Will Your Child Be Part of the Collateral Damage of Divorce?

Rather than looking at the negative consequences of divorce as fixed, we need to examine the origins of the problem – the so-called pathogenesis – to recognize that these consequences are the results of symptoms acquired over the course of a child’s lifetime.

Changes in the Family: Impact on Child Relationships

Single parenting carries many responsibilities, not least of which is an even greater need to support children in their understanding for healthy relationships.

Changes in the Family: Impact on Sexual Development

In modern times, the family unit has been dramatically reconstructed. Regardless of the family’s formation, the behaviors observed by children of both single and two-parent families significantly impact children’s sexual development.

No Substitute for “Real” Relationships

Studies confirm that things, money, material riches are not the solution to human longing. Despite unprecedented affluence, health care, and technological advances, few--even among the best off elites--claim to be truly satisfied. What really matters requires riches of the heart, riches of the spirit.

Should You Make Choices for Your Kids?

Parents need to be concerned about the choices their kids make. The quality of your presence and support as your child explores and sorts through the options establishes the basis for his and her confident and solid decision-making when he and she are on their own.

Clear Communications about Sex for Effective Parenting

With inappropriate sexual messages inundating kids through the media and culture, parents feel thrown off guard about how to respond. By maintaining ongoing conversations about sexuality kids can rely on a dependable support to negotiate such challenges and pressures.

What Your Child Needs Most When Learning About Divorce

Divorce is one of the most painful life experiences for kids today. If divorce is on the table in your home, do you know what to do to respond most effectively for your children?

Twelve Ways to Ease Your Stress in Divorce

When divorce hits a family suddenly everything is up for grabs. While changes on all fronts create feelings of overwhelming stress for parents, parents need to refocus energy and restore structure to the broken home, structure that assures children that they are loved, heard, acknowledged, and supported.

Understanding Peer Pressure: Walking in Their Shoes

Fitting in, finding acceptance, and establishing identity are activities often played out through the child’s “body self”—feelings, attitudes, and behaviors about how kids look. While this is a topic where angels (much less parents) dare not tread, parents can provide invaluable support as their children confront these challenges.

Appearance and Peer Pressure

Talking with your children about their appearance can be a sensitive topic. For kids, negotiating their identity and dress is not easy considering the models and pressures from the schoolyard to the big screen. However, kids know that parents are their most invaluable resource in identity formation when open and honest exchanges occur.

Sexuality and Relationships for Your 6- to 8-Year-Old

The challenges of school for 6- to 8-year-olds invite important opportunities for parents to help build the foundation for healthy sexual and relational confidence within their child. By building a positive environment where your child may share concerns, you provide an invaluable lesson for helping them to make sense of their world.

When Does Sex Education Begin?

Parents communicate about sexuality with their child from the very start. What messages do you intend? What is your actual impact? Given the overwhelming and wide range of messages with which kids are confronted today about sex, more than ever, they need their parents to develop confident understandings about healthy sexuality and meaningful relationships.

Unspoken Sexual Messages

Studies show that kids who share good relationships with their parents and can honestly discuss their concerns about sex, dating, and love are less influenced by peer behavior in drug, alcohol, and sex, are more successful in school, and develop more meaningful relationships. How do parent sexual values affect their relationships with their kids?

Critical Periods and Critical Moments for Attachment

Can love be taught? Is it instinctual? Or is love an enigma? While most recognize the innate capacity to love, we also recognize its complexity. What can parents do to nurture, impart, and support healthy qualities for meaningful relationships and love within their child?

Checklist for “The Puberty Talk” with Your Daughter

Puberty is an exciting and challenging time in your daughter's life. Bonding with her successfully as she moves from childhood into her teens confirms your presence in your parenting role and relationship for life.

The Dirty Dozen That Parents Need to Guard Against

Divorce takes a significant toll on parents but often has a paralyzing psychological impact on kids. "The Dirty Dozen" are identified as the major errors parents make in divorce according to children of divorce from a national survey.

Four Essentials to Discuss With Your Kids During Divorce

Divorce is one of the greatest challenges than any family may ever manage. It impacts every member to varying, though significant, degrees--particularly the children. Meeting your children’s needs by effectively communicating with them, regardless of the overwhelming stress the you are under may be a lifejacket for their wellbeing.

Purposes of Sex

How do your kids understand sex? By explaining sex in an honest and direct manner, you can help them to bridge sex with intimacy and love.

Understanding the Five-Year Old Brain When Talking About Sex

While most parents don’t think about sexuality as a subject of significance for their five-year old, establishing a healthy foundation about sexuality with your child at an early age creates a foundation for his or her sexual self-confidence and positive relationships with parents and peers.

Should Parents Laugh With Their Kids About Sex?

Helping our children to understand a healthy and positive use of humor and its place concerning sexuality is a powerful lesson parents can offer their kids. This lesson strengthens our kids’ sexual self-confidence and enhances our relationship with them.

Guidelines for Young People Dating Via the Internet

Have you considered Internet dating? Has your child? Internet dating is becoming more and more common today as many believe that it offers several advantages over traditional face-to-face meetings. Yet Internet dating poses challenges and even threats that kids and parents need to consider.

Speaking Out When Witnessing Abuse

Some of the most painful memories of youth stem from experiences of public humiliation--when others do not come to the aid of an abusive or unjust situation. Sometimes parents themselves are the perpetrators of abuse and often times other adults observe such situations and fail to intervene.

Being Present for Our Children During Tragedy

Children experience the impact of social upheaval and terror more acutely than adults, yet they often fall into the backdrop as adults manage their fear and anxiety.

Living Words and Actions: Our Messages about Sex

Take this self-assessment about the messages that you convey (often unconsciously) to your kids about sexuality and determine if you are communicating effectively the messages that you state through your words and actions.

Vogue Sexual Communications

With advances in technology, a new form of communicating about sex has emerged: sexting. While it may seem "cool," parents need to weigh in so that kids make wise judgments to avoid engaging in this medium that may cause pain to themselves and others.

Sexual Abuse (Incest): Right Under Our Nose

Parents can protect their children from the scary reality of incest and sexual abuse by establishing open communication and supporting confidence in their children to be in charge of their own body.

Abstinence: A Second Look

Abstinence is gaining increasing momentum for teens as a sexual posture in our culture of sexual un-innocence. In addition to being 100% effective for preventing pregnancy and protection from sexually transmitted infections (STIs), teens (as well as celebrities) increasingly recognize the emotional and spiritual benefits of abstinence.

What’s the Best Way to Respond to Your Child’s Crush?

Crushes are a normal part of relational development. Parents can help their kids manage the range of feelings stirred in crushes and make these events times to build trust and confidence through their advice.

Can Parents Afford to Make Mistakes?

Why is that kids sometimes hold on to flip comments that parents make? Are we, as parents, given any leeway? Can’t parents get frustrated, or are we to be held accountable for every word that flows from our lips?

Seven Ways Parents Build Their Kids’ Healthy Body Image

Body image concerns, especially in our culture that promotes idealized bodies, place great demands on kids of all ages. As parents, we are in a critical position to create opportunities to constructively guide our kids to take control of their body and embrace their body-self to feel confident about their identity.