All About Sex

At least for humans, this most basic of acts is anything but basic. As the pioneering sex researcher Alfred Kinsey put it, the only universal in human sexuality is variability itself. Within the universe of intimacy and pleasure that sex affords, however, there's a lot of room for error. From the behavior itself to our sexual identifications and associations, sex never fails to be a provacative topic. Most people are affected by sexual problems at some point in their lives and safety of the body and mind is always a concern. Though the global jury may remain hung over sex's moral and political implications, we can all come to at least one consensus: It's why we're alive today and it's the first thing future generations depend on.

Recent Posts on Sex

15 Ways to Reclaim Romance, Love, and Intimate Pleasure

Embracing your heart's desire -- romantic love.

Benefits To Bullying

By Jesse Marczyk on November 29, 2015 Pop Psych
It is precisely because bullies are doing well that they are able to effectively bully others. This might also make them more attractive to members of the opposite sex.

Loving The Alien

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on November 26, 2015 In Excess
Exophilia refers those individuals who derive sexual arousal from extraterrestrial, robotic, supernatural, or otherwise non-human life forms. These types of sexual preferences could be described as totally impractical as the chances of making love to such entities are arguably negligible. However, some might just be aroused by the fantasy - so does exophilia really exist?

Women Don't Like How Condoms Feel Any More Than Men Do

By Paul Joannides Psy.D. on November 25, 2015 As You Like It
Necessary but....Women speak out about condom use.

Why Are So Many Indian Arranged Marriages Successful?

Relinquishing difficult aspects of choice, deciding quickly, and starting the relationship with lower expectations may have upsides for longer-term marital outcomes.

Don’t Believe the Hype - Dad Bods Are Not Sexy

By Ryan Anderson on November 23, 2015 The Mating Game
Is the 'dad bod' really attractive? Have we really been lied to since, forever?

Can ‘Sexy’ Fitness Be Empowering to Women?

By Pirkko Markula Ph.D. on November 23, 2015 Fit Femininity
Women can now choose between many different fitness activities to feel more self-confident, strong, and empowered. Why would 'sexy' activities like pole dancing be considered particularly particularly liberating for women?

My Husband Is an Ineffective Father

"I can't take it anymore. I want to walk away."

The Dirty Little (Sex) Secret of Therapy

By Marty Klein PhD on November 22, 2015 Sexual Intelligence
Patients should be safe assuming that therapists understand sex as it actually is, don't believe discredited myths, and can discuss anything.

Why I Am No Longer a Sex-Addiction Therapist

Our evolving understanding of the complexities of human sexuality have revealed an increasing number of cracks in the foundational models of sex-addiction therapy.

Lifting the Covers: Sex with the Undercover Police

Has reporting over-simplified the predicament of undercover agents and their relationships?

Do people replace food with sex?

By Alexis Conason Psy.D. on November 19, 2015 Eating Mindfully
Subway's Jared Fogel argued that his diet made him engage in sex acts with minors. Can dieting really lead to compulsive sexual behaviors?

Teen Sexting vs. Child Pornography

The simple truth is teen sexting is relatively common — a fact that really shouldn’t surprise anyone. I mean, weren’t we all teenagers once upon a time, with raging hormones and bad ideas and weird thoughts about what is and isn’t appropriate sexual behavior?

3 Ways to Be Happy in Unrequited Love

By definition, an unreturned love is one-sided. But doubtless, the experience itself embodies two sides. On the upside, you’re enthralled, charmed, and captivated by the beloved. Your passion for them is exhilarating: an incomparable high. Regrettably, the downside of such ardor is every bit as intense—replete with agonizing feelings of loneliness, misery, and despair...

Why Is Your Relationship a Secret?

Historically, the closest a young woman could get to having power was to have sex with a man who had it. If the powerful man desires a woman privately, could he really deny publicly that she's the love of his life?

The Elephant in Sigmund Freud's Consulting Room

By Rebecca Coffey on November 17, 2015 The Bejeezus Out of Me
Imagine growing up gay in a household where your world-renowned father calls lesbianism a gateway to mental illness. And it is always, he said, caused by the father and curable by analysis. Now imagine that he analyzes you.

Male-Female Interactions: Don’t Get Your Signals Crossed

In any relationship the interaction between individuals is carried out through both words and actions. It is not only what is said but also the way it is said.

Why Are Kids Sexting?

By Leonard Sax M.D., Ph.D. on November 17, 2015 Sax on Sex
Why do girls and boys send sexy photos? The answers for girls are different from the answers for boys.

Gwen and Blake: Why Opposites Attract in Intense Situations

By Suzanne Lachmann Psy.D. on November 17, 2015 Me Before We
While Blake and Gwen are unique, their situation is not. A heightened, shared experience can bring people together against all odds.

Confronting Campus Sexual Violence

“Too often we work in silos,” said White, “with the researchers, practitioners, and policymakers on their own. We need to spend time talking with each other.”

Sexual Equality: Are You in the 1 Percent or the 99 Percent?

Everyone wants to have more or better sex, but some people find it easier than others. What's more, this is not often based on merit or virtue, but instead on factors such as looks and status, which are based largely on luck. Should we be more worried about this type of "sexual inequality"? Let's ask philosopher Patricia Marino to help us sort through these issues.

Do Bullies Want Love, Not War?

Psychologists in Canada have found that bullies experience greater opportunities for sex. Bullies are more likely to have dated, had sex, and to report numerous sexual partners.

Keeping Marriage Hot

By Lisa Thomas LMFT on November 15, 2015 Save Your Sex Life
Keeping sex hot over the years can be easy and fun.

Are Men Greedy Because They're Show-offs?

A team of economists from Cornell University have found that the amount of food we eat depends on the sex of our dining partner.

11 Questions to Find Out How Much Your Partner Turns You On

Studies on relationship satisfaction don’t always capture the true qualities that promote intimacy between partners, especially when it comes to sexuality. The real key, as recent research shows, may lie in a much more intense feeling called, for lack of a better word, “fascination.” This 11-item scale will put your fascination with your partner to the test.

Should Sex Work (Prostitution) Be Decriminalized?

By Michael Castleman M.A. on November 13, 2015 All About Sex
Amnesty International has provoked controversy by advocating the decriminalization of adult sex work.

Resilient Family Outcomes Through Polyaffectivity

The second in a series of three on resilience, this blog looks at how polyamorous families de-emphasize sexuality and focus instead on polyaffectivity -- the non-sexual connections among family members -- to sustain connections over time. Useful for blended monogamous families, the poly ability to flex with changing circumstances is key to the resilience of polyaffectivity

Protecting Your Kids (and Yourself) Online

Ideally, whether intended to protect kids or contain adults, parental control software will stop many online problems from happening. That said, these products do not guarantee smooth sailing. In reality, even the best software can’t stop everything. Plus, a persistent and tech-savvy user (of any age) can nearly always find ways to circumvent both the filtering and the acc

I'm Torn Between 2 Men

"I need help on deciding which guy to date."

The Joy of Shopping

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on November 11, 2015 A Sideways View
There is a lot of serious science involved in understanding how, when and why we shop because there is so much money involved