You start thinking; the days are getting shorter and nights longer. Halloween was less than two weeks ago. And life is getting ready to push the pedal to the metal.
If you’re a colleger, you’re on the final stretch toward end of the semester projects and final exams. Many individuals are scrambling to deal with end of the year employment, family, and social demands. The holiday season is approaching and, like most, you're looking forward to some well deserved R&R. Right in the middle of the hustle and bustle, the person you have been in a close relationship with decides that now is the time to tell you “It’s over.” Suddenly you’re feeling like another holiday statistic. Your mind is consumed with thoughts of your lover. Some people describe this as feeling mentally paralyzed.
Places associated with your daily routine are triggering images and thoughts of your partner. Songs on the radio –even those on your own playlists – remind you of your partner. These and other details of your life are speaking to you and you are listening. Your emotions feel under siege.
You need more healthy energy across the board, not less. But all your ruminating is contributing to even lower physical energy. It's easy to be swept away. What to do?
One way to do this is to tap a flow of emotional memories from a time in your life - say, when you felt safe and protected. Think of it this way: it’s kind of like pushing a reset button to a time and place already programmed to get your energy feeling good again. So you're going to intentionally play that"program" instead of the one that is dragging you down.
Just like your body and mind respond to details from places, images, and sounds that can zap you into negativity as fast as popups appear on a computer screen, you can use your attention and focus to help spring both body and mind out of a negative feeling.
Many individuals associate strong feelings of safety and comfort with childhood – e.g. positive emotional memories that act like like snapshots and soundtracks of family, friends, places, images, music and activities. And you can use these moments to help move you toward more peaceful waters.
I want to emphasize, however, you are not looking for a miracle cure, just a way to gather some higher quality energy than you have been feeling. Sometimes that’s all it takes to turn the tide, so to speak.
These activities won’t necessarily take all of the hurt of a broken heart away. They won't cure you instantly. But what they can do is get you out of an emotional quicksand enough to shift your mindset to a more comforting place, even just “a quarter turn.” This is important. Feeling a little more at ease can be enough to feeling more like you and onto a more positive energy cultivating track. From there, you can give your typical daily routine a lift and continue your healthy and healing trajectory.
Notes: If you wish to explore a wide variety of ideas on body-energy, you may like to check out my book, BODY INTELLIGENCE – Harness Your Body’s Energies for Your Best Life. For a close look at how the seasons affect our lives and how we can use them to facilitate health, transformation, and happiness, you may wish to checkout my book, THE FIVE SEASONS.