If you are like a lot of people you find yourself getting upset about things that---from hindsight—look less than awful. Sometimes, as you look back, it may seem rather trivial. Consider the following everyday events that you might make yourself upset over: getting stuck in traffic, someone not doing what you want them to do, getting a lower than expected evaluation on something, losing money on an investment, or getting the flu. Right now, let’s focus on some of these mundane issues—rather than some larger issues like divorce, serious disability, or a major setback. It is often the DAILY HASSLES that drive us insane.
Do any of these sound like you?
I have seen people get angry at the elevator being delayed, screaming in traffic, infuriated that the waiter got their order wrong, and thinking that the world is about to end because they didn’t do as well as they wanted to do on an exam.
Cognitive therapy can help us put things in perspective and take the fuel and flame out of our responses to everyday events. It’s the power of being “rational”. And, to remind you, the word “rational” is derived from “ratio” and which suggests that being rational is to see things proportionally or in perspective.
Five Steps to Putting Things in Perspective
Keep in mind that you can alter the way you respond to what is in front of you. If you find yourself stressed about everyday events, then it may be that you have lost perspective on things. These daily hassles are often the center of your stress.
To learn more about the many techniques that you can use please see my popular audience book, The Worry Cure, or my new book for clinicians, Cognitive Therapy Techniques. Second Edition.