All About Sex

At least for humans, this most basic of acts is anything but basic. As the pioneering sex researcher Alfred Kinsey put it, the only universal in human sexuality is variability itself. Within the universe of intimacy and pleasure that sex affords, however, there's a lot of room for error. From the behavior itself to our sexual identifications and associations, sex never fails to be a provacative topic. Most people are affected by sexual problems at some point in their lives and safety of the body and mind is always a concern. Though the global jury may remain hung over sex's moral and political implications, we can all come to at least one consensus: It's why we're alive today and it's the first thing future generations depend on.

Recent Posts on Sex

June 26 and the LGBT Phone Explosion

By Susan B. Winston LMFT on July 05, 2015 in Shift Happens
Cells phones were on fire on June 26 with the Supreme Court announcement making same sex marriage legal in all states. So were phones of many therapists. This was a day for coming out, not just saying "I do". And for some it was a day of wondering if they were LGBT or if their children were. So how do you answer those questions?

Why the sky won't fall even if gay marriage spurs polygamy

Does same-sex marriage lead the way to multiple-partner marriage? If so, what kind of impact might that have on society? This blog introduces the Supreme Court decision and its relationship to plural marriage, puts polygamy in social, cultural, and historical context, and identifies differences between polygyny and polyamory.

The Privilege of Sexual Freedom

By Laurie B. Mintz Ph.D. on July 04, 2015 in Stress and Sex
This Fourth of July, as you watch the fireworks and celebrate our country’s freedom, please remember that sexual freedom is a human right that not everyone has. Please appreciate your freedom and at the same time, consider helping those who don’t have this freedom.

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 8

By Eyal Winter on July 04, 2015 in Feeling Smart
In fact Men Talk More than Women - Read for evidence. Read also about the role the"demand withdrawal" phenomenon that is typical to so many relationships shapes this myth.

Examining Arousal and Homophobia

By Jesse Marczyk on July 03, 2015 in Pop Psych
In honor of the supreme court verdict legalizing same-sex marriages, let's discuss why homophobia does not imply that one is actually a latent homosexual

The Sexism in Science Controversies

By Lee Jussim Ph.D. on July 02, 2015 in Rabble Rouser
Are scientific claims of sexism in science overstated?

Should Couples Share Their Sexual Fantasies?

By Michael Castleman M.A. on July 02, 2015 in All About Sex
Sexual fantasies excite the imagination—and sometimes are better left there.

Bisexuality, Not Addiction

By David J Ley Ph.D. on July 02, 2015 in Women Who Stray
Men who struggle with bisexual attractions are often called sex addicts. Unfortunately, this label doesn't help, and often perpetuates homophobia and religious bias against homosexuality.

Why (Almost) Everyone Is Happy About Same-Sex Marriage

By Ran Zilca on July 02, 2015 in Confessions of a Techie
How is it that a topic that was deeply divisive for years becomes so vastly supported, almost unanimously perceived as a victory?

Bouncing Back From Getting Dumped in 3 Easy Steps

It’s normal to need to re-validate your potential as a lover and a partner, but remember that every relationship is not meant to last forever and that every new relationship is a new beginning that does not have to yield to the self-same ending.

The Causes of Infidelity: Players Gonna Play?

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on July 01, 2015 in Insight Therapy
At some point in their lives most Americans enter a monogamous intimate relationship. Over time, up to half will stray. Why?

Garner, Affleck, Marital Therapy, and Divorce

The tabloids exploded with curiosity and innuendo of terrible trouble once Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner were discovered going to a marital therapist. Now with a pending divorce, people’s worst fears are confirmed. Apparently if your spouse suggests therapy, it is a last ditch effort or a way to tell you it’s over. So teaches Hollywood. But is it?

