Some-nipotence: A Real Answer to the Free Will Question

You have free will and the reason you hear otherwise is that scientists got stuck on the assumption that you're just a complex chemical robot.

An Evolutionary Fable

Adaptation got much more complicated once we gained the power of language.

The Obvious Which, Ignored, Makes Anyone a Jerk

Don't want to be a jerk? Remember that winning and being right are not the same thing.

How to Win Mindless Loyalty

Wouldn't it be fun to have people who think you're right no matter what you think or do? A little dangerous, perhaps, but fun. Here's how to get it.

Will Lookism Ever End?

Caring about how we look is a huge and cruel distraction, here's a way we might end up working through it.

Adaptation? It's Way Different For Humans

Adaptation—good fit to reality—is as old as life but very different for humans given our power of language. Here we imagine a beginner's guide for us newfangled language users.

Moral Relativism Is Tricky, but Smarter Than the Alternative

When push comes to shove, we dig in our heels, pretending that nature or the supernatural stands for what we stand for. That's a problem worth keeping an eye on.

Another Kind of Game Changer

Gaslighting suggests a third meaning of the term game changer.


Fear of coming across as a jerk keeps many, but not all men in line.

Mental Masturbation Deserves More Appreciation

We can't help but fantasize, often with great vision often with dangerous delusion. Since right or wrong, fantasy is our human birthright, we have to get good at it. Here's how.

Living With Know-It-All Hypocrites Will Stunt Your Growth

We leave bullies because they're immoral or just bad company. We should also leave them because they make it hard to admit to and learn from our errors.

Ten Varieties of Gratitude

Gratitude isn't just one thing. In addition to listing all the things you're grateful for today, list the varieties of gratitude.

A Solution to The Biggest Mystery You've Learned to Ignore

You've probably never thought to ask even though it's the question behind all your big questions: What is trying and how did it start?

Self-Obsessed but Not Introspective? How Does That Work?

There's a difference between knowing yourself patly and wondering about yourself. The former is more fun, and more dangerous.

Neither Free Will Nor Determinism

We haven't resolved the free-will debate because we don't know what will is. Here's an explanation from will's origins in chemistry with intuitive implications for your own life.

Corking 45

Trump is going nowhere until he's humiliated to his face.

A Simpler, Smarter Response to Accusations

"Well, of course, I'm biased, like you, like everyone. The only question here is whether I'm biased appropriately."

A Psycho-Proctologist Speaks: What Makes an Ass an Ass?

Psycho-proctology, the study of what makes an ass, focuses on the question of our age: What do Trump, Kim Jong Un, Putin, Stalin, trolls & your jerk ex-partner all have in common?

Myth-busting About Open-mindedness

Becoming more open-minded isn't just saying you're open-minded or deciding to think out the box. It's disciplining yourself to follow out harder thoughts.

Fluid Hard-Lining: A Gaslighter’s Favorite Trick

Gaslighters draw a hard line between good and bad, and fluidly wriggle the line to always put their victims on the bad side.

With Trump on Your Mind, Explore What Makes a Jerk a Jerk

Have a pat answer for what to do about jerks? It's probably wrong. Here's a list of 10 common escape hatches that keep us from facing the question.

Obverse Psychology: A Better Response to Know-It-Alls

How to respond to someone who reverses or deflects every challenge, always claiming the "correct" side of the coin for themselves? You expose how we're all dealing with both sides.

The Root of All Hypocrisy

In a pinch, we pull out bogus one-size-fits-all moral rules that we can't, won't, and shouldn't try to live by.

The Butthead Formula

To reduce conflict while curbing bad behavior, we really need a more objective definition of bad behavior. Here's an attempt at a neutral, objective definition of buttheadedness.

Neither Ghost Nor Machine: The Emergence and Nature of Us

The biggest gap in psychology finally filled, an explanation for why things matter to you but not to your computer, bed or car.


Hate is not the answer. Neither is love. Love is the question, what to love, a question you won't get to if you pretend that you're simply loving.

America's Myopioid Epidemic

Myopium: Myopic (short-sighted) beliefs turning people into closed-minded fanatics, high on themselves, unrealistic about the future.

Cornering a Slippery Child

After decades with an inherently slippery child, I was able to distill his many excuses to three. If I could go back, here's how I would have tried to block each of them.

Bring Back Confession

It's useful to calmly inventory your bad habits, not that they're going to change overnight.

Unpacked, the Serenity Prayer is an Instant Wisdom Upgrade

Decades studying decision-making and I keep coming back to the serenity prayer. Unpack it for a wealth of wisdom.