He walked into my office for his first visit while he was on the phone talking about what seemed a very important "deal" and he stood in my office for the first five minutes on the phone. When he got off the phone he apologized and said, "This is my problem. This is why I need help." You recognize him. He might be you, your husband, wife, colleague, kid. Whatever.
Addicted to the cell phone.
Or you are sitting in a restaurant talking and your messages are vibrating and you just have to respond. You stealthily take your blackberry out and look to see what the most important message is. You can't seem to tear yourself loose from it. Your wife, kids, friends, and everyone feel that you are not really "there" when you are here with them. They feel insulted, left out, ignored, feeling that you are rude, compulsive, self-absorbed. They're right.
Let's face it. Probably 90% of the emails, text-messages, and even calls that you get are not important. Almost none of them are urgent. You feel anxious when you don't check, anxious if you don't respond IMMEDIATELY. You are hooked, addicted, and tethered like a dog to your blackberry.
What can you do?
Think of this as a mild case of obsessive compulsive disorder. And then use some cognitive behavioral therapy to break loose and take your life back.
Here are the steps: