If you fear that someday you’ll be alone, you are not alone. It’s a common, probably universal concern. Though many of us love our solitude, none of us want to end up stranded there.
We naturally address the worry by holding fast to the friends we’ve got – old friends who know us well, with whom we have a history. They say “make new friends but keep the old, one’s like silver the other’s like gold, but old friends aren’t like gold so much as they’re like comfortable old clothes, cozy, easy, unconstricting, funky and casual.
Having these old hold-fast friends is a great insurance policy, but so is cultivating your ability to make new “old” friends fast.
These days, people move on or just move. Our lifestyle options have become vast, and we’ve become more flexible about shifting between them. The more options we have for how and where to live the more chances that old friends will become incompatible with time. If you’re good at making new old friends, you’ll be able to replace old friends when they grow incompatible.
Here are some tips for making deeper friendships faster.
Keep the old friends of course. But feel confident that if you can’t, you won’t be stranded. If there’s one thing this world has lots of, it’s people.