All About Wisdom

It can be difficult to define Wisdom, but people generally recognize it when they encounter it. Psychologists pretty much agree it involves an integration of knowledge, experience, and deep understanding that incorporates tolerance for the uncertainties of life as well as its ups and downs. There's an awareness of how things play out over time, and it confers a sense of balance.

Wise people generally share an optimism that life's problems can be solved and experience a certain amount of calm in facing difficult decisions. Intelligence—if only anyone could figure out exactly what it is—may be necessary for wisdom, but it definitely isn't sufficient; an ability to see the big picture, a sense of proportion, and considerable introspection also contribute to its development.

Recent Posts on Wisdom

On the Wisdom of Taking a Lover

By Sheila Kohler on March 27, 2015 in Dreaming for Freud
When my ex- husband announced he had fallen in love with another woman, he said he still loved me and was not sure what to do. He felt terribly guilty as did his mistress and he had to tell me the truth. We had been married for ten years and were both in our early thirties

Getting Off to a Good Start on Your New Job

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on March 27, 2015 in How To Do Life
How to make the most of those first days on the job.

Surprise

By The Book Brigade on March 26, 2015 in The Author Speaks
Surprise is good for the brain, great for relationships, and adds a certain frisson all around. Without it, life is lackluster. So why don't more people embrace the unexpected? They run from it or try to subdue it when they should instead roll with it.

One Key to a Good Marriage

By Michael W Austin on March 25, 2015 in Ethics for Everyone
For a good marriage, focus on being the right person.

Can You Free Yourself From Regrets in Your Life? Here's How

Many people feel regrets about past decisions and paths they took in their live, and they often feel trapped by the long-term consequences. But there's a different way of understanding the regrets, by learning how you have been changed by them in ways you might not realize.

Rescue the Mangroves, Rescue Ourselves?

By Sam Osherson Ph.D. on March 24, 2015 in Listen Up!
A small, dirt-road fishing village on the Pacific coast of Mexico organizes to restore their threatened ocean environment and provides hope for all of us. They remind us of the powerful hunger to take care of the natural world and "our animal relatives."

Racism: Our Collective Complicity, Denial and Naiveté

To honestly confront the psychological illness of racism, America needs a true mirror, one that reflects our light and our shadow; one that provokes a real moral and spiritual awakening.

To Everything There Is a Season: A Time to Smash the Ice

By Julie J. Exline Ph.D. on March 24, 2015 in Light and Shadow
Is there a time for rage? After a brutal winter and an attempt to come to peace with the ice that wouldn't leave our streets and sidewalks, here's what happened when I finally had a chance to do something about it.

You Can't Have Real Intimacy Without This

Being human means being vulnerable. But oftentimes we try to control love and intimacy, not realizing that true intimacy can only arise as we develop the awareness to notice and the courage to embrace our vulnerabilities. Our task is not to transcend our humanity or take flight into a spiritual self-image, but rather to engage with vulnerability in a skillful, gentle way.

Five Strategies to Tame Your Inner Critic

You can’t get rid of your inner critic. It's just part of the human mind. But you can greatly reduce its fear level, and get it serving, rather than running, you. Here's a 5 Step Process to Tame Your Inner Critic.

10 Ways to Calm Your Interview Anxiety

It's normal to feel stressed or anxious before an important job interview. Your anxiety can motivate you but can also distract you, so here are 10 quick tips to tame it.

Ethical (and Effective) Letters for Job Seekers

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on March 23, 2015 in How To Do Life
Job-seekers' letters are much more likely to be helpful if they are more human, honest and devoid of job-seeker jargon than the typical such letter. And your letter is much more likely to meet those criteria if you write it yourself, even if it's less well-written than if you hire a resume writer.

The 3Y Secret to Greater Contentment

By Tim Carey Ph.D. on March 22, 2015 in In Control
Once people come to understand themselves and their important motivations more clearly, they can evaluate for themselves whether the road they are currently on is likely to take them in the direction they wish to travel.

