At 13, they were viewed by classmates with envy and admiration. Ten years later, the early signs of maturation and the advanced “cool factor” backfires. And you don’t need fame for it to backfire. You knew them as your classmates, and they were so not you. By young adulthood, they implode. So…what’s happening to these kids?
I recently met with an informal focus group of educators from colleges and universities in the Midwest. My sole purpose for the conversation was to get a read on how the school year went, as well as what they had learned as educators.
One common theme emerged from our discussion: incoming criticism.
I know. This title sounds just plain strange. But it’s a perfect name for what’s happening across our country—and a syndrome we must address if student athletes today are going to become healthy adults.
Over the last several months, I have spoken to more parents, teachers and coaches than I have students. It seems adults are still trying to figure out this digital generation of kids. Imagine that. The question below came from a woman who is both a mother and a teacher:
What a question right? I mean, of course engaged parents produce better kids than parents who are busy or absent. Anyone would assume, for instance, the children of an engaged father would turn out less aggressive or angry than children of a disengaged dad.
Psychologists have found that a kid without an attentive parent can be emotionally damaged — but soon discover they must find a way to fend for themselves. Children from over-parented homes can just plain fail to develop at all.