Recently, a friend of mine had the following quote on her Facebook wall:
"Life's not about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain."
- Vivian Greene
The quote got me thinking about a concept called resilience, which is to say, our capacity to deal with discomfort, challenges and adversity.
I'm forever telling my clients that life is about how we respond to situations, because the situations themselves (the storms) are beyond our control. Wait for a peaceful moment and you'll likely find none. Decide that everything is fine right now and soon the sun will follow. It's an amazing principal that I continue to test out in my own life and which never fails to prove true.
Thankfully our ability to bounce back from pain boils down to more than just genetics. Sure, some of us are hardwired to lean forward in life, to triumph through adversity, but studies show that the rest of us can absolutely learn how to increase our resilience.
Resilient people understand that pain, misfortune and failure are not end points. They understand that although Americans are given the right to the pursuit of happiness, there is absolutely no guarantee of happiness; and if we happen to be blessed with happiness, it is just one of many positive and negative emotions that we will experience. It is a feeling; a mood. Not a destination.
Below are 5 tips to boost resilience:
Do you have more tips for resilience? I'd love to hear from you. Email me at darcy@AskDrDarcy.com