 1 Tip For Making Your New Year's Resolutions Stick

Do you make New Year’s resolutions each January only to find them a distant memory come February? This year, instead of focusing on what you want to change, try focusing on HOW you are going to change it. Instead of making a vague resolution (“get in shape”), make a concrete plan that specifies where, when, and in what way you are going to implement your resolution.

Which Will Take You Farther, Brains or Hard Work?

Which do you think is more predictive of success: innate ability or hard work? Do you think anyone can rise up to meet a challenge with enough effort, or are some people just more intelligent and able than others? It seems like there should be a true answer to these questions, but according to Dr. Carol Dweck, the truth is all in your head.

Why Halloween Makes Us Act Antisocial

As the children take to the streets tonight in search of a trick-or-treat, you might be wondering the best way to protect your house from some heavy candy-looting. In 1976, Ed Diener and his colleagues asked a similar question, though they were more interested in the conditions that prompted trick-or-treaters to overindulge and take more than they should.

How Do You React to Someone Else's Good News?

A job offer. A great haircut. A promotion. Good things happen to us, and when we share them with others, those good things can feel even better. But recent research suggests that how much better we feel depends on just how people respond to our good news.

What an IKEA ad and your Teddy Bear have in Common

I watched this IKEA commercial in my intro social psychology class, and eight plus years later, it is still seared in my memory. Take the minute to turn on your volume and watch this commercial, and then after I'll tell you how Spike Jonze used psychology to render me near tears, and what this has to do with naming your cars and holding onto your childhood teddy bear.

Why You Might Not Take Your Partner's Perspective

First comes love, then comes the realization that we are navigating life’s journey with another person who may have different thoughts, feelings, and beliefs than us. Perspective-taking is a fundamental social skill that helps us smoothly steer through the many bumps in the road, unfortunately not everyone is good at perspective-taking.

5 Tips for Avoiding Conflict in Your Relationship

My husband and I got into a fight over a pillowcase. It was one of those times where it was clearly his fault, and I was sure he would apologize. He didn't. Instead he seemed surprised that I wasn't apologizing to him. How could we have such different views of the same conflict? Which one of us was right? It turns out that we were both right, in our own ways.

Is It Love, or Just a Scary Movie?

Can you imagine watching a scary movie and falling in love with the first attractive person you see as you leave the movie theater? Likely not. But in fact, classic social psychology experiments have shown that sometimes people do misattribute feelings of fear and anxiety to sexual attraction.