Of Crime, Criminality, and Nature

By Joe Nedelec Ph.D. on June 30, 2015 in The Nature of Crime
Thieving primates, invading chimpanzees, alcoholic monkeys, and insect rape are a few examples of the criminality evident in nature discussed in this post. To further lay the foundation for a biosocial viewpoint of crime and criminality, this post examines how human criminal behavior has numerous analogues in the wild.

Why Good Looks Don't Guarantee a Great Relationship

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on June 30, 2015 in The Sports Mind
New research finds that attractiveness does little to guarantee a healthy relationship.

My Daughter Is Going To College And I Am Terrified

How To Handle Anxiety About College

Eleven Facts About Sex I Wish Judges & Lawyers Understood

By Marty Klein PhD on June 30, 2015 in Sexual Intelligence
The justice system requires knowledgeable judges and lawyers. When it comes to sex, most aren't.

Motivation in Education, Therapy, and Parenting

Vengeful parental fantasies often take the form of protecting the child from invented or exaggerated external threats.

The Fat Fetish, Explained

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on June 30, 2015 in In Excess
One sexual behaviour that appears to be very popular among a minority of men is ‘BBW squashing’ (i.e., men being squashed by one or more ‘big beautiful women’ for sexual pleasure) and also known as ‘crushing’ or ‘smashing’ by squashing enthusiasts. But what do we know psychologically about this strange sexual behaviour?

Paraphilia: Insects as Sources of Sexual Arousal

For many people, insects evoke a sense of fear or disgust—not lust. So how and why do some people use these creatures with sexual excitement? The answer lies in the ways in which our bodies respond to lions, cockroaches and foreplay, along with the capacity of the human mind to interpret physiological states in rather remarkable and creative ways.

Is Everyone on Match.com Looking for a Match?

By Marty Klein PhD on June 29, 2015 in Sexual Intelligence
Many people use dating sites to window shop. Their mates, however, may not be amused.

Can Subliminal Messages Create Feelings of Love and Lust?

Can a sexy picture in the background or a well-chosen romantic word, trigger automatic feelings of love and desire? Could the right situation or association make you seem more attractive, sexy, or alluring to a potential lover? See what the research has to say here...

This Proves That Men Are Visual Creatures

By Donna Barstow on June 29, 2015 in Ink Blots Cartoons
Some men are wonderful conversationalists, but others don't say much at all, and prefer to let their eyes do the talking.

A Love Letter to Mothers of Sons

Although mother-daughter relationships are often fraught with conflict, mothers and their adult daughters seem to have an easier time with each other than mothers and their adult sons..Read about the real nature of a man's relationship with his mother, the first love of his life, and how and why it changes so drastically.

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 7

By Eyal Winter on June 27, 2015 in Feeling Smart
More Clichés: Men seek Younger and Physically Attractive; Women seek Professionally Successful

The Psychological Benefits of Legalized Gay Marriage

By Clay Routledge Ph.D. on June 26, 2015 in More Than Mortal
Marriage provides psychological security and meaning. And now these benefits are fully available to same-sex couples.

#Love Wins . . . Marriage Equality Is for Real

It's about love and equality. That's about as simple as it can get.

Same-Sex Marriage Needed to Be Decided by the Supreme Court

Today the Supreme Court decided that marriage is a right for all, same-sex and opposite-sex couples alike. Some would rather this has been decided by popular vote, but it's more appropriate and just that the courts should decide. But why?

It Is Time to Legalize and Accept Same-Sex Marriage

Researchers, the majority of the American public, and even advertisers are calling for acceptance of same-sex marriage—isn’t it time the Supreme Court and our legal system followed suit?

Taboo of Male Rape Keeps Victims Silent

The stigmatization of male rape victims is harsh, such that survivors may not identify as victims, or realize that they have experienced a sexual assault.

The Joy of Mindful, Asynchronous Sex

By Laurie B. Mintz Ph.D. on June 24, 2015 in Stress and Sex
During asynchronous sex, the receiver can connect her body and mind in space and time—or in other words, she can cultivate the mindful focus that has been shown to increase orgasmic capacity