Ambigamists embrace the tension between opposites, faith and doubt, romance and skepticism, being partial and impartial, loving and tough, yin and yang. They don't try to reconcile opposites with some middle ground universal solution. For example, ambigamists know that tough love isn't the answer but the chronic question--when to be tough?; when to be loving? They seek the wisdom to know the difference between situations that call for the tough courage to try to change things, and the loving serenity to accept things as they are.