In my previous blog, Envy: Why we Can’t Stand it When Other People Succeed, I indicated that envy is a near-universal experience where we may resent or feel uncomfortable with the success of someone else. We can distinguish between hostile and depressive envy, where hostile envy leads us to want the other person to fail (Schadenfreude) and depressive envy leads us to feel sad and inferior when we compare ourselves to the other person. Neither emotion is very pleasant. And when we feel envious we may act in ways that eventually undermine our own interests.
Let’s look at how you can turn things around with your envy.
Getting envy under control may actually help you gain greater success in the things that matter and may free you from the nagging negativity that feeds your resentment, anger, depression, and sense of humiliation.