All About Sex

At least for humans, this most basic of acts is anything but basic. As the pioneering sex researcher Alfred Kinsey put it, the only universal in human sexuality is variability itself. Within the universe of intimacy and pleasure that sex affords, however, there's a lot of room for error. From the behavior itself to our sexual identifications and associations, sex never fails to be a provacative topic. Most people are affected by sexual problems at some point in their lives and safety of the body and mind is always a concern. Though the global jury may remain hung over sex's moral and political implications, we can all come to at least one consensus: It's why we're alive today and it's the first thing future generations depend on.

Recent Posts on Sex

Surprising Ways to Strengthen Your Relationship

Neuroscience provides new clues about what makes strong couples

The Friendship Cleanse

A friendship cleanse can leave you feeling lighter and happier when you let go of the people who just weigh you down.

The Right Time For Sex

By Isadora Alman MFT on March 05, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
Bedtime sex is only one possibility. There are others, in case you forgot.

42 Signs that You are a Narcissist

Discover your degree of self-centeredness with these 42 signs indicating narcissism.

Who Says Wanting Control is a Bad Thing?

Yet, when it comes to our bodies, wanting to feel in charge is completely normal. But as we age it becomes less likely that we can control our bodies.

Jodi Arias Update

The Jodi Arias jury deliberations continue.

Hiding From Relationship—In Relationship

The suppression of the emotional vitality that we call passion is both the benefit and the cost of irrelationship, and a side effect of the process that creates it. Relationships can be enlisted in the service of defense in many ways. In irrelationship, the enlistment is constructed by two people, and enforced by both.

The Neuroscience of Intimacy

Why lovers touch each other the way they do

Gone with the Wind and Xica: Two Myths of Slavery

Seventy-five years ago, Gone with the Wind was released, a movie that romanticized slavery with stereotyped images of African-Americans that remain familiar to this day. Slavery in Brazil was more widespread and lasted longer than in the U.S. The Brazilian movie Xica is also about slavery, but its stereotypes of Afro-Brazilians are very different from the American ones.

The Scientific Case for Owning Up to Your Porn Use

Many people believe that porn use should be hidden from a relationship partner. However, a new study suggests that when women think their partners are honest about their porn use, they tend to be happier with their relationships.

Creepy New Marketing Targets Female Sex Hormones

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in The Human Beast
During the fertile phase of their monthly cycle, women are prone to greater risk taking. For psychologists, this means that they are more likely to initiate sexual affairs. Marketers discovered that women are more likely to try new brands as well. Now they plan to use this fact in targeted marketing. Assuming that they get away with it, will the scheme work?

The NoFap Phenomenon

By David J Ley Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in Women Who Stray
The NoFap movement gets lots of media attention, as they trumpet the dangers of masturbating to porn. But, their claims are based on weak science, and subjective anecdotes. Worse, they are regurgitating old myths about sexuality, which treat male sexuality in reductionistic fashion.

Singles, You Can Lower Your Risk of Divorce

Many singles are interested in marriage but fear divorce. You can do things before marriage to increase your odds of lasting love in marriage.

When Boys Feel Like Girls and Girls Feel Like Boys

By Elizabeth Wagele on March 03, 2015 in The Career Within You
“I told my mom, and she reacted extremely negatively, telling me that it was a phase, that I would never truly be a girl, that God doesn’t make mistakes, that I am wrong. If you are reading this, parents, please don’t tell this to your kids.”

Employers Trust Single Lesbians and Married Straight Women

Marital status, gender, and sexual orientation biases do effect hiring decisions—but not necessarily in the ways you'd expect.

Asexuality is Not a Diagnosis

Sometimes people who disbelieve in asexuality insist that their objections are scientific, but said claims ignore that sexual orientation is not an objectively proven conclusion. It is, by definition, a subjective experience, and it should not be treated like a scientific statement that must be held to rigorous experimental standards.

Divorce Equality

While there is a lot of press about gay marriage, there is much less reporting of gay divorces.

How to Stop Feeling Guilty About Your Lack of Orgasms

Most women who haven’t had their first orgasm are incredibly hard on themselves. They feel ashamed, embarrassed, defeated, anxious, unwomanly, self-conscious, and alone. Learn how you can transform your relationship with orgasm.

The Sexual Boundary Issue That's Seldom Discussed

By Michael Castleman M.A. on March 02, 2015 in All About Sex
Many couples struggle over men's wish to ejaculate into women's mouths and have them swallow.

Sex and Leadership for Women

Sex differences in the brain can help women be better leaders

Why Bullies Don't Feel Bad (Or Don't Know They Do)

If you assume that bullies are aware of feeling bad about themselves, you may be ineffective in dealing with them.

Self-Regulation of Creative Behaviors

Psyching yourself to be creative.

Is Overprescription of Antidepressants Sexist?

A thoughtful editorial in today's New York Times, made me consider a new reason for concern about the overprescription of antidepressants: they are written disproportionately to females and may be suppressing women's natural emotionality.

8 Warning Signs Your Lover is a Narcissist

The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration." How do you know when your romantic partner may be a narcissist? Here are eight telltale signs...

How to Get a Date by First Asking a Simple Question

Have you ever wanted to ask out someone you know, or get a date with an attractive stranger? In either case, you can increase your chances of getting a "yes" by first asking a simple question, or making a small request. Find out what the research has to say here...

Where’s The Market For Organs (And Sex)?

By Jesse Marczyk on February 28, 2015 in Pop Psych
Sometimes you aren't allowed to sell things that you are free to give away; a curious bit of moral psychology

What Sex Teaches Us About Leadership

Paying attention to sex can make you a better leader

4 Keys to Great Sex

By Kimberly Key on February 27, 2015 in Counseling Keys
Sex with the wrong partner can have deleterious effects on your self-esteem. Learn the four keys to an awesome sex life.

Sexting and Selfies

Sexting and intimate selfies have become almost routine-but should they be?

Should We Fan the Romantic Flame?

By Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D. on February 26, 2015 in In the Name of Love
All human experiences, including romantic ones, can be boring. The remedy for boredom is often change and novelty. Should we then change our romantic partners in order to fan our romantic flames? Although change is indeed essential to emotional intensity, there are several types of changes, and emotional intensity is far from being the whole story when it comes to romance.