All About Sex

At least for humans, this most basic of acts is anything but basic. As the pioneering sex researcher Alfred Kinsey put it, the only universal in human sexuality is variability itself. Within the universe of intimacy and pleasure that sex affords, however, there's a lot of room for error. From the behavior itself to our sexual identifications and associations, sex never fails to be a provacative topic. Most people are affected by sexual problems at some point in their lives and safety of the body and mind is always a concern. Though the global jury may remain hung over sex's moral and political implications, we can all come to at least one consensus: It's why we're alive today and it's the first thing future generations depend on.

Recent Posts on Sex

Premarital Sex Rises with Economies

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on May 22, 2015 in The Human Beast
I have been analyzing Pew data on acceptance of premarital sex around the globe to see whether it fits in with the ecology of modern life. Is acceptance of premarital sex higher in developed countries? What about the risks of pregnancy, and disease? What about female participation in the workforce?

The Uses of Shame

By Joseph Burgo Ph.D. on May 20, 2015 in Shame
In different ways, the religious right and the liberal left both make use of shame to enforce their values.

How to Identify a Sexual Manipulator

Not all relationships are formed on an equal footing. Learn how to spot a sexual manipulator and avoid the heartache.

You live together, but you aren’t even engaged?

Living together before marriage is not uncommon, but living together before engagement may spark feelings of uncertainty. New research studied non-engaged couples living together and what topics/situations spark uncertainty.

Good Sex

Truly good sex is about more than bodies, it is about persons.

Can Snapchat Cause Jealousy?

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on May 18, 2015 in Love, Digitally
Snapchat used for sexting Participants used Snapchat more for flirting

The Sexuality Of Schools

By Nick Luxmoore on May 16, 2015 in Young People Up Close
The way a school expresses or represses its collective sexual identity will have an effect on the individuals attending that school.

What Women Need to Know about the Bystander Effect in Men

The problem of sexual aggression toward female students by their male peers is becoming an increasing matter of concern on college campuses. Alcohol is known to be a risk factor in fueling violence against women but new research shows that sexist attitudes greatly compound the dangers.

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 2

By Eyal Winter on May 16, 2015 in Feeling Smart
"sperm competition" is a major force that shaped men and women differently

Do Condoms Impair Erotic Sensitivity?

Despite the lingering “shower in a raincoat” myth, if you enjoy the sex you’re having, condoms don’t impair sensitivity.

Good Enough Sex vs. Perfect Individual Sex Performance

Sex does not equal intercourse and intercourse and orgasm is not a pass-fail sex test.

Infidelity Goes Public

In 2001, entrepreneur Noel Biderman launched Ashley Madison, a dating/hookup website designed not to help single people meet, date and potentially fall in love, but to help people in established relationships engage in sexual infidelity.

Are We Attracted to People Who Look Like Us?

Do opposites attract? Apparently not. According to recent research, we are attracted to people who resemble our parents or ourselves.

I'm Caught In A Love Triangle

What To Do About Love Triangles

Oxytocin — The Multitasking Love Hormone

By Robert D. Martin Ph.D. on May 12, 2015 in How We Do It
Oxytocin is widely known because hospitals routinely use it to trigger and support birth. The hormone also triggers milk ejection during breastfeeding. But it is also involved elsewhere, including bonding. Oxytocin has significant effects on brain function as well as on the reproductive organs. But it has very ancient origins, so what was its initial function?

First Dates

By Isadora Alman MFT on May 11, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
First dates can be a fun exercise in developing your social graces.

Seventy Percent: A Statistic to Enhance Your Sex Life

If more women and men knew this statistic, less women would be faking orgasm.

What is Love?

For Mother’s Day this blog will not address the pressing issues of psychiatry today. Suffice it to say that the harm done by the twin traumas of deprivation and abuse generate all the psychiatric struggles we are all subject to. This is the other side of the story - my appreciation for what I have learned from my wife.

What Excites You?

All love is based on the experience of positive emotion, and the part of love that makes your heart thump owes its power to the emotion of excitement that began in early childhood.

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 1

By Eyal Winter on May 09, 2015 in Feeling Smart
The Evolutionary Role of Love Romance and Sexuality

Are You Single for the Right Reasons?

If you find yourself feeling turned on the idea of relationships in general, your attitudes are worthy of exploration. There may be a lot of good reasons why you’re not in a relationship right now, but what I’ll aim to unmask here are the not-so-good reasons people steer away from love and intimacy… and possibly even their own happiness.

What is a 'Clean' Breakup? (And How to Achieve One)

Letting go can be so painful that it's easier to create drama and/or necessitate a fight rather than part ways on amicable terms.

Homosexuality is Not an Addiction

By David J Ley Ph.D. on May 08, 2015 in Women Who Stray
Clinicians and programs who provide conversion or gay reparative therapies are now using a new treatment justification, claiming that homosexuality is an addictive disorder.

Why Mothers Are So Special

By Gad Saad Ph.D. on May 08, 2015 in Homo Consumericus
Mothers hold a privileged status within the human experience. I address some of the foundational evolutionary principles that explain the mother-child bond. Happy Mother’s Day!

Low Self-Esteem? You're Likely to Stay In a Bad Relationship

Research finds that people with low self-esteem avoid dealing with conflicts in their relationships, fearing rejection. This can lead to a worsening relationship, in which they remain frozen.

The Importance of Being Wanted

By Robert J King Ph.D. on May 07, 2015 in Hive Mind
Are the children of gay and lesbian parents likely to suffer adverse outcomes?

Child Custody Issues for Polyamorous Families

Sexual minorities usually fare poorly in court when family members (often an ex-spouse or parent/grandparent) or institutional representative from Child Protective Services challenge their custody of their children. This blog explains five things parents or families who are concerned about custody can do to prepare themselves in case their custody is challenged.

The Opposite of Sex, Drugs, and Rock & Roll: Deborah's Story

By Michael Terman Ph.D. on May 06, 2015 in Chronotherapy
Spring has finally sprung, and now’s a great time to take stock of mistakes that produced the gloomy winter past. Psychologist Elizabeth Saenger tells the story of her co-worker’s descent from the Get-Up-and-Go Olympics to a turtle in molasses. And how she and you can turn this picture around.

No Virginia, Gay Marriage Won’t Lead to 900,000 Abortions

Gene Schaerr’s recently argued, before the Supreme Court, that gay marriage will lead to more abortions--900,000 more! But his argument wouldn't even receive a passing grade in my sophomore level logic class.

Transgenderism 101

In the weeks since Bruce Jenner's interview, many individuals have asked me to explain what it means to be transgendered, and what the difference is between gender identity and sexuality identity. In this piece, these differences are explained.