Practical Pig Wrestling

What's the best way to deal with people who are just out to prove you wrong? Here's a plan. You'll need one if you want to stay out of the traps they'll set for you.

Will Trolls Inherit The Earth?

Trolls take cheap shots, any easy path to attack and self-defense. There's a troll epidemic now. Here's a possible historical explanation for their risky rise.

The Cheap Shot Use of "You Don't Know That For Certain!"

To feel right always, diagnose anyone who disagrees with you as suffering from bias and self-certainty. Perform an intervention and start treatment immediately.

In Practical Praise of Romance

Care a lot about being considerate? It can make you defensive when you fear that you've disappointed someone. Part of the solution is romantic reassurances.

Deciding When to Demand Change

They say, "Stand strong. Don't lower your standards" and "Accept reality. Don't fight it." Just rarely in the same breath. The Serenity Prayer shows how to handle these opposites.

The Formula!

Here's the real secret, passed down through generations of tyrants and self-proclaimed infallible know-it-alls.

When You’re of Two Minds, Admit It

Is integrity being consistent or is it being honest about your inconsistency? It's both and the latter matters more.

How To Minimize Drama

Drama is a drag on any relationship, but what is it and how does it arise? Here's a roadmap with the pitfalls marked so you can avoid them.

Unwavering and Too Proud of It

Don't mistake poor impulse control for uncompromising principle.

Calm-onomics: The Everyday Economics of Stress Prevention

Life is an inherently anxious affair. This creates high demand for ways to keep anxiety at bay. Here's a behavioral-economic analysis of demand for and supply of ways to stay calm.

Ironic Faith: A Healthy Coping Strategy

An eye-opening trip to Indonesia teaches radical co-existence through ironic, stress-reducing faith.

Clear-Weather Friends

Fair-weather friends abandon you when you're down. Clear-weather friends abandon you when you want to get down into problems with the friendship.

A Different Approach to Political Divisiveness

Confusing ourselves to diffuse our political tensions.

Fear of Inadequacy and What to Do About It

More than we notice, we're driven by fear of inadequacy. Here's the way to manage it.

That Other Kind of Time Management

More than we notice, we'd like to stop time, to live forever or at least to have our eternal truths live forever.

The Highest Priority Common Core

We all need to learn how to practice evenhanded rhetoric and critical thinking, to be able, like a trial lawyer, to make a persuasive case for or against any argument.

Random Acts of Kindness Can Be Dangerous

To maximize your capacity for empathy and compassion, don't automatically move toward charity.

Popular Sociopathways

Some of us act like life is war, no room for negotiation, as if we won't survive unless we compete as aggressively as possible. How do we get like this? And could it happen to you?

Debate Like It's 2028

Debates aren't won in the present but the future when outcomes are revealed. Here's a quick tip on how to shift a debate's focus to the future and what really counts.

Thinking About Good Soldiers Who Died for Bad Causes

Good soldiers have died for horrible causes. It is our moral duty today to reflect on how that ends up happening.

OK No Cupid?

Do you dread the possibility that you'll end up single even as, with age, the odds increase that you will? If so, something has to change. Perhaps your attitude about singleness.

Touchy Toughies

Everyone needs a way to say "nope, I'm not going to listen." Here we explore two main "noping strategies" with an emphasis on how the rugged type do it.

PC: That Powerful Term That No One Bothers To Define

Accusing someone of being PC has become just another way of saying, "The problem is you, not me. I'm not insensitive; you're hypersensitive." Here's a better definition.

How to Not Be Fooled by Jerks. Or Become One

New studies suggest that gullibility can be gauged by one's respect for nonsense that's all dressed up. Here are four tools for undressing it.

When You Fall, How Do You Rise Again?

When our glass drains to half-full we try to refill it with something more reliable. When that fails it's best to get an adjustable-height glass.

How to Win Friends, Influence and Wisdom All at Once

Simple games that make us more likable, persuasive and wise

The PC Wars: Shutupsmanship Reaches New Heights

Political correctness is a new folk psychology diagnosis, one that is having enormous influence even though it's hard to define. Here's an attempt to define it accurately.

To Each Their Own

Are you uncaring? Maybe you're just other-caring. We need a new prefix, "other-". The anti-PC police aren't going to like it, but to each their own.

This Simple Insight Will Take a Load Off Your Mind

You'll be a lot smarter, happier and more bully-proof when you divorce the popular moral nonsense that makes an absolute virtue out of only-sometimes-useful tactics.

The Two Ways We Shop For Psychological Insights

Psychological therapy and psychological science have different goals. It's useful to be clear on the difference.