Ask Your Doctor if You Are Healthy Enough for Sex

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on March 22, 2015 in Fighting Fear
How to reassure patients when they ask their doctor if they are healthy enough for sex (should the occasion of their asking ever arise.)

The Best Strategy for Facing Your Biggest Fears

By Erin Olivo Ph.D. on March 22, 2015 in Wise Mind Living
Fear is an emotion that many people try to avoid because it makes you feel uncomfortable. Is there anything you aren’t facing right now because your fear is holding you back?

Book Review: Wisdom from the Couch

By Ryan Howes PhD, ABPP on March 22, 2015 in In Therapy
Dr. Jennifer Kunst shares the warmer, friendlier side of Kleinian psychology in this interview and book review.

A Contrarian Approach to Your Resume and LinkedIn Profile

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on March 22, 2015 in How To Do Life
Primped resumes are suspect and certainly don't establish the needed chemistry.

Did You Hate the Ice this Winter? An Exercise in Reframing

By Julie J. Exline Ph.D. on March 21, 2015 in Light and Shadow
Have you ever found yourself starting to hate something in nature, like ice? This winter I noticed that many of us here in my wintry city were not only afraid of the ice; we really started to hate the stuff. It became almost like a personal enemy. This entry describes an exercise that I used to try to make some sense of peace with the ice.

The One-Week Job Search

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on March 21, 2015 in How To Do Life
Job seeking feels daunting but you can accomplish much in just one smart week.

Collaboration, Willingness, and Leadership

Certainly, those of us who want to put collaboration at the center of how we function are swimming upstream. What’s most needed, in my mind, is the empowerment of all to be able to express their needs and perspectives and, simultaneously, be interested in the needs and perspectives of others and in finding a solution that works for all.

What Would You Tell Your 20-year-old Self?

Wouldn't it be nice to save time and learn life lessons earlier? Ask the simple question of what you wished you'd known earlier and maybe you can save yourself--or someone you care about--a bit of time, energy and drama.

How to Spend the Time You Have Left

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on March 20, 2015 in A Sideways View
Today is the first day of the rest of your life! Are you living life to the full? Are you spending your time wisely?

Praising Kids for Unimpressive Accomplishments

Overvaluing your kids accomplishments may result in self-centeredness and low achievement.

“I Need a Do-over!” 5 Ways to Fix Relationship Missteps

By Meg Selig on March 19, 2015 in Changepower
So you were a doormat or a bully and you regret it. There's a do-over for that! Try these 5 assertive scripts that will mend your relationship and restore your confidence.

Yes, You Should Get Paid to Watch Basketball at Work

By Ron Friedman Ph.D. on March 19, 2015 in Glue
Think watching basketball on the job is a waste of company time? Think again.

6 Ways to Infuse Therapy with a Sense of Hope

Bringing a genuine sense of hope and optimism into the therapy process is paramount in our alliance with clients. Fortunately, there are a number of ways in which clinicians can infuse the therapy process with the notion that there is truly a light at the end of the tunnel—and it’s not an oncoming train!

It Takes Patience to Know Bad Luck From Good Luck

By Richard Smith Ph.D. on March 19, 2015 in Joy and Pain
Experience can teach us to wait a while before we judge the full effects of what appears to be either bad or good fortune.

The Mach 1 Experience: 6 Keys to Successful Risk-Taking

By Gregg Levoy on March 18, 2015 in Passion!
There’s no risk without fear, but living a passionate life means pushing yourself through your resistance. These 6 insights about successful risk-taking can help you jump-start your engines.

The 5 Secrets for a Happy Life

Happiness is in fact a practice and a lifestyle. We can all be happy right now. Here are 5 Secrets to Happiness to begin the practice of happiness in your life today.

An Analytical Approach to Finding Your Career

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on March 18, 2015 in How To Do Life
What are your core skills, interests, values, and non-negotiables?